Was I wrong to say thank you?

breadaddict

You didnt do anything wrong at all x I think its lovely sending or ringing up and saying thankyous- it's polite. I'm the same 26 for birthdays, xmas and anniversarys etc, I always call or write. Im always a little dissapointed when people dont afford me the same decencency. Sounds like your inlaws are just not very nice people, gossiping behind someones back is just mean, especially when youve done a good thing. Ignore them xx

Fuzzy_Duck

sh1305 wrote: »

And if you hadn't said anything, you'd probably be moaned at for being rude...

I think you nailed it on the head there. They are the sad cows and I bet you're damn if you do and damned if you don't. They must lead very dull lives to whinge about you. They're either jealous of you or feel a need to be a b!tch to everyone I imagine.

I understand some people are outspoken but when they're downright rude and don't care about hurting other people's feelings they're cows in my book I wouldn't waste my breath on them.

For the record I too am an adult and I will still write thank you cards to people, because any decent individual will appreciate them. My parents always sat me down to write my thank you notes and whilst it did feel like a chore at the time I was pleased with myself when relatives would ring to say thank you for the note and they were glad I liked my pressie. Good manners cost nothing as you are well aware of!

Have to say though I think most of us have a bad apple of two in our family (I know I do!!)- it doesn't mean the whole family should be tarred with the same brush. Sadly marriage sometimes brings new family members you're not too keen on!

sahararose

Sarahlou wrote: »

Moooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo :rotfl:

Yeah they knew I'd heard. I just said "whats wrong with it?" and their response was "we'd never do that, can't be ars!d" Then went on saying I think he's the perfect child and that I'm the perfect mum - which I'm not!

They are very rude people in general...very outspoken (which is not a crime, but there can be a time and a place iyswim). I asked one SIL what could I get her little girl for Xmas and her answer was "tell me how much you're spending and I'll tell you what to get" :eek:

My family (on my hubby's side) are very similar. We never get thanked, and when I asked one SIL what her kids wanted for Xmas I had the response that a £20 Next voucher would do.

We don't give presents just to get undying gratitude, but equally we don't expect to be just ignored.

Carry on being as polite as you are - your son will be a credit to you.

xx

choille

It's sad when people with no manners pick on someone who has. It just shows you how rude these people are. Unfortunately their kids will be the same unless someone else influences them for the good. It is nice to write thank you letters, that's how I was brought up, but my SIL's were similar to yours & their kids, my nephews have no manners, which isn't surprising really, but they also don't have any friens - which is sad.

It is good that you are bringing your little ones up properly - it stands them in good stead. I'd avoid these SILs as they sound pretty offensive, boorish, bitter & twisted characters to me. Just feel sorry for their poor kids.

nikki2804

Personally I think its lovely that someone can make the time, and take the effort to send thank you notes. If more people done this then we would maybe live in a nicer world!

It also shows that you truly appreciated what you had been given and that it hasn't just been forgotten about!!

(PS about the nicer world thing - I am not saying that everyone is mean, just that some people could do with being somewhat nicer and more polite!)

angelicmary85

My daughter will be 2 in a few days and says please, thank you and excuse me (we're still to teach her not to shove people out of the way as she's saying excuse me though!)

We don't send you thank you cards for presents but make sure everyone gets at least a phone call. Your SIL's sound to me like they're just ungrateful. When your son is older and holds doors open for the older genertaion and ask's his girlfriend's dad permission to marry her then you'll know you've done a great job!!

*Louise*

We send thank you cards to people who we can't see to thank personally.

I am shocked at those SILS'. what a horrible attitude - just because they don't have any manners, they try and put down someone who does. :mad:

You should completely ignore them and carry on bringing your child up to be polite....and please don't ever let those two make you doubt yourself!!!

Sarahlou_2

Hi - just logged back in!! Wow - thank you for all the replies. Not sure why I doubted myself really.
Oh's response was "just ignore them"..... MIL's response was, well, she laughed actually.....!

MiL and FIL came for tea yesterday and brought one of the SIL's kids with her, no manners at all. :mad:

In response to the poster asking how I managed to get DS to write thank yous (well, he writes his name!) he just asked to do it after opening his presents- I think because we do it every time he gets a present.

With regards to Xmas, I may just go for huge, neon, over the top flashing thank yous, that play music just for the SILs lol :rotfl:

LameWolf

Well, if the OP is in some way sad, then I must be one very sad Wolf, because I sent thankyou cards for our wedding presents - and I was 43 at the time!:D

In all honesty I think the SILs are an object lesson in how NOT to behave.

Stephb1986_2

Manners don't cost you anything love they mustn't have any. I don't send thankyou cards but I do ring up the sender and say thankyou

They should be taught some manners people might treat them nicer then.

Steph xx