am i being "mardy" ?

aliasojo

Curious_George wrote: »

she could have, but why should she have?
what difference does it make?
if you have someone who is gay in the family its perfectly normal to talk about the fact they might have a new boy/girlfriend... just like you would a straight member of the family!
you dont have to whisper it.. or keep it a secret :rolleyes:
you are allowed to talk about them, argue with them even fall out with them and it not be because your a homophobic


as i read the first post i only see the OP saying the sister is coming round with her new girlfriend, she has only been with this lady x amount of time and i dont want her introuduced as family when i know full well she wont be around by new year... she didnt say " my OHs sister is raving stereotypical lemon in dungarees and i dont much like it around my kids"
!!!!!! sake... the sex thing doesnt matter! its a few of you picking up on that and thinking its the cause of any upset NOT the OP

:T Completely agree.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

bestpud wrote: »

I have to say it didn't come across like that at all but hopefully you have gained something from this thread, despite the differing interpretations.

If you've had a reasonable relationship with her before, maybe they will take it on board if you have a chat about the aunty bit? How about asking them out for a meal/drink and clearing the air?

It seems the lack of understanding on this thread is happening in RL within your family too...

Im sorry if my post read wrong bestpud - at lot of the time i reply on my mobile so it is difficult for me to write long replys and for some reason if i try and re-read my post it deletes the whole thing so i generally dont. I realise it my have been taken the wrong way too in the family and i will try and sort it but after speaking to OH he said he isnt bothered so im stuck in the middle

Gingham_Ribbon

OH's sis has had 8 new partners this year. I just want her to be settled before introducing them to DD - I dont want DD to get attached to one of them only for OH's sis to move on and DD will never see that person again.

Absoultely and completely fair enough. I wouldn't put up with pressure for my kids to call her 'auntie' either. Until they're living together or have been together longer than a few short weeks, she is NOT their auntie.

iamana1ias

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

Absoultely and completely fair enough. I wouldn't put up with pressure for my kids to call her 'auntie' either. Until they're living together or have been together longer than a few short weeks, she is NOT their auntie.

What do lesbians do on their 2nd date?




Move in together

LisaLou1982

Wow what a to do!

For my 2p worth.... I agree with you OP, i think that it is entirely reasonable to ask a family member to come round the day before to introduce their partner. My point on this being that your daughter wont have a stranger at their party who they will definitely be too excited to talk to, and for you to have a chance to get to know them properly rather than being distracted.

I always end up fussing around when people come to my house, so having an unknown guest come when i couldnt entertain properly and speak to them would be my idea of hell.

On the "Aunt" thing - Weve never used to terms Aunt or Uncle in our family, although that said, i wouldnt want someone who i didnt know being introduced as "aunt/uncle" whoever unless they were a long term partner/married.