MSE Parents Club Part 9

ManOnTheMoon

Glamazon wrote: »

I would be having serious words with the senior partner about the comments in bold :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

I started on reception @ 20 & was always referred to as this (everyone else was over 40) - in the end I flipped. When I was on reception talking to a patient and one of the other receptionists who was nearing retirement diidnt like the way I was talking and quite openly told me so. The next patient said 'Oh that told you' I was so embarrassed so I took her to one side & told her that in future if she had something to say she should do it away from the desk. the biatch slapped me on the arm & told me not to be a pathetic child.

After going to the practice manager & partners she was disciplined - I was the one laughing though cos after 18months I was Assistant Manager and she retired!

On the other hand I worked with an Indian GP who wasnt a partner so I was his boss and he hated it because I'm female & only 26, he wouldnt use my name (I was va PM by this time) and referred to me as 'her', 'she' or 'you' - I handed my notice in and tried to start a disciplinary BUT the partners of this place (also Indian) said it was part of their culture not to use first names. My response being 'We are in the UK not India'

Often the partners dont know whats going on so I would suggest a quiet word, I know you say Lucy is shy but if she gets on well with one of the GP's it might be worth her telling them that she is thinking of leaving & explain her reasons why.

Moving practices would just involve looking for jobs in other practices - if she's done reception then she could apply for reception in hospitals, clinics, wards etc as she would have all the skills. Google nhs jobs to see whats available in the area.

working on reception is very rewarding but I know there are lots of horrible GP's & PM's about unfortunately - probably the reason why I am going back to working for the PCT!!!!

She won't have words that's the problem.

She is writing up her resignation now and says she will include her reasons why and leave nothing out as she has nothing to lose.

So this 'young un' name is not a new thing? It baffles me.

Your older colleague sounds like the practice manager Lucy has. Very patronising and self righteous. Bang out of order.

I'd hoped she would complain, but she's putting into writing her resignation with her reasons and she's ensured me she won't leave anything out and she will hand it to the senior partners tomorrow.

Sorry to hear of your problems with the Indian GP. A couple of Indian GP's work in Lucy's place and call her Lucy Everyone does apart from this one woman :mad:

I know a relatively new, maybe 2 years, GP, who is not a partner is friendly with her. A young scouse GP, female. Maybe I can get her to say something to her.

I'll see what she does and take it from there at around 5.30pm tomorrow.

Best of luck with the PCT. You sure you don't want to be Lucy's boss?

I should add, this woman is rude and snidey to everyone, even the GP's by all accounts, but she's 'good at her job'. Lucy is working with other receptionists and admin staff, but she is the youngest and least likely to answer back, although she's been there longer than half of them by all accounts.

I'll try and toughen her up. She deserves more respect than she gets off this cow.

Thanks for taking the time to post such a long response.

Glamazon

will pop over now EA XX

searching_me

sorry EA cant help i didnt take anything .. i even forgot RLT x

redmel1621

Tia that car story is funny...dh goes on that he is a better driver than me...well mr big head, I have never pranged the car or reversed it and got it stuck down hills.....I also passed my driving test with less minors than him:A

I do pretty much all the diy jobs round the house. When we did the boys room I had to plaster sections of the wall and fit skirting board along one wall. I am also the one who has always laid our carpets and linos over the years or hung doors etc........

BM Glad you all had a nice time ice-skating, and don't worry about spending too much money;)

Hey since Weezl said to go ahead and buy the iCandy this morning, dh now reckons I don't really coe on Money Saving Expert...he thinks I go on Money Squandering Experts:rotfl:

Evansangel

searching_me wrote: »

sorry EA cant help i didnt take anything .. i even forgot RLT x

Had my first RLT today, (32 weeks today, woohoo!)
And the baby liked it, she was moving so much, which kinda felt weird as she's getting big now and running out of room to move as much as she was..:p

kindofagilr

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

You missed the father to be at the birth Don't forget to pack him - all being well of course

LOL yes of course the father to be will be there

Tiamai_d wrote:

I wouldn't worry about ice chips, I think if someone came at me with ice chips to suck I'd tell them to sod off (and the book to read for pooping was me )

Ok no ice chips, someone suggested these as the G&A makes your lips dry (when I mentioned this to MIL, she replied saying "oh you won't need gas and air, you will go natural" I was like erm lets just see shall we)

I will think about what book to take in lol

got-it-spend-it wrote:

Kindof- listwise I'm a little worried that you have to take your own toilet roll! I'm pretty sure you won't need it (unless it's moist toilet roll, although I think they had this in hospital too IIRC). Also I wouldn't bother with a toy for baby, to be honest, but then I don't like the idea of things like that getting 'hospital germs' on them which is probably quite irrational!

When I was in hospital the MWs were really funny about ladies using Always type pads instead of maternity ones , so maybe better to take an extra pack of maternity ones instead?

Underwear-wise I preferred big cheapy pants to disposable ones.

Also do you defo need to take formula in case you have problems BFing? At my hospital they provide it in sterile bottles already made up, which is much easier so might save you a bit of faff. Not sure if that's the same everywhere though ?

The toilet roll was suggested on another forum cos the hospital one was awful, but yeah it does seem extreme lol

I agree with the teddy comment as well actually now lol

Why didnt they like you using always? surely its up to you? I have 2 packs of mat pads so far (20 pads) is that enough?

I bought some disposable ones, but will deffo look into getting some cheap ones to throw away cos a lot of people have said the disposable ones are awful

I need to check with MW about the forumla

ManOnTheMoon wrote:

A quick proper welcome to kindofagilr and newbie_maz.

I hope your stay is pleasurable.

Thank you for the welcome

Hello Sugarspun too (and everyone else lol)

OK its taking too long to put quotes in lol

Becles - The thing with the juice is a lot of forums I read that the water is warm and not so nice, so therefore would be much nicer with diluted juice lol

Yeah I might not take in a book or a mag (apart from the one for the loo lol)

Oh and I know I will prob be practically the same size when I come out as to go in lol I just meant I need spare clothes

As for worrying about anything else lol yes I will keep you here all day though lol, as it gets closer, I am getting scared lol, I mean I am going to be responsible for a little person soon eek, and also the pain of giving birth I just dont know what to expect

Sami-Bee - Yeah I dont think OH will want to eat lol (unless there was a fresh mcdonalds there lol)

Babywipes instead of facewipes good idea

I do need to check what the hospital provide if anything

Yeah I will need ear plugs cos any noise on the ward will have my awake lol maybe if I wear just 1 so I can heat bean but I would think I would hear bean anyway?

So are all the MWs meant to be pro BF? Just I am not someone who likes to bother people lol, and if bean doesnt take to BF I will be worried about asking for help all the time lol

Beanie - Yeah I need breast pads now, I have been leaking since about 20-25 weeks (I am hoping its a good sign that I might have a good supply lol I dont know if it works like that)

EA - Pleased you asked that EA cos thats exactly what I have and I am unsure about when/what to do lol I start my RLT tomorrow, I might start tonight thouhg I dunno lol

Thanks guys, sorry for the epic post

ManOnTheMoon

Evansangel wrote: »

Hello :wave:

Welcome. New 'face' to me :wave:

ManOnTheMoon

chopsticks wrote: »

Hi all :wave:

Hopefully I'm back for good now. I tried to come on yesterday but got sidetracked looking for a discount code for Mr T and didn't make it on to the thread.

I'm sure I've missed loads and loads (I think we were on page 211), so I'll try and catch up a few pages, but not sure I'm going to be able to catch up on 950-odd posts!!!

xxx

Welcome back to you too :T

SeptemberBaby_2

Buttonmoons wrote: »

If people judge you for using jars/rusks/formula whatever, just tell them to !!!! off, I can't be done with all the snobbyness. I swear to blog, mothers looking down on other mothers, trying to make themselves seem superior, is what gives a lot of other mothers problems when they aren't "perfect"

I'm so laid back about all this crud Im practically horizontal.

I gave Keira BK fries today and 2 cookies. Shoot me now!

Well said and I couldn't agree more!

I couldn't give a fig about what people think. And luckily my family and social circle feel I'm the best candidate to be mother of my children .

PS: however neither have had BK/McD fries as Mummy is a veggie so we don't go!

xx

feelinggood_2

Kindof - if you want breastfeeding to work, you need to know where to get help. In some hospitals midwives aren't very well trained and won't spare you much time. If you are worried about asking for help, find out where your nearest Breastfeeding Clinics are. Get some helpline numbers (La Leche League, NCT and BFN). Know what forums and websites to get help from (Krystal here, Kellymom, and the groups above). If breastfeeding is important, and you find it hard, you have to get help. This is one thing you are allowed to make a fuss about and ask for help. There are a few problems people encounter, but with the right help and support almost every woman can breastfeed. Sorry for rant. It is good to be prepared!

I've just sent an email to HV asking if someone can come and weigh Toby. Wonder what she'll say. Are HV services only for those who can get to clinic, or are they supposed to make allowances to those who aren't able to go there?

Elle - prepare your inbox for a big PM tomorrow, I think I shall be sending you one.