Buffy Cracks the Egg Diary 2010

Buffythedebtslayer

I was thinking about Bristol Katsu, I have loved everyone of the meets so far. The friends I have made on DC have absolutely meant the world to me.
Must go for my walk now
xxx

katsu

I'll go to Mr A for mum's shopping then, get my healthy exercise in too.

ziggles50

Hi Buffy i totally feel you.
I got an invite to queen's tea party and had a HUGE panic about cost involved in getting there, dressed etc. so sent the invite back to say not coming!!!!:eek::eek: I'm too poor to get properly dressed and i don't want to go with all these people who have everything i want.
I'm going down south for a week and i know it will be soul destroying riding in my cousin's/friends' cars, and staying in their flat, and listening to their life's woes (both single but enough money to support themsleves and not in stupid debt). It can be hard going but i love these people and apparently it's 'good to get out sometimes' even if it sets me back on the MSE thing .
Do your best to get out even if it will include people who don't understand your situation. But remember those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter!
Enjoy your night in. I'm off to pack my pitiful country clothes for my visit (by bus to save more $$$ )to the sophisticated south...

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou wrote: »

Can see where you are coming from.
OK I have the house(at the mo), DS, blah blah but all my friends are in couples and have their own lives at night & at weekends.
I can never afford to do anything anyway & never have enough spoons top do anything anyway.xxxxx

katsu wrote: »

Buffy - as we grow up and our life evolves our friends change. My friends with kids have less to do with us as we are childless. We just don't have the things in common.

ziggles50 wrote: »

Hi Buffy i totally feel you.
I got an invite to queen's tea party and had a HUGE panic about cost involved in getting there, dressed etc. so sent the invite back to say not coming!!!!:eek::eek: I'm too poor to get properly dressed and i don't want to go with all these people who have everything i want.
I'm going down south for a week and i know it will be soul destroying riding in my cousin's/friends' cars, and staying in their flat, and listening to their life's woes (both single but enough money to support themsleves and not in stupid debt). It can be hard going but i love these people and apparently it's 'good to get out sometimes' even if it sets me back on the MSE thing .
Do your best to get out even if it will include people who don't understand your situation. But remember those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter!
Enjoy your night in. I'm off to pack my pitiful country clothes for my visit (by bus to save more $$$ )to the sophisticated south...

Oh God do you know how much better you have all made me feel. I just can't do it, not everytime. Last time I went to a party like this I had a miserable time, so why should I go through it again my weekends are precious. Not to mention I have 40 quid to last me till pay day.............

I promise I will be more positive. just let me get through the next week at work.

xxx

katsu

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Last time I went to a party like this I had a miserable time, so why should I go through it again my weekends are precious

I let myself off doing things I'd hate... sometimes. Sometimes it is right to make the effort, but it is too cruel to yourself to do it always.

Big hugs.

LouiseJ

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I was thinking about Bristol Katsu, I have loved everyone of the meets so far. The friends I have made on DC have absolutely meant the world to me.
Must go for my walk now
xxx

:kisses3: we have had a smashing time havent we:beer:

Get yourself to Bristol, all life enriching opportunities these meets......and a chance to get a bit sozzled too:D

I think there is one in York too but I am away on hols when that one is on:(

hypno06

katsu wrote: »

I let myself off doing things I'd hate... sometimes. Sometimes it is right to make the effort, but it is too cruel to yourself to do it always.

Big hugs.

That is absolutely the right thing to do - you are only turning it into a negative if you choose to.

If you choose to say, actually I am not going because I don't want to, then it is a very positive thing.

Hope you are feeling a bit better today x

Pooky

Buffy, next time one of those parties/situations comes up, don't be negative about it - don't say "I don't want to go because of xyz", but turn it round and be positive about what you are going to do...."Whilst they're all at the party I can spend a guilt free evening doing some marking which will make my working life easier"

Positive thinking can sound very cheesy until you realise that it works.

It's the only thing that gets me through each day at times but it's a must..when I wake up I try and think of something positive about the day that outweighs the crappy bits that I appreciate have to happen.

elliemoo

Buffy hope you have a good day today.

Buffythedebtslayer

hypno06 wrote: »

That is absolutely the right thing to do - you are only turning it into a negative if you choose to.

If you choose to say, actually I am not going because I don't want to, then it is a very positive thing.

Hope you are feeling a bit better today x

thanks Hypno xxx

Pooky wrote: »

Buffy, next time one of those parties/situations comes up, don't be negative about it - don't say "I don't want to go because of xyz", but turn it round and be positive about what you are going to do...."Whilst they're all at the party I can spend a guilt free evening doing some marking which will make my working life easier"

Positive thinking can sound very cheesy until you realise that it works.

It's the only thing that gets me through each day at times but it's a must..when I wake up I try and think of something positive about the day that outweighs the crappy bits that I appreciate have to happen.

Thanks Pooky xxx

I have to say I have woken up this morning feeling SO much better after not going out yesterday, I did feel quite guilty yesterday, she is my best mate after all but actually it is just not my thing and I had a good night last night, slept for eight hours (unheard of),got up this morning did 45 minutes of fly ladying and have only one (ok large) hotspot left, sorted clothes for the week, marking is ready to go on the bed with series four of charmed to watch. sounds all good to me. And I am currently eating a bacon sandwich:T

When I think about "my life" it is actually pretty good, most of the time if I am miserable it is because I am comparing myself to other people or especially in the case of a couple of my friends who always say something along the lines of you'll meet someone some day etc.... and the guy that gives me a lift to work God he is so negative on my behalf. The thing with my sister is a big source of misery - I need to figure out a way to deal with that.

Its very odd how doing what you want (which I suspect not many of us do very often) can really make you feel so much stronger?

very strange but good at the same time

xxxx