Sashybo's Random Waffles

sashybo

That's it mac, we just want her to know we're there for her but nothing anyone can do or say will make it better for her.

Did my shred level 2 again this morning, feeling slightly less kanckered by it. :j Still go bright red though - not a good look. :rotfl:

OH was very good yesterday and made the dinner, did the hoovering and the ironing. :T I put a couple of washes on and did the dishes but was pretty knackered.


Got a frantic call from my brother in the morning - one of my twin nieces managed to get superglue in her eye. :eek: My sister had to take her to A&E and they think it's not hit the eye itself but just stuck the eyelid together. She has to take her to the eye clinic today though. Poor wee girl, her eye is glued shut and they have to leave it until it wears away!:eek: So now she has an eye patch! I know it's cruel but :rotfl:@ the eye patch.


I managed to finish my twin sock monkeys though and am quite pleased with them. Still thinking about putting the girl's names on them but not sure yet. Did the eyes and mouths with felt and think they look ok.

euronorris

Oh Sashy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. It must be absolutely heartbreaking for her, and I can understand her not wanting to see anyone just yet. She probably hasn't even got her own head wrapped around it all and how she's feeling, so she needs some time to digest it all and find the light at the end of the tunnel for her to focus on.

That said, I know it's also really hard to see someone you love hurting so badly and not be able to comfort them. So, does she have favourite magazines? Chocolates? DVD's? etc that you all club together and send to her as a 'We're still here when you need us, and in the meantime, here's some treats for you' type thing?

Not sure if it's appropriate, but it's just an idea.

Hugs!

xxxx

MinniMe_2

just nipped over from PAD thread. MASSIVE hugs to you. Just be there when she needs you and maybe send a text saying you are here for her whenever she wants to talk - day or night.

Well done on the Shred - I think I am going to get it when I get paid!

sashybo

Hi euro and Minni, thanks for popping by. I completely understand my friend not being able to see anyone or deal with anything except how she's feeling but I would like to let her know we are all here for her if she needs us. Just not sure how to do it in an appropriate way and don't want to make it worse.

We are all so gutted for her and it's hard to think she must be feeling a million times worse than we are. I've been thinking about her everyday since I heard. It's the funeral later this week, going to be such a hard day for her when she should really be cuddling her new baby.

I'm not sure whether to send flowers or not? Really don't know what would be best.

Just one more back shift tonight and I'm off for 2 days. Might go and see my sister tomorrow and see my poor niece with her eye glued shut.

euronorris

Can you contact her OH or Mum, or another close relative and ask them if they know what she would like? ie, flowers, or would she prefer a donation to charity instead etc?

gilligansyle

Hi,

only just been reading about your friend, it must be hard to do what she wants, when you feel like you should be there for her. It's something that is rarely heard of these days and for that reason probably doesn't get spoken of except in hushed tones. I hope she is getting lots of support from the hospital etc. and things have changed since a friend of mine went through it twenty years ago.


Loving those twin monkeys

sashybo

Thanks euro, I contacted her sister who said flowers would be lovely and to send them to the church. So will be ordering those tomorrow, well today really as it's after 1am now.

While I was on a roll I decided to text my friend to tell her I was thinking about her and that we would be there when she needed or wanted to see us. She texted back to confirm that I knew the funeral arrangements which is good as confirms she wants us there and is communicating in some way.

Thanks gilli, yes it has been hard but I took a chance today and sent a text as thought that would be less intrusive for her. I hope she's getting the right support from the hospital but really don't know at this point.

Thanks, I think the twin monkeys are rather fab too with their big eyelashes. :rotfl: Hope the twins like them.

sashybo

Well I ordered some white roses today to be delivered to the church, splitting the cost between myself and two friends. Not looking forward to the funeral tomorrow, will be a very sad day.

Went to see my sister today and took the twin sock monkeys to the twins. They seemed to like them and kept cuddling and kissing them when they weren't throwing them or attempting to destroy them! :rotfl: My youngest nephew wanted his and had to promise to make an extra special one for his birthday. He contented himself with stealing the twins' monkeys. :rotfl:

Poor twin with her eye glued shut is acting as normal but keeps running into things as she can't judge distances. Her eye has opened a bit but is mostly stuck fast. Hope the poor soul doesn't need an op to get it open again - the eye clinic are worried that her eye will become lazy if it's shut too long.

Had a tiring day shopping with my mum, sister and the kids. The 3yo just doesn't listen to anyone and never does what he's told. I was ready to kill him by the end of the day. :whistle:

sashybo

The funeral was this morning and was so sad, the coffin was so tiny. My friend did really well throughout, was really brave and even went to the wake. We weren't expecting her to go but went on the off chance of seeing her and she came to sit with us for a bit. She had made up some cards with a picture of the baby for us as well, poor wee soul just looked like she was sleeping. Got the chance to give her a big hug but there wasn't anything I could say. The day must have been so hard for her.


Feeling quite washed out now, probably just from the emotion of it all. Back to work tomorrow but on early shift so will try and get an early night. Just feel so sad for my friend and her family.

OH came to the funeral with me but had to go back to work so think we will just be having a relaxing night after a hard day.

sashybo

Did my first early shift at work (6.30am :eek:), just 5 more to go and 1 late shift then I should have next weekend off. Have got an assessment tomorrow to make sure I've understood the training for my job role so not looking forward to it. _pale_ If I pass I'll go onto my full wage though so that's an incentive! :j

Made a coconut loaf to take to work tomorrow since they're obsessed with cakes - a bit of bribery can't go wrong. Bought myself some half price Ben & Jerry's from Morrisons to console myself with as well. :j

Bought some pig kidney and lamb liver for the cats on the way home from work. Had to cut it up to freeze it and was feeling quite ill while doing it - the pig kidneys smelled soo bad. _pale_ The cats were meowing like mad though so it obviously smelled good to them. Little mingers!

Took ages to get to sleep last night as kept thinking about the funeral and my friend's baby. We should have been at church for her baptism, not her burial.