At the end of my tether with my son

southoftheriver

I hope you continue to gain strength this year and realised that you are a good person. I'm very glad you have people that can see your worth.

Best Wishes

paddy's_mum

The saddest aspect of your whole thread is encapsulated in the words you wrote tonight that your son's behaviour has caused you to live a solitary and isolated existence for fear of other people and their reaction.

Don't let him have the final word, I beg of you. Break out of this prison he has built round you. Find a friend you can talk to or someone in real life that you can confide in - vicar, Samaritans, counsellor?

There is a life and other contentments beyond these unhappy years and your personal tragedy. You have already been deprived of so much and I pray that your path becomes easier. You're a brave woman and an inspiration to others. I wish you every happiness in the future.

tinkerbellsmum_2

first of all hun u ((( ))) none of this is your fault
my husband has a drink problem (under control but will always be with him) he is one of 8 all brought up in the same house and treated the same way and none of them have a problem.

my husband used to be horriable (never harmed me) shouting breaking things getting in trouble with the law but managage to turn on i'm not drunk trick the one time i call the people. why did i say with him some might ask at the time i often wondered why but i loved him sober and we had a child together and ever day after he got really bad he would appoliges and say he would never do it again and he did ofcourse but he wanted to change then one day i filmed him showed him what he was like and that with some advice from his dad about drinking ale instead of lager (we already knew sprits made him nasty) he turned himself around he still drinks ever day but does get nasty drunk.
my point is drink can make people nasty then sorry for it it also can make them lie to get what they want, also a acholic doesn't always have to drink ever day its just something that has a hold over them but they have to want to change themselves i was lucky my husband did want to change but often people with addiction problems don't think they have a problem.
i know its hard not to feel disappointed and whats if's but you will only make yourself ill thinking these things.
please do know that i'm sure deep down he loves u and i hope he sorts his self out anoth to relise how badly hes treated u. the best thing u can do for him now hun is what u r doing stepping back and letting him stand on his own to feet hopefully something will make him relise what hes doing.