Cross-stitch cafe 2010

chickywiggle

Dorastar wrote: »

Chicky - he could say he has a nasty case of summat itchy and needs the suit sending down as he doesn't want to spread it to anyone else - am SURE they would find a way to send it then :rotfl:

My brother has the same weird problem - I go down to see him in London and he says they might get up to see us but it is hard with two children - as I'm sat there with my two having driven down on my own with them cos dh is working! Would rather he said he really can't be bothered!

lol thats a good idea. none of then even came down for DSs birthday - they posted his stuff (cause sis-in-law can do it free through work).

that sounds sooo similar!! yet when his sister was going thro a rough patch a while ago she rang us half way here to TELL US she was coming to stay,

dreading wedding + 3month baby as he WILL be drunk from the stag do (which knowing them will be a week b4 and he'll be summoned too and prob cost £100) drunk night before and drunk on wedding day.

you tell me what i am supposed to do with a 3 month old and an almost 3 yr old on my own while he "ushers".

Just told DH it was gonna cost us nearly a grand by time wedding was over........ he didn't believe me so I broke it down for him:

train fare for you (lets say x 3) -@ £40 a time = £120.
spends while you are up there (lets say x 3) - @ £50 a time = £150
train fare for me, you and kids to come to wedding - @ £64 = £64 (can use railcard for that journey)
Hotel for 3 nights (minimum) - assuming we can stay in the travellodge in August - @ £75 a night = £225
Food for 2 days - £100 (minimum)
your beer money for wedding day/ night before wedding - £60 minimum
new shoes for you for wedding - £30?
clothes for DS and baby (assuming they are allowed something new) - £20
taxi fares - £20

and i guess i'll try and fit into whatever i can find in my wardrobe - perhaps I'll be allowed new shoes.

Total: £789

he doesn't know if we will be expected to pay for suit - I'm going for a yes so add £100 for that if being made professionally
and knowing his family we'll have to pay for our own meal on wedding day too.

do you think that'll get the message home??

Bella79

Hi all,

Wow thankyou for the warm welcome !, could i ask all you stitchers a question, when u have a chart where nearly every other stitch is a diff colour thread what do you do ?, rethread the same needle all the time ? or use a few needles, if so how do you oraganis this ?

Im currently still stitching a wedding sampler for me and my dh which i started in 06 whoops lol

*Louise*

chickywiggle wrote: »

OHHHHHHHHHHHH I am soooooooooo hacked off!!!!!!!!!!!!!

we have Christmas at end of month and a baby due on 1st May and DH has just been summoned to cumbria ASAP to get measured for a suit for his sisters wedding in AUGUST!!!!!!!!

!!!!!! what planet do they live on?????

It is gonna cost a good £50-£70 for him to go up - can he not get measured here and send sizes up???? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

they honestly believe the world revolves around them. will any of them pop down here with christmas pressies (they all drive we don't) - noooo cause that would cost money!!!!

I AM FUMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hubby is now refusing to talk to me cause i asked him where he would like me to magic money from. we are short bill money this month cause he chose to spend £150 on 3 nights out in the space of 4 days 2 weeks ago and can't see the harm in it.

Oh jeez, I feel your pain! What is it with some (not all) people that they think their wedding is the biggest event in the world and they can summon everyone to do their bidding when they want?

What's the odds on your hubby being able to stand his ground and say he can't possibly make it and he will send the measurements?

My brother is getting married in Feb, my sis is a bridesmaid but because his fiance couldn't wait 1 day for my sis to get her measurements to her she went ahead and ordered the wedding and bridesmaid dresses minus my sisters - now she has been asked to pay £40 for delivery which she wasn't expecting...on top of the shoes, coverup, hairdresser etc. She said that he can whistle for it, he owes her money anyway :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

23rdspiral wrote: »

:rotfl: um, i might have made a mistake, i'm dyslexic and names are one of my 'issues' - it might have been a girls name or a boys name it's one of those that is both. thinking about it it was probably a girl. oopsie.:o

LOL fair enough :rotfl:

Bella79 wrote: »

Hi all,

Wow thankyou for the warm welcome !, could i ask all you stitchers a question, when u have a chart where nearly every other stitch is a diff colour thread what do you do ?, rethread the same needle all the time ? or use a few needles, if so how do you oraganis this ?

Depends how big the gap is between the stitching - if it isn't too far (and it's not dark thread on white fabric) I will run across the back to the next stitch. If the different stitches are quite far apart then ou would probably be better threading up needles first - you can buy a thread organiser which you can 'park' the threaded needles in

chickywiggle

families eh *louise*

am hoping now hes seen the amount it'll cost from beginning to end he'll realise! but won't hold my breath.

Worse thing is OUR wedding we held where THEY live (purly cause i like the scenery) so it cost them sweet FA to attend other then about £60 hotel for the night (the place we got married in) as it was a tiny bit too far out for them to travel home after it.
His mum made my dress (which yes did save me money - but the fabric was bought as her birthday pressie to me - she OFFERED to do the dress tho and would have been offended if i'd said no)

Part of me wishes I'd made them come to me!!!!!! but i know they'd not have come or winged constantly at me.

Another thing that annoyed me is they've made NOOO mention of my DS being any part of the wedding despite us having their son as a ring bearer and his other neice and nephew as bridesmaid/ ring bearer.

sorry for tonights :mad::mad::mad: i am just sooo fed up.

Mags_cat

We're here for however you all feel.

Bad or good.

We're listening. We may not be able to *help*. but we can listen.

craftygranny

OOOOOhhhh chicky what a predicament . My oh has a family like that they think the whole world revolves around them. my kids get no cards presents or visits and we're expected to pay top dollar for stuff for all his family and deliver it . I put my foot down and told the whole money grabbing bunch of them where they could go and they only need invite him to anything.They don't invite him though in case i decide to go too. They wish hell would freeze over first.

I told them long ago i'm not getting into debt to visit/buy luxuries for them when they complain they can't afford the mortage but spend 250 quid each week going out to dinner etc cos their friends expect it. But then according to them i'm a tight ar*** loudmouth from barnsley. Err yep and proud of it lol. I've apparantly dragged him down to my level we have 5 kids grown up now and no real debts . They all owe tens of thousands on credit cards so thanks but i think i prefer to be me .

Not much help i know but gave me a good laugh remembering their faces when i told them. :rotfl:

chickywiggle wrote: »

families eh *louise*

am hoping now hes seen the amount it'll cost from beginning to end he'll realise! but won't hold my breath.

Worse thing is OUR wedding we held where THEY live (purly cause i like the scenery) so it cost them sweet FA to attend other then about £60 hotel for the night (the place we got married in) as it was a tiny bit too far out for them to travel home after it.
His mum made my dress (which yes did save me money - but the fabric was bought as her birthday pressie to me - she OFFERED to do the dress tho and would have been offended if i'd said no)

Part of me wishes I'd made them come to me!!!!!! but i know they'd not have come or winged constantly at me.

Another thing that annoyed me is they've made NOOO mention of my DS being any part of the wedding despite us having their son as a ring bearer and his other neice and nephew as bridesmaid/ ring bearer.

sorry for tonights :mad::mad::mad: i am just sooo fed up.

Mags_cat

There are times when you have to think :

Who's important? (The answer is generally : me and any kids involved)

Who actually matters? (The answer's the same)

What matters? Being happy.

Can we get to *happy*? (The answer is generally, yes we can...it might be bloody hard, but we can do it)

Do what matters.

Elle1267

I feel for you chicky. I'm not speaking to half of my mums side of the family. I asked two of my cousins to be bridesmaids and they said yes but then bailed out at the very last minute saying they couldn't afford to come. I find out then that one of them went to see dancing on ice the weekend of the wedding and the other one goes on holiday to Egypt not to mention that they post pics of them clubbing nearly every single weekend from when I asked them which was a good six months before. Id have preferred it if they just said no in the first place. I would have understood if they genuinely couldn't afford it. We always used to go up to visit my mums family every year but they never come down and see us. One time my cousin did come down to see friends who were in a town just a few miles away but she didn't even stop by to visit us what's up with that?

You can't pick your family but you can choose your friends. Friends will always be there for you. X

kezbabybabe

23rdspiral wrote: »

OK, so i'll email in the morning with the link... first page or last?:rotfl: i'll pop back on before doing so in case anyone else wants to contribute. after they've seen this discussion they'll probably think we're all a bunch of loonies and disregard anything we have to say anyway! :rotfl:
(or they'll see we are reasoned and think things through and are ideal participants on product review pannels! :rotfl: humm, maybe not.)

I suggest giving him the link to the first post which mentions the new mag, so that they don't have to read everything that's not relevant.

Bella79 wrote: »

Hi all,

Wow thankyou for the warm welcome !, could i ask all you stitchers a question, when u have a chart where nearly every other stitch is a diff colour thread what do you do ?, rethread the same needle all the time ? or use a few needles, if so how do you oraganis this ?

Im currently still stitching a wedding sampler for me and my dh which i started in 06 whoops lol

Like Louise says if it's not too far away then stitck with the same thread. I usually stick with 2 or 3 aquares away.

Or you can get a thread/needle organiser. I have this one below and it's very handy particularly were you need to change colour a lot.
http://www.sewandso.co.uk/ran573-0.html (at the bottom)

Chicky: Sorry to hear your family trouble. Trouble with being money saving people is that we are all too aware of how much everything costs and those that aren't don't appreciate what we are trying to do. Hopefully your hubby will put his foot down, because with another one on the way money's even more important for the family.

*hugs* to you.

maria_and_the_imps

chicky hugs to you , i also have a husband who thinks there is a money tree in the garden and with 3 kids he doesnt realise how hard you have to make the money streach, also he will never tell his family no so big hugs to you
xxxx