14 month old refuses to sleep for mummy.

MrsBuble_2

Apologies OP but I think perhaps some of your 1st post was misleading.

You stated that he doesnt behave like this for your husband, just you.
So there must be some difference somewhere along the line, or your DS has somehow learn that his behaviour toward you is acceptable.

Is it possible for you to be involved/watching when your partner puts him to sleep for the night?
Can you get your partner to write out for a day what theyve done together, and try to follow that/match it in someway.

You wrote in your 1st post DH wont let him scream in case it wakes the neighbours..... Has he never screamed when your DH has been home at night, or does your DH simply make him stop?

It is perplexing, especially as his time seems equally split. How is he when he is with the childminder? Perhaps he is anxious in his new room. I know you said he has been in there a few weeks but maybe its a delayed reaction to that.

I dont people meant to say "you're too soft a parent" but from your first post it seemed very much like your DH simply wont accept fuss from your child, and he obviously knows and accepts this, whereas he is testing his boundaries with you?

chickywiggle

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Money_maker

We do it 'all wrong' according to our HV. Always had DD napping on the settee rather than in the cot. We originally did this to diferentiate between night time (cot) and daytime nap (settee). HV was not happy.

Mind you, came in handy when I broke my ankle and couldn't get upstairs with DD for a couple of months.

She's now 21 months. Will still nap on the settee, have TV on a boring station so I can get on with bits (though I usually nap myself). Loves jumping headfirst into the cot during the day but would hate being left there to doze.

How about seeing if he'll go to sleep on the settee. Boring tv required, no eye contact and convince him you are having a nap.

chickywiggle

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chickywiggle

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mumslave

I didnt say you were a soft touch, I said the softer one, which is obviously true if your husband is prepared to smack and you arent (not saying I agree with him there). You say there is no difference, I believe you, so its simply that you are mummy and daddy is daddy.

My son is 15 months old, like his sisters before him, he sleeps 7-7 and naps at around 9.30am for 30 minutes and 1pm-3pm without fail. However, they were all in a routine from birth (yup, from birth) which I think has helped account for no sleepless nights for them or me, past the age of 3 months old.

You say your son was the perfect baby, up until recently. So looking at whats changed...he is in a bed now yes? not a cot? And this was recent as in the last few days? In that case, he may well be upset about that, would you consider trying the cot again, and keeping the cot until his sleeping patterns are back to normal?

chickywiggle

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mumslave

If he is getting out of his bed it means you are not able to leave him for long though, is that right? Are you having to keep putting him back in when you are trying to get him to sleep? This is what I had in mind when I suggested adding the cot back in, at least if you do decide to leave him, you dont have to worry about constantly putting him back in bed.

chickywiggle

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mumslave

Well best of luck getting things sorted, babies are strange little things, he may just settle down on his own in the end.