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onlyroz

What would I do? If we were financially secure and physically healthy then I wouldn't think twice about keeping the child. My own viewpoint (and I'm happy for people to disagree with me) is that abortions should be reserved for people in the middle of their education, victims of rape, or if the child will be born with an extreme disability.

myothercarisaferrari

If you are financially secure go for it :-)

I fear I may get shot down for this but hey ho, I had a termination when I was 16 and everything was against me. I have never regretted it and unless you are in that situation I dont think you can judge.

Go with whatever feels right for you and hubby x

neneromanova

I think he's making stupid excuses. His son is 6 for crying out loud! we will only feel unloved if his father doesn't show him any love.

You have to do what you think is best for you and the new baby. My mums friend waited til she was in her 40's to have kids and has twins and another boy now and is enjoying it.

Do YOU want to keep it is the main question.

poppyolivia

You will be fine, like Onlyroz I thing the same! x

isualive

My auntie has 3 boys! They are 26, 24 & 6 months. She is 45 & recently remarried. All is going well & he is a welcome addition to the family.

red_devil

go for it its meant to be! Congratulations!

mrcow

It's interesting that your post details your concerns about how everyone else would feel about the baby.

But how do you feel? Having another baby, another son or daughter who would be just as much part of your family as any of your other children. How do you feel about that?

btw - 42 is NOT old!!!

neneromanova

You should tell him well he should have had the snip or been a bit more careful

HalfPint

You have to do what feel right for you!...not your hubby or kids. I've been in your situation and I was devastated...I was in a new relationship and a baby was the last thing I wanted, However, after much soul searching for my OH and I, we decided to keep that baby and I now have a wonderful 3 year old that has cemented the 2 families together. No one felt unloved or unwanted because we made sure they were all involved and included.

I have 2 kids from my previous marriage, my oh has 1, and the youngest is ours together. Ages of kids are now 12/11/8/3 I'm 36 and hubby is 43.

Had I not kept it...I would have regretted it for the rest of my life...as someone else on here said...it's meant to be. Fate has decided to give you another child for some reason, though that reason may not become clear until later on.

I believe my son was given to me because he will do something later in his life that is important in the "grand scheme"...just a feeling.

Trust you instincts and above all talk talk talk....with you hubby & all the kids.

If you need an ear, feel free to PM me.

HP x

whitewing

You are not too old to have this baby; it links all of your children genetically now, and you and your DH. What a blessing that is.