Right Age Of Having A Baby?!

boltonangel

I KNOW IT'S A MATTER OF OPINION, BUT I'M INTERESTED TO KNOW WHAT OTHER MSEers SEE AS BEING THE BEST AGE TO START A FAMILY.....

Rikki

I don't think it comes down as much to age as to how you feel in your relationship. When you both feel ready to make the comitment to becoming parents.

skylight

There isn't a right age. Or right financial situation either!

Young Mums have more time/energy for babies.
Older Mums tend to have more money/patience for babies.

Swings and roundabouts.

It really depends on how you feel in yourself and your relationship.

Is this a general question or are you wondering if you are ready yet?

CGG

I was 36 when I had my only child. I didn't know what had hit me.
Yes, fiinancially, we had no great worries, but I can't keep up with my son. He's now 6 years old, and I feel kn@ckered!

boltonangel

Just A General Query.

I Already Have A 3 And Half Year Old, And I Was Only 18 When I Had Him, But Feel That Was The Right Time For Me.

We Were Discussing It At Work, And Just Thought I'd See What You Guys Think.

Becles

I was 21 and 23 when my two were born. I look much younger so I got away with having a go on the slide/swings/soft play etc, without anyone thinking I should act my age

iwanttosave_2

I was 15 when I had my first, I wasnt ready for him but I wasnt about to throw away my reponsabilities either. He is my best mistake ever and I really don't think I deserve him.

Anniek1969

I was 23 when I had my first 25 when I had my 2nd and 33 when I had my 3rd and I think I've got more patience with the 3rd one, but I think that's more down to experience. I know what to expect with my 3rd and when she's ill and things like that I know when to start worrying and see the doctor whereas with the first 2 I worried everytime they got the sniffles.

My SIL had her 3 before she was 22 and now the youngest is 16, she always said that when her kids were grown up she's still be young enough to have a life. They've all grown up now and all she does is watch tv all day and go to bingo at night. I'm glad I've got no.3 as she keeps me going, she's only 3 and I feel as young and active now as I did with the other 2.

Don't think there is a right time but I do think that you know when you're ready.

black-saturn

I was 24 when I had the first and 27 when I had the second and that was the right time for me. I think it's about what you want individually and nothing to do with it being the perfect time. If you waited till the perfect time no one would ever have a baby. I wouldnt have wanted to leave it any later because as someone else has pointed out it is very tiring. I don't think I could cope with all those sleepless nights now at 36. I'll probably get slated for this also but it isnt anything to do with being in the right relationship either. Single parents manage to raise and love children just as well as those in a relationship and if you were in a relationship you wouldnt suddenly abandon your children if that relationship broke up. Just don't leave it too long otherwise it might literally be too late.

wigginsmum

A friend of mine had her first at 19 when she married, chose to pop them out regularly afterwards (including a set of twins) and by the time she was 25, she had 6 kids under the age of 6. Dont know how she coped (fortunately her husband had a wellpaying job), but the family thrived, and she and her husband have now been married for 42 years.

sloppychops

I was 16 when i had my son and looking back i definetly wasnt ready for motherhood as i was still a child myself and really didnt have a clue what my life was going to be like.
I brought him up myself and think i did a good job although things were not always easy.He is 21 now and i dont regret having him so young.He has brought such love and joy into my life and its been great watching him grow up into a lovely caring and responsible young man.