Updated **8/08/06** for those interested- my cervical cancer.

Jay-Jay_4

Shelly, what a great attitude!

I hope you don't mind me asking this but how did you feel about finding out about the CC as a result of your miscarriage? If you hadn't had the miscarriage do you wonder what may have happened? Its such a double edged sword isn't it, just an awful thing to happen and such awful news yet you managed to catch this horrible disease and stop it in its tracks.

How on earth did you get your head around that one?

shelly

Jay-Jay wrote:

Shelly, what a great attitude!

I hope you don't mind me asking this but how did you feel about finding out about the CC as a result of your miscarriage? If you hadn't had the miscarriage do you wonder what may have happened? Its such a double edged sword isn't it, just an awful thing to happen and such awful news yet you managed to catch this horrible disease and stop it in its tracks.

How on earth did you get your head around that one?

Of course I don't mind you asking, its a good question. Whilst both hubby and I were devastated at the loss of the pregnancy we saw it as a blessing in disguise once the diagnosis had sunk in because my consultant said that had the pregnancy carried on and we found out later, we would have had to decide whether to terminate to save my life or carry on and risk myself. Hubby and I both knew that I would have carried on with the pregnancy because since meeting hubby many moons ago, all I've wanted is to bear his children. At least by having the baby I'd have gone to my grave knowing I was a Mum. This way the decision was taken out of our hands. As much as we wanted the baby I can't help thinking that nature done us a favour by not letting the foetus develop further than 6 1/2 weeks.



blimey.....reading this back made me cry. I sound like I'm almost glad the pregnancy didn't progress. I am in a way but I'm not.....IYKWIM.

Jay-Jay_4

Thanks shelly,

It's hard to see it as a blessing in disguise but spin forward a few years and your future looks positive compared to if the pregnancy had continued. It would've been a horrible decision to have made.

If only we could indeed spin forward a few years and miss this next chunk out eh?

You take care of yourself and keep this thread updated x x x

lynzpower

Just to send you a hug and say, I have some understanding of what you are going through, having gynae problems myself, although it sounds like you have an excellent medical team on your side

All the best
Lynz
xx

Bogof_Babe

What a remarkably positive attitude Shelly. It is half the battle if you can keep calm and upbeat, and having such a loving, supportive partner will be a huge asset too. I wish you well, and will be thinking of you.

Lynz I hope things go well for you too. Us women have a lot to cope with don't we? That's why we are made of strong stuff.

fsdss

hi

i totally understand what's happening to you a similar sort of thing happened to me 8 years ago when (after a routine D&C after M/C) my histology report found cancer of the womb. i refused a hysterectomy as i wanted desperately to be a mum and didn't want to continue through life without having children. anyway this gave my consultant time to do some more research and he found that putting me on a high dosage of progestogone for 18 months reduces the hormone feeding cancer.

18 months of pain on this drug proved effective and i was given the all clear 6 years ago. i now have a 4yr old a 1 yr old.

just to give you some inspiration!!!

alice's_mum

Good luck hope it all goes ok

shelly

fsdss wrote:

hi

i totally understand what's happening to you a similar sort of thing happened to me 8 years ago when (after a routine D&C after M/C) my histology report found cancer of the womb. i refused a hysterectomy as i wanted desperately to be a mum and didn't want to continue through life without having children. anyway this gave my consultant time to do some more research and he found that putting me on a high dosage of progestogone for 18 months reduces the hormone feeding cancer.

18 months of pain on this drug proved effective and i was given the all clear 6 years ago. i now have a 4yr old a 1 yr old.

just to give you some inspiration!!!

Thanks for sharing your good ending. Even though theres a very good chance I'll live through this, its still good to hear other success stories.

Medical advances these days mean women like us are given the chance to be Mothers when years ago it would have been hysterectomy with no other choices. IIRC the consultant told me that the op I'm having has only been about for 14 years so still quite new.

Savvy_Sue

shelly wrote:

Thanks. Hubby keeps saying how strong and brave I am too. I feel I have no choice but to be strong because there's no way I'm going to let this disease get me down and beat me. I have quite surprised myself though, because if I'd been asked 6 months ago how cancer would have affected me I'd have said it would have done my head right in and I'd never have coped with it. Its amazing though what you can do/feel when you have to. I'm very much a glass half full person rather than half empty. I worry about things as and when I have to because worrying won't make things better.

Hugs shelly, you sound a bit like me! People kept telling me I was being very brave about my brain surgery - did I have a choice? Would it have helped if I'd gone to pieces?

Anyway, I hope your surgery goes well and that it hasn't spread. Will be thinking of you.

fsdss

oh shelly

another useful tip - if you can have some complementary therapys such as massage / reflexology it will certainly help. my consultant got me into a local college to be a "stooge" for forthcoming exams twice a week, it cost me nothing and the college were brilliant.