Eager Elephant's Effective Everyday Excursion ...

Eager_Elephant

Forgot to mention how :money:I had been.

My Norton expired the other day and normally we are so busy we would renew and just add it to the credit card but of course I am trying to be much better at not using the credit card.

So i checked :money:and read the free computer security article and I have decided that we will use Windows Security which is free :T

I managed to remove Norton and install Windows Security and so far it all seems fine so that was £60 saved :j

Now just need to log on the computer and the net book and do the same to them.

pennywisepoundstupid

EE what a week your having, my DD has had her TV taken away until Monday for being a rude, stroppy defiant madam, wouldn't you think a week before going on holiday she would be behaving herself, honestly sometimes i could just give up where kids are concerned.

Hope you have a good day.

Eager_Elephant

Hi PWPS, Phew at least it is not just me with a stroppy DD - sometimes it feels like everyone elses child is perfect except mine!!

Friday night we played choc bingo - total spend was about £15 which included entry and refreshments, would have been more but relative paid for some. We had two wins though, DD won a little egg and I won some choc chicks :T.
We had a really good time but DH suffered for it the next day as the noise was quite bad at times and this has increased his head pain :mad:

Saturday - DS had his hair cut - £10, then we had to get him some new trainers as the backs had gone - £20. He is 15 and a size 10 :eek:
Also had to get lamb food - that was another £22 :eek:
Then we went to see my friend who lives an hour away - they are going through an awful time at the moment so I took Easter Eggs and flowers :A. Had a great chat and hoping to get rid of a chicken hut over Easter as I managed to persuade them to keep chickens :T
Then mid afternoon we went over to the University to the Institute of Astronomy where they had an open afternoon - best part was the Horrible Planets demo which was basically loads of experiments .
Maybe this is not for DS, everyone was so geeky and awkward and that is not DS at all or maybe it was just me thinking that :rotfl:
Had Mcdonalds for lunch/tea so that was about £20 but we did win some free food :T
Got home about 8pm and DH and DD decide they need to have tea as they had not eaten since 3pm so had to pop to Tesco to get food so then DH cooked that when we got in :eek:which was cheaper then getting a takeaway which DH wanted to do.

Very narked when we got home, relative had stayed at home and I told him we would not be back until late but when DH asked if he had his tea he said no :mad:. I asked him why not he said he was busy watching the TV but I don't know if he forgot or was doing it to prove a point as we had gone out and not taken him :mad: so DH cooked him a plate of chips as well.
He did this before when we went out so in future we have agreed not to ask when we get in and at the end of the day he is a grown man so can do what he likes with his meals!!

Sunday was an odd day - who thought to put the clocks forward :rotfl:. We just ran an hour late all day which is fine for a Sunday but did not bode well for a Monday. Apart from a leisurely breakfast we spent the day up the field clearing bramble - as a result we all look like we have either been self harming or shooting up :rotfl:

Yesterday was work, took lunch and went to the shop when I was full so I brought no extras, only what I needed :T.
Last night we picked up 14 meat birds - they are a week old but in 4 months they will be fully grown and we will have chicken to eat :T
I have not eaten chicken for nearly 20 years so this will be interesting. Having been a vegetarian for this long I realised a couple of years ago that my argument about cruelty does not ring true when it comes to our own livestock as we know them from the day they are born until the day they are slaughtered so I have eaten turkey and lamb and now I get to try chicken plus we are hoping to get some pigs this year also.
However I still refuse to eat any other meat brought into the home or when eating out - god I am confusing some time:rotfl:

Dh still wanting to spend money and has asked to upgrade the sky box :eek:. Might not sound too bad but this is the sky box from our other house which we only watch once a month at most :mad:. I told him that he can't keep spending money if he wants to fulfil his dream - hopefully he understands or maybe he doesn't.

I asked DH why he keeps spending money and committing to things and he said it is his depression - when he is low, he spends to cheer himself up and I know he is having a hard time lately. He said he thinks he might have had a breakdown which is why he can't think straight - I think it is his head issue:eek:.

Also had a chat about his debts last night and I am thinking that he needs a DMP for his debts as they are not affordable in the grand scheme of things - he's worried about buying a farm in the future - I asked how we would pay off all the debt and get a deposit in the next 6 years anyway - hopefully he took it in.
Firstly I need to take him off a joint account that only I use as being an approved intermediary for DRO's I am not allowed a bad credit history but I am not sure about husbands so will need to check this out

Eager_Elephant

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Dh still wanting to spend money and has asked to upgrade the sky box :eek:. Might not sound too bad but this is the sky box from our other house which we only watch once a month at most :mad:. I told him that he can't keep spending money if he wants to fulfil his dream - hopefully he understands or maybe he doesn't.

I asked DH why he keeps spending money and committing to things and he said it is his depression - when he is low, he spends to cheer himself up and I know he is having a hard time lately. He said he thinks he might have had a breakdown which is why he can't think straight - I think it is his head issue:eek:.

I keep thinking back to when Taxi posted that my DH sounded very similar to her son who has bi-polar.

At the moment DH is very down and I thought it was to do with work but he went to bed tonight at 8pm as he feels exhausted - he says it is not tiredness but something else.

Not sure if he is coming down with some illness or whether this is just his depression and he has not managed the clocks going forward very well. I suggested going to bed early to see if this helped - if it doesn't we know he is ill and will have to go to the doctor.

So I mentioned about the sky box upgrade and I thought it had all blown over - oh no :eek:

So the reason for the whole upgrade thing is because when we visited my friend her husband buys hard drive cases and parts and then makes them up to sell on, he also has a mate who sells upgardes for sky boxes. He has offered to upgrade ours but DH can;t bear this and instead has it in his head that he should upgrade ours himself. And we all know what happens when DH gets something in his head don't we....

Yup he has ordered the blinking hard drive for the upgrade :mad:

I logged in the main computer tonight to send emails from an Outlook account and noticed on his account he had a dispatch note from ebay so when he came upstairs I asked him about it.
He confessed it was the hard drive and when I asked why he had brought it when I had said he could not afford it he admitted that he had it in his head to buy it to upgrade the sky and once he had the idea he could not let it go.

The next day he said he really regretted it but by then it was too late.

I can't stand the deceit :mad:, he hasn't lied as such as I never asked if he had brought it but surely he knew he didn't have the money for it.

He says he will sell some car stereos he has to make up the money - I will believe this when I see it :mad:

He says he has also changed the password on his Paypal account so he can't access it - I asked him how that would help as he knew the password anyway :rotfl:, he says it is to do with the login details on his phone.

So do I treat him like a child and change his ebay passwords which I have done in the past and then he opens a new account or/and I have given him the new password as I thought he could be trusted or do I just let him get on with it?

I'm really trying to learn from the Relate counselling we had a few years ago about parent/child relationships and trying to steer away from it but it is difficult when he is ill as I need to help him manage paying his bills etc but then how can I do that if he spends money he doesn't have???

Eager_Elephant

So Tuesday I worked, don't think I spent any money as I don't have any to spend!!!

Wednesday I helped out at my daughters schools cross country race for the morning. Also took some books to the shop owner so she has a fruit box full for herself and 2 boxes to give to the mobile library van. So no money spent :money:

Today I had my approved food order and my Sainsburys order - I am determined to cut bck on our food bill.

The only thing I had not thought about was where to store it all :rotfl:. All the kitchen cupboards are full and the one cupboard downstairs we have is in relatives room and is full of his CD's etc sp at the moment some of the stuff is sitting in a box in the kitchen.

DH is very impressed about what I got and for how little.

I am trying to only cook meals which take less than 30 minutes to get on the table - I am fed up of the whole evening being spent cooking.
Tonight I did cous cous served with a 3 bean salad - I adapated the recipe to cook the beans in a tomato sauce so we could have it hot. I misjudged the measurements and we had loads each. Relative had never had cous cous before and said he found it dry - well I can assure you with the sauce I did it was certainly not dry. I think he meant he did not like it - well he better like it as we have 40 packets of flavoured cous cous and 8 packets of plain :rotfl:

Today is pay day but I have not even looked at my bank account.

Last day at work for 2 weeks tomorrow - Woo Hoo!!!

Eager_Elephant

I am on annual leave this week and next so I have all the time in the world to do things.

I have made it my personal challenge for the week to use up as many eggs as possible - I have loads of goose eggs, turkey eggs and chicken eggs.

And not going to work means the 4 dozen I sell each week is not going to happen so that is extra to use.

Tomorrow I will put some outside to sell - people do know we sell them and they usually knock but this will be for the others who are not sure when we have extra.

On Saturday I made 36 fairy cakes and a tray of chocolate crunch, Sunday I made Yorkshires for tea, Monday night I did quiche for tea (x 2) and I have an egg every morning on toast so I have used quite a few but I have loads more to go :rotfl:

I am hoping to cook more quiches and cakes and freeze them later this week.

DH is suffering from severe depression at the moment and I am genuinely worried about him - he has written out his resignation and will be handing it in when he is at work tomorrow.
He has not been at work so far this week as his head pain has been really bad and he has been in bed dosed up with gabapentin.

He is convinced he will have a job after 4 weeks but I raised the question of what would happen if he didn't and he said he was not sure. Well of course he is not - it will be me who makes up the difference in the bills :mad: so surely I should have some say in it.

Anyway I mentioned before about him possibly doing a self-DMP and I told him he would need to open a new bank account as he has 4 debts to Barclays - his usual bank.
He did not ask me who to go with and on Saturday he came down to tell me he had opened an account with Lloyds - I told him that they were no good as he has a debt to Halifax. He then stormed off saying that he could not do anything right etc :mad:
He has now tried to open an account with HSBC so hopefully we will hear about that this week and then we can move his wages across and stop the payments to credit cards which is about £500+ (nearly half his wages :eek:)

I am sure there is something wrong with the way his brain works - you only have to mention something to him as it being a possibility or might happen in the future and he takes that to mean he can do it straight away :eek:.
Good job a mortgage is not easy to come by otherwise I fear he might have brought at least 6 properties by now :rotfl:

Have been out with my friend today - she paid for bowling and I paid for the food - the kids had a great time.

Tomorrow will be more fun with housework :rotfl:

Eager_Elephant

Oh My God - I feel so sick _pale_

DH has gone off to work with his resignation letter :mad:.

As if that was not bad enough I decided to check his ebay account as he is selling something on there that we had mentioned selling but had not yet agreed to (another example of mentioning something means do it :eek:) and I wanted to see what he wrote about it.

Anyway the first page that comes up are the items you are bidding on :mad:, he is bidding on turkeys eggs (even though we have enough of our own to breed from) and another hard drive :mad:

So then I checked his buying history and yup he has won an auction for some other turkey eggs - £22 :eek:

So I checked his Paypal to see how he paid and he has paid for them from the business account which has no money in bar enough to cover the monthly fees etc.
The sneaky thing about this is that the card was not registered on there before so he has deliberately added it to pay for the eggs as he had no money in his own account. :eek:

He had no money in his own account which is why I had to pay for acupuncture for him :mad: and then he wastes what little money there is on turkey eggs.

I am so annoyed (as you can probably tell). I think I will move back properly into our other house and he can do whatever he wants here. I am fed up of him and still am not sure if it is depression which makes him buy as he says he buys to cheer himself up or whether he does not like the fact he has no money and so spends because he 'is a grown up and can decide what to spend his money on :mad:'

God I am literally shaking with anger :eek:

Lets see what today brings - off to do some housework and will then be going to see my friend as her son's birthday present had not arrived when I saw them yesterday.

Also need to go to Tesco to get fruit boxes ready to sort my books out and also to pop to a lovely cheap charity shop for a quiche/flan dish.

beanielou

:eek: is all.
Sorry have no idea what to say.

Housework*Fairy

I've just read the last page of your diary (I shall read through the rest) as you have been so supportive of me, and I just want to say that I really do feel for you that it only seems to be you on board and DH is making things even more difficult for you; he seems quite an impulsive person. It must feel like you are wading through treacle x

beanielou

Did he actually do it then?