Child Maintenance???????

Loopy_Girl

sarahloveschris wrote: »

He is named on the rent and council tax.

Which means you are both joint and severally liable which means the council will try to get the money from whatever one they can and in your case it is you.

As for the other debts, you need to phone the relevant companies and tell them he is no longer there and pass on his new address and politely ask that they no longer send correspondence to your your address.

DX2

sarahloveschris wrote: »

I do contact the father, he can only talk if 'she's' not there...... we had contact on facebook where he could see pics etc of his daughter.
she tried telling me how to bring up my child..... that i shouldn't let him be involved with my daughter etc etc so i put her straight,,no little 21yr old will tell me what to do with my child

That of course is your choice, however as I have already stated you won't get anything from her either for his child or his debts. So you shouting the odds isn't going to make a blind bit of difference.

Kimitatsu

Firstly can I remind you all to be nice to money savers - OP that is directed at you.

I appreciate that you are angry BUT calling your ex's partner names is in no way going to help on a public forum, it will only exacerbate the reaction you will get from other non resident parents (boys you know who you are, be nice please :rolleyes:)

If you have put in a claim to the CSA then you have to ask for them to enforce the claim, as has been said he is only liable for 15% of his net income for one child. Have you given the CSA all of his details and asked them to collect the money? Ask for the case to be passed to enforcement and onto criminal compliance if you feel that he is defrauding the system, they have far more powers than you do.

As for the rent and the council tax, why is his name still on them? The council will divide the debt in two for the time he was living there and the arrears were accrued and will chase both parties for their share of it. You need to speak to the council and explain the situation, if you have details of his work then they can trace him through that.

If there are debts in his name then return the letters with not know at this address accross the front - it is then up to the creditor to trace him not you.

To be honest after that its up to him what he spends his money on as frustrating as it may be for you - you are only entitled to 15% and if you are on income based JSA then you will only see a maximum of £20 of that anyway. You need to concentrate on sorting out your house, getting your ex off the rent and council tax and making a payment arrangement so that your possession order stays suspended rather than worrying about what your ex is doing.

Loopy_Girl

sarahloveschris wrote: »

I do contact the father, he can only talk if 'she's' not there...... we had contact on facebook where he could see pics etc of his daughter.
she tried telling me how to bring up my child..... that i shouldn't let him be involved with my daughter etc etc so i put her straight,,no little 21yr old will tell me what to do with my child

It's not her fault that he won't pay, it's his.

He should be growing a set and telling her he will be paying for his kids and that he wants to see them. But if he can't do that then there's no point directing your anger at her is there?;)

jennihen

My ex does not work - he's a house-biatch for his new wife who has a great job abroad, tax-free. Her income wouldn't come into the equation even if they were in this country (he skipped owing 10's of £1000's). Luckily I bit the bullet and got on with it and 9 years on my children have a great relationship with their Dad. They are happy, stable and secure. I've had to say 'No' to so many things over the years but they I always managed to provided what they needed. It hasn't harmed them in the least.
I quite understand that it grips anyone's s!!t to be left with debt while the ex appears to be enjoying getting away with fiddling his income and having a great life.
Sometimes though its better to walk away - you might never get any joy from the CSA - its an unfair system open to abuse by NRP who simply don't want to pay. It also penalises heavily some of those who do pay.
Its not worth years of stress. Your little girl is the only thing that matters - you and your partner can teach her what is important and who she can rely on.
Best of luck
JH

Loopy_Girl

*god, I can just imagine what sort of comments this thread is going to attract from the embittered lot*

sigh

DX2

House biatch that's a new one.

DX2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

*god, I can just imagine what sort of comments this thread is going to attract from the embittered lot*

sigh

Well I know 2 are online as we clashed on the other thread again

Loopy_Girl

DX2 wrote: »

House biatch that's a new one.

am LOVING it!!!!:D:D

Loopy_Girl

DX2 wrote: »

Well I know 2 are online as we clashed on the other thread again

oh joy....in fact, I can almost hear the clipety clop from here;)