Child Maintenance???????

Kimitatsu

sarahloveschris wrote: »

I do only expect him to pay for the half of him being at the property.

Thanks for clarifying - I did think it had come across badly the written word can be misconstrued much more easily than the spoken one!

Its not i wouldn't let him, he hasn't tried to arrange anything, making arrangements and breaking them, Ive seen it on his profile....... Ive not said he cant see her, we've been seperated 18mths hes been with the new gf for 2wks!!

Then being honest do you think it is going to go the distance? I would sit back and wait for him to come to you rather than worrying about what might happen. From what you have said then you have opened a case with the CSA and it is them you need to chase, rather than worrying about what he might think today and change his mind tomorrow!
Its confusing

I dont know how old your daughter is, but all you can do is to protect her interests, as you have said a contact centre is the first step (although you could ask for telephone contact dependant on her age). If you have concerns over his girlfriend then you need to voice them in a calm and rational manner (calling her a druggie wont help).

Have you been to see the CAB regarding the housing arrears etc? The council will take it to court for you so you shouldnt have to pay anything especially if he has moved to another county and your boyfriend has moved in with you. If you can claim JSA then you will also get housing benefit and ctb which should help your payment arrangement - if you have come off IS onto JSA then the council will be able to see the change in benefits and change the arrangement accordingly.

In the main councils do not like to evict families with children so will bend over backwards to help them, go and see them and explain everything and see if they can help you with an entitlements calculation, there may be something that you are entitled to but are not claiming.

sarahloveschris

CSA_Help wrote: »

Its not i wouldn't let him, he hasn't tried to arrange anything, making arrangements and breaking them, Ive seen it on his profile....... Ive not said he cant see her, we've been seperated 18mths hes been with the new gf for 2wks!!
Its confusing

Sarah

Obviously he has moved on with his life by moving in with a new GF

Have you moved on !

It shouts out to me that you don't like the thought of him moving on with his life .Is this about you or your children ?[/QUOTE]

YES i have moved on........ no thanks to him and his threats!!!! :beer:
I dnt care if he moves on with his life...... i care about my daughters welfare

sarahloveschris

Kimitatsu wrote: »

I dont know how old your daughter is, but all you can do is to protect her interests, as you have said a contact centre is the first step (although you could ask for telephone contact dependant on her age). If you have concerns over his girlfriend then you need to voice them in a calm and rational manner (calling her a druggie wont help).

Have you been to see the CAB regarding the housing arrears etc? The council will take it to court for you so you shouldnt have to pay anything especially if he has moved to another county and your boyfriend has moved in with you. If you can claim JSA then you will also get housing benefit and ctb which should help your payment arrangement - if you have come off IS onto JSA then the council will be able to see the change in benefits and change the arrangement accordingly.

In the main councils do not like to evict families with children so will bend over backwards to help them, go and see them and explain everything and see if they can help you with an entitlements calculation, there may be something that you are entitled to but are not claiming.

She is 4, thanks for the advice about the CAB i shall arrange an appointment with them, i would rather the contact centre to start with,

hollywoodgman

how can you have the audacity to think you have the right to his girlfriends money. If you or your partner was in work maybe you would not be so desperate to screw your ex over. Funny how most of you women think your ex's partners should give you money yet if the csa said your new partner had to contribute and your ex's payment went down you would all soon be crying for the injustice. Just because he had a child with you his life shouldnt be over. sometimes the csa makes people feel there is no future for themselves,its not right

sarahloveschris

hollywoodgman wrote: »

how can you have the audacity to think you have the right to his girlfriends money. If you or your partner was in work maybe you would not be so desperate to screw your ex over. Funny how most of you women think your ex's partners should give you money yet if the csa said your new partner had to contribute and your ex's payment went down you would all soon be crying for the injustice. Just because he had a child with you his life shouldnt be over. sometimes the csa makes people feel there is no future for themselves,its not right

we are looking for work, ive applied for 6 jobs today, all in the healthcare industry which i have experience in but had to leae due to my ex thinking i shouldnt work with male surgeons :eek:
Im NOT screwing anyone over, he promised to support our daughter hes NOT doing that, it should be if your ex is living with someone as if you are married they should both support the other child/children, ive had exs with kids an ive helped them support them.............. its only right........ I DONT AGREE WITH HIM BREAKING HIM PROMISE TO SUPPORT OUR DAUGHTER COZ HE HAS A NEW BIRD:mad:

Loopy_Girl

hollywoodgman wrote: »

how can you have the audacity to think you have the right to his girlfriends money. If you or your partner was in work maybe you would not be so desperate to screw your ex over. Funny how most of you women think your ex's partners should give you money yet if the csa said your new partner had to contribute and your ex's payment went down you would all soon be crying for the injustice. Just because he had a child with you his life shouldnt be over. sometimes the csa makes people feel there is no future for themselves,its not right

Yes, I think she gets the picture that the new g/f income is not taken into account. She asked a question and now knows so no need to go on about it.

Kimitatsu

hollywoodgman wrote: »

how can you have the audacity to think you have the right to his girlfriends money. If you or your partner was in work maybe you would not be so desperate to screw your ex over. Funny how most of you women think your ex's partners should give you money yet if the csa said your new partner had to contribute and your ex's payment went down you would all soon be crying for the injustice. Just because he had a child with you his life shouldnt be over. sometimes the csa makes people feel there is no future for themselves,its not right

:rolleyes: did you read the entire thread?

If you had then you would have seen that we had all explained this and the OP was aware of her rights and responsibilities.

I think you posted before reading on this one, and to be honest it was uneccessary there has been no anti NRP feeling more an answering of questions and understanding of how the OP could help herself.

DX2

sarahloveschris wrote: »

we are looking for work, ive applied for 6 jobs today, all in the healthcare industry which i have experience in but had to leae due to my ex thinking i shouldnt work with male surgeons :eek:
Im NOT screwing anyone over, he promised to support our daughter hes NOT doing that, it should be if your ex is living with someone as if you are married they should both support the other child/children, ive had exs with kids an ive helped them support them.............. its only right........ I DONT AGREE WITH HIM BREAKING HIM PROMISE TO SUPPORT OUR DAUGHTER COZ HE HAS A NEW BIRD:mad:

He has only been with the girlfriend 2 weeks you said.

shell_542

Some new couples living together don't even combine their income. (Blimey, some long term couples don't!) So why should she pay towards your (you and your ex's) children?

A new partner living with a PWC chooses whether to pay towards his/her new partner's children. They are not forced to.

woody01

sarahloveschris wrote: »

Hmmmm of well worth a try!!

He does have debts at my house he is not paying, and he is also on the tenancy as a joint tenancy, it is in arrears of £500 plus there is council tax arrears is he liable for half of each of these amounts???:mad:

And there in lies the problem.
Im all for people paying their way, but to expect his girlfriend to fund you aswell is ridiculous and smacks of a jealous woman hellbent on some kind of revenge.