Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

sallyx

Yes he is V, he will be sleeping downstairs on the sofabed. ...tbh I have no idea what he's thinking (or not thinking in his mind) Ive said in no uncertain terms about him finding his own place, having his own money, the fact we need to plan holidays and childcare individually. We have barely spoken just a quick conversation before I hand over to DD in the last 2 weeks but yet I sent him a spreadsheet yesterday so that he could do HIS own budget and he sent mail back saying hope you have a good day, miss you both. This is just typical behaviour of him, I find he's cheated, say we will work it out, tell him its over and then he ends all contact with said person and trys to weedle his way back in when he realises that he has no-one.

I want to be his friend and remain in contact and I care about what happens to him BUT Im not in love with him anymore...just the dream that was.

This weekend will be incredibly difficult but I have to hang in there

Thank you all for your support and wise words, I know I would have ended up in the nuthouse without you all xx

postingalwaysposting

Sally, would it be worth you writing your feelings/needs down either on paper or printed from the pc. He could then see and read and have in black and white the 'truth' he seems to be brushing aside. You can include practical things like access/holidays/visits/money etc etc and you feelings ie friend not partner. It sounds like no matter what you say to him he won't listen, or he is chosing not to listen. Maybe this will get through to him a bit more. Does his family know whats happened? Are they not helping him 'come to terms' with the seperation?

sallyx

good idea pap

His family are as useful as a chocolate teapot...this is where a lot of his problems stem for. TBH they couldn't give a rats !!!! about him, which you would think would make him want to be with us more..its the opposite, he wants to emulate what he knows!

I will def write him a letter that he can take away and read

sammy115

Sally, now its my turn to miss you....am desperately worried about you and would love to live nearer to you, i know I keep saying it. Stay strong..you are doing great. These days are going to be hard but you are doing okay.

Again, another one available at 2am should you need it. Sometimes these nights are long and lonely....

sallyx

Thanks Sammy hun, all of your support really does mean EVERYTHING...

Pooky

It might be worth sending him the letter/email so he's read it before he comes at the weekend....would leave him in no doubt as to what's going on and although it would be hard to deal with all the emotional stuff this weekend, it might be easier than dragging it out.

Oh and much as I like you - don't call me at 2am :rotfl:

Stay strong lovey x

redsquirrel80

The letter is a good idea, much easier to get everything down calmly in writing than saying it. You know we'll all be thinking about you this weekend xx

Shoe_Gal

Hope the weekend is not too much of an ordeal, thinking of you :A

sallyx

Thanks SG...will keep you posted, at least I am at work all day tomorrow and he is going Sunday lunchtime

Bunnyinthelights

Sall-I'm around all weekend (even 2 am)
Call me if you need to talk or even if you just want to gossip.