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Michelin

jamespir wrote: »

it must be so easy to hack facebook and email accounts if you'r a women your the third this week


as for the silly comments hes probably just enjoying the attention

Not again......

It's easy - she knows his password - that's all you need or maybe like me it is always on as the home page.

System

jamespir wrote: »

it must be so easy to hack facebook and email accounts if you'r a women your the third this week


as for the silly comments hes probably just enjoying the attention

Ah here we go again, its her fault for finding out not her husbands for his inappropriate behaviour..:rolleyes:

I'm beginning to hate the internet for its detrimental effect on relationships..:mad:

jasmine33

GoldenJill wrote: »

It sounds like he's a bit lonely and has found facebook an easy way of communicating with people. Perhaps he is feeling a bit like 50 is old and I still have life in this ol' man - and connecting / socialising with younger people makes him feel a bit alive. 50 is young, it's the new 40! ;-) Perhaps he feels he just needs to let off steam a wee bit.

I would just speak to him about what he's been doing - just a general chat ie how was your night, what did you get up to kind of thing. If you feel left out perhaps you could join in too next time they all go out?

He might be pushing himself on them a wee bit - sounds like he's a wee bit starved for social company. I would leave it to the people he is contacting to detach themselves a bit. If you get involved on their behalf would you not look a little bit controlling and would he stop doing this if you mentioned it, or just simply change his password?


I'll ask him in the morning what sort of night he had but he could take it the wrong way and think I was checking up on him.. I would never let him know that I accessed his FB and I also wouldn't get involved with the people he is contacting. I just wish he would stop making a fool of himself.

I am on medication for arthritis and can only have less than a bottle of wine per week. Yes, I could swap to a non alcoholic drink but I really don't want to socialise with such a young age group. I'd be much happier with friends about our own age.

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Hi Jasmine, I know what you mean, different strokes for different folks, it must feel quite odd that he is doing this now after years of marriage of doing something different. Is the age group he socialises with all young? When we socialise in a big group the youngest is 23 and the oldest is 41 - perhaps you could go out for dinner and introduce some of your friends to some of the younger people, you might find that you enjoy their company regardess of age.

Just a thought... perhaps you could say you opened up FB and didn't realise it wasn't your account and went to the inbox and saw the messages... I know it's a wee whitey but perhaps could open the dialogue.

Hope it all goes well x

jasmine33

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Ah here we go again, its her fault for finding out not her husbands for his inappropriate behaviour..:rolleyes:

I'm beginning to hate the internet for its detrimental effect on relationships..:mad:

Thank you very much. My husband leaves emails to this young girl in a way that he has never spoken to me. His language and turn of phrase is so different to the usual way he speaks to me. He asks her what sort of day she's had and how her shopping trip went. He hardly remembers me and what kind of day I've had or how I'm feeling. We have tea at 6pm and after that he's in the sitting room on his laptop. He hardly ever speaks to me or the family, or reads the newspaper or watches the tv. Our normal family life just doesn't seem to happen nowadays. He sits staring like a zombie at his computer screen and if you ask him who's on Facebook he says he's only just gone on to it. It can't all be my fault. I am a hard working, self employed 50 year old who lives for her family. I am quiet , I suppose shy, of new situations but when you bring up a family and deal with all the traumas along the way, sometimes it's just nice to have a bit of peace.

jamespir

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Ah here we go again, its her fault for finding out not her husbands for his inappropriate behaviour..:rolleyes:

I'm beginning to hate the internet for its detrimental effect on relationships..:mad:

did i say that no i just said it must be so easy

jamespir

jasmine33 wrote: »

Thank you very much. My husband leaves emails to this young girl in a way that he has never spoken to me. His language and turn of phrase is so different to the usual way he speaks to me. He asks her what sort of day she's had and how her shopping trip went. He hardly remembers me and what kind of day I've had or how I'm feeling. We have tea at 6pm and after that he's in the sitting room on his laptop. He hardly ever speaks to me or the family, or reads the newspaper or watches the tv. Our normal family life just doesn't seem to happen nowadays. He sits staring like a zombie at his computer screen and if you ask him who's on Facebook he says he's only just gone on to it. It can't all be my fault. I am a hard working, self employed 50 year old who lives for her family. I am quiet , I suppose shy, of new situations but when you bring up a family and deal with all the traumas along the way, sometimes it's just nice to have a bit of peace.

you see im not ecusing his behaviour but

he basically having whats known a s a mid life crisis some men buy ferraris some men actually have affairs and some make new female friends and talk to them about stuff they ordinarly not talk to their wives about (which i suppose is like an affair but without the sex which some women find harder to deal with)

thats no reflection on you though
you just need to bring something into the relationship thats going to intice him away from the fresh new exciting world of facebook
what that is is between you and your husband
i hope you get it sorted out though

mumslave

Well he is being a wee bit daft isnt he...but I dont think he is doing anything wrong. I think this could be a good thing, if you could broach the subject with him somehow. He is obviously going through a bit of a phase and you are feeling insecure....time to pull together and work on your relationship. Could it be that he feels much the same as you? That you arent really interested in him etc, his day, his feelings? Maybe try view this as a bit of a heads up, for both of you.

dieselhead

I think I can see two sides to this and I think to resolve it there is going to have to be a bit of give and take.

Yes he is being silly emailing these girls however it sounds like he is trying to increase is social life and enjoy himself, and these are the only people who have invited him out. Perhaps he does have a bit of a 'crush' on one of these women but if he has invited you then he must realise that it is just a crush.

You say that you have suggested you go out for a meal together, and I am sure that will be lovely, but I don't think that is what he is craving, I think he wants a wider social circle. You say you don't like socialising with people younger than you, so perhaps you need to organise an evening out with some friends of your own age. If this isn't possible maybe you could start a new hobby together, where you will meet people.

blackpongo1

I personally think facebook should be banned its wrecked my life and im sure countless others