Was I wrong to say thank you?

gill_81uk

I think it's lovely to send out thankyou cards...take no notice of your rude, spiteful SILs

Sarahlou_2

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

Oh well, I've just sent out my daughters thank you's from their party, so I'm a sad cow too. At least we're sad cow's with manners

Did they know that you'd heard? I'd have said something!

Moooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo :rotfl:

Yeah they knew I'd heard. I just said "whats wrong with it?" and their response was "we'd never do that, can't be ars!d" Then went on saying I think he's the perfect child and that I'm the perfect mum - which I'm not!

They are very rude people in general...very outspoken (which is not a crime, but there can be a time and a place iyswim). I asked one SIL what could I get her little girl for Xmas and her answer was "tell me how much you're spending and I'll tell you what to get" :eek:

Apricot

I hate people like that. I think its a lovely thing to do & important for a child to know to say thank you for gifts. Just be safe in the knowledge that your son won't grow up to be like them!

Paparika

Sarahlou wrote: »

Hi

Please tell me if I'm going a bit mad here.........it was my 5 year olds birthday on Sunday and he had a party which family and friends attended.
I've always been brought up that when someone buys you a present, you send a thank you card/letter. I still do this (I'm 28).

So this week I sat with DS and wrote out little thank you cards for everyone, he wrote his name himself and did big kisses. I then posted them out.

I went over to MILs today and walked in on SIL1 and SIL2 saying "isn't X (me) a sad cow, sending thank you cards, who gives a !!!!!!??"

Am I the only person that thinks this was a bit out of order???? HAve I done something wrong?

What you did was not wrong your teaching your child good manners, it's obvious their mother didn't teach them any.

flippin36

Sarahlou wrote: »

Moooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo :rotfl:

Yeah they knew I'd heard. I just said "whats wrong with it?" and their response was "we'd never do that, can't be ars!d" Then went on saying I think he's the perfect child and that I'm the perfect mum - which I'm not!

They are very rude people in general...very outspoken (which is not a crime, but there can be a time and a place iyswim).I asked one SIL what could I get her little girl for Xmas and her answer was "tell me how much you're spending and I'll tell you what to get" :eek:

You sound lovely OP. But I don't think I could put up with that......you must be a saint .

Sarahlou_2

flippin36 wrote: »

You sound lovely OP. But I don't think I could put up with that......you must be a saint .

I just made sure we live far enough away from them

Francesanne

Sounds like you were brought up properly and have very nice manners. You did nothing wrong, sorry to say it but those people you mentioned sound ignorant and rude. You sound like a really nice person and don't change your ways because of those type of people. Good manners cost nothing and it's a shame more people don't think that way.

Kay_Peel

You left out the best bit SarahLou. What did you you do or say when you heard these inlaws make the remark?

What did you MIL think about it?

Was it just left hanging in the air?

missm29

my children are 3 and 6 and they always do thankyou card/notes whether it be easter, birthdays or xmas. The youngest just tries to sign his name and the eldest writes a short sentence. For my sons 5th birthday he had a party and invited 18 children, they all got thankyou cards too, just made him sign his name, a couple of parents said that was really nice to get one, and i think there were a few unpleasant wispers.

kai666

i always write letters, and my 6 week old son will be as soon as he is old enough. nothing ruder than not thanking people properly