MSE Parents Club Part 9

SugarSpun

jillie1974 wrote: »

SS, thanks....from what we can gather, she had attempted prev with tablets, but had been found/called someone
so DH says it was only a matter of time before she did succeed.

That's sad - one suicide attempt doesn't necessarily lead to another, it can sometimes be a cry for help. But if the cry isn't answered properly then another attempt can take place.

I wish there was some way of letting suicidal parents know that no matter how badly they feel about themselves and how badly they think they're doing, so long as they love their children and their children feel loved that's reason enough to keep going.

It sounds like your DH is angry with her too but finds it easier to take his anger out on you than admit it.

Edit: I didn't ask him about the activity centre and he's currently swearing at his computer so probably not a good time...

harley1

SugarSpun wrote: »

Harley, how's Kezia doing? Was it just a weird blip in the baby behaviour?

I shamelessly searched on my name so sorry if I've missed something important.

Think she's bit better today thanks for asking, thanks to Fitzio too.Temp on waking was 33.7 but soon seemed to warm up and now feels coolish although forehead therm is showing between 35 & 36 and ear in one is 34.4 and other is 35.8. I've asked at boobie club but they seemed to think 35-36 was normal according to someones doctor.

She's fine in herselft so far so I'm guessing it can't be too bad but I wish someone would be a bit more difinitive.

xxxx

csh_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

That's sad - one suicide attempt doesn't necessarily lead to another, it can sometimes be a cry for help. But if the cry isn't answered properly then another attempt can take place.

I had experience of a girl I knew when I was young who was 'parasuicidal' if I've remembered the term correctly

csh_2

Hi Harley, you could ring NHS direct if you are really worried??

I seen your post about baby massage and just wanted to say Kieren HATED it the first 2 weeks!! He didn't like being naked and the other babies crying went right through him!
I've started now leaving his nappy on and when other babys start crying just putting my head really close to his and whispering to him so hes not focusing on the crying. Its really helped and he got a full body massage yesterday for the first time after going for at least 6 weeks!

SugarSpun

csh wrote: »

I had experience of a girl I knew when I was young who was 'parasuicidal' if I've remembered the term correctly

Deliberate self-harm and risky behaviour without the actual aim of committing suicide - a red flag in the hope that someone will see and understand it?

Also very scary, because the more often such risks are taken the more likely it is that it'll result in that person's death - which is technically suicide even though they weren't actually intending to die.

Edit: I'm glad she seems ok, Harley

csh_2

Yep Sugar, thats the one.
Even sadder when they succeed in this way as it in all likelihood was never meant as a serious attempt.
I always wonder when I hear of someone that does the deed with pills was it an actual attempt or a cry for help. So very sad.

jillie1974

Hi Harley---
Hope Kezia is ok.

jillie1974

glad the group was this morning its absolutely throwing it down at the moment!!

boogellyboo

Hello all,

I keep lurking on my iphone when Im feeding Isla then dont get chance to post or catch up properly inbetween feeds.

Harley Im glad Kezia seems a bit better, if your still worried though Id ring nhs direct or the Drs just to put your mind at rest.

Jillie - I dont want to put my foot in it and say the wrong thing, I cant even begin to imagine how hard its been for you and your family. But I did want to send you huge hugs x x

SS - I caught a bit about your feelings over Mollys birth, as others say talking it through really does help. Your a fab mum to Molly, one 'wet patch' night wont be remembered but the feeling of love from her mummy will.

Feelie - its good to hear you sounding so positive. I love that you snuck chocolate upstairs before the nanny came.

Tigs - OH rang me as I was reading your post about Andrew and the extra scan. He wondered why I was in floods and didnt get they were happy tears that Andrews done so well. Im in Longsight so not far from you, was Andrew born at St Marys?

My mums out looking for a Sophie before she comes to visit next month

Csh - thanks for the baby massage tips. Im going on Friday for the first time and just know Isla's going to scream. Ive chickened out of going the last 3 weeks as I get really flustered when she starts screaming in public

Mazcabs

Newbie maz, GISI and others - i know the discussuon was a few days ago but would you recommend the FP Sea horse for babies that wont sleep in their cots... William has a mobile but really doesnt like it much and would love to try something else to get him to stay in cot? I really want to get back into my own bed - I've developed a stinking cold cos not in it...

Henry back soon, my mum has taken him for a couple of hours and Williams asleep - yah for 5 mins peace....

Made Courgette cake for work this morning with Henry as going in tomorrow plus a few spares :jyum yum and dinner is prepped ready to cook. I just need the royal mail website to work now :mad:

CAZ - what happened about your foot?