14 month old refuses to sleep for mummy.

chickywiggle

I came on here asking for help and just got accusations.

thanks for nothing.

Savvy_Sue

Will he nod off if the pair of you lie on your bed together? I only mean for daytime naps. It's what I sometimes used to resort to: "I know you're not tired, darling, but mummy is, so she is going to lie down for a cuddle with you in her bed."

SkintGypsy

Sorry Chicky, but it sounds very much like he thinks you are a soft touch. How long does he scream for if left?

duchy

I think you need to think hard about what Daddy does differently.

If he yells will Daddy leave it 5 mins before going back in whereas you are back in there like a shot by any chance ?

He's testing limits -He knows you'll come back and fuss over him.

Try leaving him for five minutes to settle back down before going back in-and then don't fuss over him just check he's not hurt himself-tuck him in -and say "Time to sleep now" and leave again. No cuddles not fussing over him-stay silent except for a firm quiet-"Time to sleep now". A few days and he'll get the idea.

Trouble is you're too much fun to have around so he wants MORE of you-don't worry.

As for Daddy tell him it's a few nights of screaming NOW or a few years of it if not sorted and ask him which he'd prefer

flower24

is he napping at all on the days he's at home with you?xx

mumslave

Looking at your post simply. He sleeps for daddy not for you. You dont believe you do anything different. Solution? Get tough. Leave him to it. Ask your OH what he would rather, your son being shattered and miserable from not getting enough sleep or the neighbours having to put up with a few nights of crying, followed by peace? You wont damage him for life and he wont grow up hating you because you left him to cry. He knows you are the softer one.

chickywiggle

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lilac_lady

One of my DGS's doesn't have a nap during the day but has accepted "mummy's quiet time" every afternoon. His mummy puts him in his cot with a few books and toys and then has half an hour's coffee time with a magazine or tv. He seems to accept that it's mummy who needs the rest! BTW, he's never fallen asleep, just cuddles his toys and looks at his books.

I had a child who was a very poor sleeper so you have my sympathy.

flower24

see if he's napping for so long so late in the day he won't want to go to bed at bed time. Could you poss try and keep him really busy all day so he doesn't have a nap at all? Then he'll be dropping asleep by bedtime? hugs hun xx

chickywiggle

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Fire_Fox

He's napping for his dad because you are doing something different (or have done in the past).

According to Jo the Supernanny, if you go back after fifteen or thirty minutes of crying then you are teaching your child that if they cry for long enough you will reappear. Her logic makes a lot of sense and her techniques do work like a charm - perhaps you could watch some of the old episodes on the free internet on demand services for inspiration?