AM, I, in the wrong??

PurpleJay

tandraig wrote: »

Perhaps I am getting too old but when i was a kid (like another poster) any adult was allowed to chastise me with the full support of my parents. can remember one large woman slapping my face (hard) for playing cherry knocker (knock the door and run away), of course my mum saw the hand mark on my face and asked how i got it. I told her - did she go and deck the woman? did she hell - she slapped the other side! All us kids saw this as normal. we were kids and all grown-ups had power over us. so for gods sake cut the OP some slack!

You may have seen this as 'normal' but I am sorry, that does not mean it was right!

Lady_E

OP-can we assume that it has all been sorted out?

*Louise*

Lady_E wrote: »

OP-can we assume that it has all been sorted out?

I doubt we will find out, she hasn't been back since the 8th Dec.

tamarto

"Every single parent think their child is wonderful and can do nothing wrong - FACT"

What a load of bullpoop, maybe you can't that doesn't mean every parent is the same!

Tootsiepops

I can also say, although my children are very well behaved, if someone outside of family or responsibility chastised my child, i would in turn chastise that person with a swift punch in the face.[/QUOTE]
Lovely do you teach your children that :rolleyes:

Flashdaisy

I really hope I don't cause offence Tootsie, but just wondering, is your DD always hanging around this other girl, trying to be her friend, play with her, talk to her etc. I ask this because I too have a 5 year old girl, and there is a girl in her class at school who, although is a nice little girl, is always hanging around her, wanting to sit next to her, clinging onto her etc. And this puts my daughter off her and makes her not want to play with her as this girl is too clingy. I'm not saying your daughter is too clingy, but it may be something like this is annoying this other girl?

In terms of the other girl being nasty, and making others ignore her (and I totally agree with you, as the mother of two girls myself, that 5 year old girls are MORE than capable of making this happen), I think the best thing to do would have been to approach one of her parents and say something like "X and Y don't seem to be getting on too well at the moment, is there anything we could do between us to try and smooth things over between them as it's a shame if they fall out". I do completely understand though that it was upsetting for you to watch this girl not hold your DD's hand, and I know that things are said and done in the heat of the moment. Maybe if you have their phone number you could phone the dad before the next dance lesson and try and smooth things over and see if you could sort things out between the girls too?

Good luck, I hope you get something sorted

xx

sandiep

I tell my girlies that there are simply some people in this world that you're never going to get on with. And so don't worry about and don't get hung up on it. But always always be polite to them, because there is never a reason for rudeness.

And that's it.

springclean

*sticks head above parapet and waits to get flamed*

I have been reading this thread with interest and wondered if the OP would come back, and i noticed today that she had. wow OP, you really are a delight, firing off 3 dismissive one liners in response to lots of comments, mostly against your actions, and mostly giving good reason, which in fairness you asked for in your opening post.

i am afraid i am with the majority that you were in the wrong, but i had hoped you would have read all the responses, calmed down a bit and thought 'oh crap, perhaps i overreacted'.

while ever you are not willing to be open to criticism or other viewpoints, perhaps you should not ask for opinions and keep living your life as you do, with you obviously in the right, and i wish you well in it.

duchy

Ack
Little girls aren't all sugar and spice-best friends one day-won't even speak (or hold hands) the next.
We're all very protective of our own cherubs.
I'd guess with hindsight you probably wish you had spoken to the father first in a non-confrontational way-and yes he saw you as a BIG adult-confronting his baby girl and reacted accordingly. You then confirmed this confrontational impression by shouting at him too.

At 5 these things happen-kids won't hold hands /won't sit next to what was a best friend yesterday -and half the time THEY don't really know why or their explanation makes no sense to us adults or it seems so trivial.
I'm thinking this is your first child-with number two you may be less reactive and wait and see how these things pan out-as they often do without any big people intervention.
In a 5 year old's dance recitial something always goes wrong-tis the nature of the beast- this was very small and you did the right thing encouraging your little girl to keep going-and all credit to her that she did. Most parents are so focused on their own little darling they probably didn't even notice.

I hope things go OK at the class today- In youer situation I'd probably approach the parent (not the child) with a small gift and say you got upset (you don't have to say you were wrong) and realise you should have talked to them and not the child. Smooth things over and hopefully both the girls can continue to enjoy the classes and you'll probably find in a couple of weeks they are friends and don't even remember the incident. Us parents have far longer memories of these things than our kids

mrcow

Tootsiepops - you shouldn't feel "scared off" by anyone.

I do hope you have learned something from this whole experience. Parenting is as always a learning curve - as it learning how to deal with things when they aren't going as you'd wish.

It's a shame that you didn't get to speak with the father again as an apology from you would have helped you to save some face. I don't know why you would have expected them to come knocking on your door? Sounds a little odd?