MSE Parents Club Part 9

sparkle03

Im feeling a bit confussed although I dont think confussed isnt the right word... Im happy and I get on with everything day to day but I dont think Im coping v well and Im not sure why.

Lexi is 9 months now and has never been a good sleeper, for the past few weeks she has been getting up at 4am and I should go to bed earlier but I dont so Im only getting about 4 hours sleep each night. I think I had a bug last week which was making me quite sick so that hasnt helped and I was also having really bad migraines which have carried on into this week.

I dont know whats wrong with me and its getting me down, Im almost in tears typing this - infact I am. I have typed this out deleted it about 5 times so far .... Kind of feel like a failure for admitting that things arent 'right'. If Im being completely honest me and OH have had a rocky month too and I dont know who to talk to about it, I dont like to admit anything is wrong, Like it all to be peachy!

Mazcabs

BeenieCat wrote: »

Maz you've reminded me... I was ranting about my HV abandoning me last night - no one has even offered me a 6 week check, she's 5 weeks today, i would have thought they'd have made the appt already. The midwife has made an appointment to see me in July lol? (They gave me the anti-D 3 hours too late so need to check my bloods again?) :huh:

And they've still not been to pick up the gas and air from my home birth. Me = doesn't exist.

I got an appt sent from my Drs automatically but I was going to ask when I went to register William at Drs anyway.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Maz - generally I think that they will look at them if you want them to but not if you don't.
6 week check is generally to check that everything is back to normal and to discuss contraception. I think some docs do a PND test too.



Beenie - FWIW I didn't mind going to any groups once I had Benjamin with me. You can always find something to busy yourself with (bum change, face wipe, cuddles, playing, feeding, just staring at your beautiful baby) and there is usually a few old hands who make sure everybody is being talked to. Why not go to it a little late so you only have to do 45 mins or so, then at least you don't have to worry about doing too long there. xxx

sparkle03

BeenieCat wrote: »

Maz you've reminded me... I was ranting about my HV abandoning me last night - no one has even offered me a 6 week check, she's 5 weeks today, i would have thought they'd have made the appt already. The midwife has made an appointment to see me in July lol? (They gave me the anti-D 3 hours too late so need to check my bloods again?) :huh:

And they've still not been to pick up the gas and air from my home birth. Me = doesn't exist.

Oh dear, I have seen my HV once when Lexi was 2 months old, heard nothing from her since. Mine and Lexi's 6 week checks were done when she was 9 weeks old. 'They' can be a pita sometimes cant they?

feelinggood_2

Sparkle, hope you are okay. Lack of sleep over a long time is hard to deal with. I think you are doing a great job. I worry about not coping, but was told there is a big difference between feeling like that and actually not coping. Is there anything specific you find hard? I find weaning stressful, and changing - Toby hates being changed.

MFD - breastfeeding women should have 8 portions of fruit and veg according to weight watchers.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sparkle hun - you don't need to know what is wrong to tell us something is wrong xxx

Big ((HUGS)) sweetie, better to tell someone than ignore it. Sometimes we just feel down and can't pinpoint it.

Do you think the sleep is something to do with it? Or is it an 'easy' thing to blame IYSWIM?

elle_gee

feelinggood wrote: »

.. MFD - breastfeeding women should have 8 portions of fruit and veg according to weight watchers.

In a day? I might manage that in a week!

How's you feely?

Mazcabs

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Maz - generally I think that they will look at them if you want them to but not if you don't.
6 week check is generally to check that everything is back to normal and to discuss contraception. I think some docs do a PND test too.
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Thats good, havent had time to have a shower !!! just a quick wash instead!

feelinggood_2

elle_gee wrote: »

In a day? I might manage that in a week!

How's you feely?

Up and down in an unbelievable way. Not too bad at the minute. Off to meet a new group of Mums this afternoon.

Why are all Booby clubs social? Ours is purely for problems

SugarSpun

Big hugs for Beenie and Sparkle. I'm sorry you're feeling unhappy and wish I could do something.

I'm also sorry for all the mixing up I'm doing, the sleeplessness is easy to blame but I don't know if that's it IYKWIM? I'm just a bit useless at the moment but don't want to cause offence