Tete en l’Air’s Feet On The Ground Diary

Birdie85

Try not to get too worked up, I'm sure everything will be fine once he knows what you want and he'll want the same! (I'm a glass half full person... )

I know what you mean about finding it difficult to open up to people, I usually just cry when I try to talk about important things! I'm useless!

On a happier note, I've got to share my little bargain/genius idea! The shoes I'm wearing to our friends wedding on Saturday are beautiful but I know that after a few hours I'll be in agony and I've been wanting some Redfoot folding shoes to slip into my bag, but they are really expensive, like £30(which for some pumps in insane!) Anyhoo, I'd left it too late to order them online as our postman can be a little hit and miss and I dind't want to waste my money for them not to turn up on time, or to turn up and not fit! I was going past Tesco last night so I popped in to see what they had and ended up getting 'slipper socks' that are little pink ballet slippers than can be squished into my little handbag and the best bit.... they were £1.50! By the time I put them on it'll be dark and everyone will have had a few drinks so no-one will notice that I'm wearing slippers!

Swinstie73

Great idea on the slipper socks Birdie! I used to buy pedicure flip-flops (in leopard print) so I could take my shoes off after a night out, not much good if there was glass about but better than bare feet! I've had many a morning waking up with dirty feet cos I've walked home!

Birdie85

LOL, I've borrowed OH's shoes (which are 4 sizes too big!) many a time and made him walk home in his socks because my feet hurt! It's either that or he carries me, which is not a good idea after lots of beer!

poddle911

Morning Tete, I was thinking about you last night as we had an event with Philip Pullman (and David Eagleman, whose book 'Sum' should definitely go on your list!) and it was so interesting! In the Q & A, someone said that whether or not you believe in the bible it's a very good story (especially for those who face mortality - which is all of us) and asked Pullman was there an equally good parable for atheism? And, if not, could he write it? To which he replied, "I thought I already had"

So... how are you getting on with the Amber (effing) Spyglass?

Glad you're feeling a bit cheerier today - as long as you know what you want to say and what you want to resolve, don't try to predict the outcome!

ps. Sum is only a hundred pages or so

Pps. Brilliant slipper socks bargain Birdie!

Tete_en_l'Air

poddle911 wrote: »

as long as you know what you want to say and what you want to resolve, don't try to predict the outcome!

Good advice, which I will TRY to stick to! Will definitely take hankies Swinstie thanks, everything you've just said there (what if I don't find anyone else, etc) is exactly what's going through my head, but I'm trying to think about what Dinah says. He knows we're good together so why would he not want the same as me? Sigh.

Birdie you're such a granny taking slippers to a wedding! I love it! Fab bargain!

I read a few more pages of TAS the other night, I am enjoying it but it's still taking forever! Not halfway through yet! Does Philip Pullman know how much of my life I've dedicated to reading his trilogy?! I'm going for some fluffy chick lit after this!

Birdie85

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Birdie you're such a granny taking slippers to a wedding! I love it! Fab bargain!

Hehe, I'll get a picture of me looking all grannied up so you can see them in action!

How cool is your job Poddle! I'm so jealous of you meeting Mr Pullman!

Lara44

Did it go okay Tete? I hope so

poddle911

Birdie85 wrote: »

Hehe, I'll get a picture of me looking all grannied up so you can see them in action!

How cool is your job Poddle! I'm so jealous of you meeting Mr Pullman!

I didn't actually meet Pullman , but I did meet Bill Bryson yesterday

LaraHoust wrote: »

Did it go okay Tete? I hope so

I hope so too

Tete_en_l'Air

Hi Girls. Well he says it's fine still to live together first before moving away although he is worried that the govt will stop his dept at a moment's notice (that said, the council is contracted to keep him on for three years at his current wage so it's not as though we'd be in a hole), and he liked my idea of going there for a holiday but seems to think it would be £4k?! Something I need to look into. I got the answer I wanted re. marriage and children as he said that it was something he always knew we would do and it hadn't even crossed his mind that I wouldn't realise that.

But he took offence when I was trying to explain (not very eloquently through tears and snot) how it was so important because if we weren't totally in sync with this I was going to have to have a long think. He can't believe that I would throw away what we have just because he didn't want children (even though it's a moot point because he says he does). But I maintain it's important - yes we have a fabulous time and love each other very much, and yes, if we split up I might never find anyone else who I'd want to marry anyway, but I don't want to get to 50 and feel I've missed out on something and end up resenting him for it.

So we left on kind of bad terms with me feeling like a right cow, but then I woke up this morning feeling more angry than anything, not least because of his double standards. I take offence and feel hurt at things he says but when I mention it he just says I've taken it the wrong way and it wasn't meant like that and it doesn't bother him. So why when it's the other way around am I being made to feel like a cold hearted b!tch, when it genuinely wasn't meant like that? So yes I'm quite angry. And also left feeling bemused, he says he wants marriage and kids but he doesn't like that I have a 'timeline' (which I don't other than I'd like to be married and starting to think about kids by the time I'm 33 - five years' time by which time we'll have been together 8 years, not unreasonable I don't think) ... I'm worried that he's going to be one of those people who always says he wants it but it never materialises, and by the time I realise that it's too late.

So there you go, you asked.

Bill Bryson is my all time fave I can't believe you met him! I keep watching out for him when I'm in Durham, but ...

Tete_en_l'Air

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

he liked my idea of going there for a holiday but seems to think it would be £4k?! Something I need to look into.

Oh god, he's right, it's REALLY expensive! :eek: