Was I wrong to say thank you?

Mado

I don't think it can ever be wrong to say thank you.
If people don't care, it's fine for them, but most will appreciate the gesture.

I always make my kids sit down and write their thank you.
Although, DS2, 7, left to his device this year wrote the funniest letter of all . It went something like this:
Dear X, Thanks for coming to my party and for that toy. I already had it but some bits went missing.....:rotfl:

I made him write it again, not so thruthfully.:D

ChocChip26

freakyogre wrote: »

I was always brought up to send thank you letters. When we unwrapped birthday/christmas presents my dad always gave us paper and a pen each so we could keep a list of who gave us what.

I still write them now and i'm 25. I think it's good manners to thank someone for a present. Sadly I suppose some people these days expect presents so don't even think to thank people properly.

Same here, my sister & I always wrote thank you letters after birthdays and Christmas. Although I dont have children, I have a little niece and nephew, they are too young at the moment to write their own 'thank yous' so my sister has to do it for them & they will scrawl some kisses on at the end. When they are old enough to write they will certainly be writing their own.

OP, please please dont take any notice of your SIL's, I think it is lovely that your son is writing thank you notes and I bet they were very much appreciated by those who received them. Sounds like your SIL's were just miffed because it shows them in a bad light by comparison.

Good manners are priceless

ChocChip xxx

ManOnTheMoon

I've never asked my kids to write thank you cards or letters, but they always say thanks to people for gifts, either to their face or by telephone, as you'd expect.

For anyone to be so rude to someone who does send thank you cards, only reflects on their own personality.

They will learn the hard way that such horrible rudeness will not be tolerated by the majority of people.

rachelhen

Hmm, simpywimpy has it right...at 5yrs old its a reflection on the parents as well ha ha ha I do agree its a good discipline though.

Katgoddess

I wasn't brought up to write thank you cards, but my OH was and it's a tradition we shall be continuing. When my DS was born last year we brought personalised cards from Ebay from this seller, and also Christmas thank yous as well. This year I will hopefully be more organised and send people a photo or something. I like the idea of them holding a sign up saying Thank You in a photo.

I think the OP's SIL's are just bitter and embarrassed because they don't write thank yous and you've shown them up. Next time I would get extra big thank you cards for them and get your children to make an extra special effort to write a really lovely note....to show them up further. But I'm evil....

kr15snw

My mum made me send thank you cards growing up and I hated it. Then when I was about 12 or 13 I realised that the longer I sent thank you cards the longer I got presents, lol. It soon came apparent that my aunts / uncles didnt send gifts to my cousins as they were 'ungrateful' whereas me and my brothers were 'wonderfully polite'.

Im 22 now and still send thank you cards for christmas if I get a gift, plus I send a note to some aunts / uncles who send a card just to say hi!

For our engagement recently I had to make and write over 100 thank you cards, took an age!!!

jamespir

ialways send thank you cards

Skeksis

Sarahlou - they obviously won't appreciate Xmas presents and cards from you, so don't bother giving any, simples!

bungle82

We don't have any children but I'm 27 and my partner is 30 and we always send thank you cards after Christmas / Birthdays. We were brought up to do that, and in my opinion it's good manners.

I think your SILs are obviously jealous that you and your children have such good manners and are worried you're showing them up1

elektra-2007

What complete B's!!! I would carry on as it is a very polite thing to do I also do the same. It is obvious they were green with envy because they dont do it. i would carry on doing so as in the long run your little one will be the one with the correct manners. Well done you.