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urban_spirit

Miroslav wrote:

:mad: People like that should be put away.

Was it the male beating the female? I ask, because in my last relationship, my partner used to punch and elbow me, but on the sly as if it were an accident. It wasn't until right at the end of the relationship that I realised it though.

It was my fault, I should have realised it when she first moved in with me, and after about 2 nights, I had a different opinion than her about something and I was lying in bed and she was sitting up and punched me and kicked me under the covers and was in a blind rage. I don't recall what it was all about, but it would have been something over nothing.

Not a main issue in my life, I just didn't want to hit her back as it's not how I go about things.

Yes it was him beating her. He goes to the gym every night, and works in a physical job so.....well, dont want to go there. It really upset me. Horrible to hear. Flashback city.

When he talks to me he's always slagging her off, but disrespectfully not a general 'gawd my gf/bf!'. Talks about he like she's something on his shoe. Funny thing is, i've met his mum a few times and she's nice and he gets on well with her. Which blows my broad rule of thumb about knowing how a man will be by his relationship with his mum right out the window.

P,S. Done!

Philippa36

Slavvy ~ maybe thats it, but I can't cope without a decent shower, we have a big old fashioned bath and at the rate the water is running, it will be cold before it even covers the important bits in the bath :eek:
30 is NOT old
and I have heard of several males being physically abused by their female partners ~ disgusting either way, you shouldn't ever, ever have to put up with that at all, whoever you are, male or female

Finally home and changed into something a little more comfortable

Careful_girl

Sorry Urbs just relating back to a previous joke in a post. Not insinuating anything!

Careful_girl wrote:

Sleep well all, I am hoping to!!!!!!:j
Don't shut up Spirit, we all love what you say there is proof in your outstanding thanks count. What is the trick? You sending spiritual vibes to the thanks button? Are you hypnotising people into thanking you? Huh? Or is it just that you say valuable things like how to post an apple and I just write cr*p?

Of course! Havent you seen the flashy thing on my avatar

Sorry to hear about you witnessing the abuse in your neighbour's garden

Philippa I finish on Friday.:T
Messy in Germany, if it is 30o at 10am (I think) The children get the day off school!!!!!:beer:
Love to all,
CG.:j Chocolate needing girl.

Miroslav

urban_spirit wrote:

Yes it was him beating her. He goes to the gym every night, and works in a physical job so.....well, dont want to go there. It really upset me. Horrible to hear. Flashback city.

When he talks to me he's always slagging her off, but disrespectfully not a general 'gawd my gf/bf!'. Talks about he like she's something on his shoe. Funny thing is, i've met his mum a few times and she's nice and he gets on well with her. Which blows my broad rule of thumb about knowing how a man will be by his relationship with his mum right out the window.

P,S. Done!

Doesn't sound a nice bloke. Anyone who hits anyone should have there hands chopped off. I can understand self defence or if someone has been provoked severely, but very rarely would I understand violence.

Never judge a man by his relationship with his mother. I was never close to my mum, but we got by. Most thugs are mummies boys anyway from what i've learnt.

I'll get the PM off to you soon then

Miroslav

Philippa36 wrote:

Slavvy ~ maybe thats it, but I can't cope without a decent shower, we have a big old fashioned bath and at the rate the water is running, it will be cold before it even covers the important bits in the bath :eek:
30 is NOT old
and I have heard of several males being physically abused by their female partners ~ disgusting either way, you shouldn't ever, ever have to put up with that at all, whoever you are, male or female

Finally home and changed into something a little more comfortable

I only have a bath, but in this weather, it's used even more than usual. I need cold water!

30 is old compared to a 21 year old young lady. Anyway it's only a girl who was shopping in Tesco. I don't think anyone will ever like me anyway.

When I was in retail, under 2 years ago, this nice young lady came in the shop. I served her and she smiled, said thanks and stared at me with a big smile and looked at me again as she left. Both other customers noticed, as did my colleague, who asked me if I knew her. I didn't, and they said she definitely liked me. She never came back though, so obviously not that much :rotfl: I was 28ish then, and she must have been 24/25 maybe. I just recall feeling down for ages, as I thought what might have been, had she come back, and then if I had the guts to say anything!

Physical violence is unacceptable either way. What my ex did was nothing serious, just the odd bruise at a time. Thing is, she didn't look like the sort.

Hope you are feeling cooler now, it's cooled down a little tonight, wind picking up.........hopefully Thunder and rid of some of this heat!

zombiecazz

Miroslav wrote:

:wave:

My flatmate's friend has that water problem, but the plumbers who installed everything say it's normal and the reason it looks like there is less water than before is......................the taps are bigger and the water running is spread out more :rotfl:

I do hope your flatmate's friend didn't let them away with that.....Funny though.
21 compared to 30 is not a huge age gap. There's 11.5 years between me and my OH.

Must admit that I feel luckier than the rest of you. It's hot up here, but not unbearable. Got a little burnt at the w/end as we went to the New Deer show, had great fun watching the tractor pulling ( i know really sad).

Oh messy sounds like you're having fun. I don't think it matters how old you get, a new relationship still makes you feel like a sixteen year old.

Have made a small start on the kitchen...cleared the sides. rested today as had a few glasses of wine last night so just couldn't be bothered today. Did discover a fab recipe for Fresh apple and mint salsa. mmmm!! it's my new favourite.
Also found a recipe for mint liqueur that I might have a go at.

Plan for tomorrow is to make a start on scrapping off all the wood chip (yes woodchip:eek: )

Absolutely loving being on annual leave

Miroslav

zombiecazz wrote:

I do hope your flatmate's friend didn't let them away with that.....Funny though.
21 compared to 30 is not a huge age gap. There's 11.5 years between me and my OH.

I think she had no choice, as her landlord wouldn't listen, and her tenancy worker is not much use.

Not huge, but maybe if I was 40 and the lady 31 it would be different.

I was reading another site I used to post on, and a 29 year old chap was asking for advice about his sister's friend who is 16. Most of the blokes were "go for it"..........I felt sick, as did some of the other posters who replied.

21, 31 , 41, i'd be happy with any......

I'm just not cut out for it I guess, maybe I will hit lucky one day, and somebody will take me for me. It just seems most people go for looks, money, type of car and type of job. Which kind of puts me bottom of anyone's list.

Good thing though, because i've had lots of poop happen in my life, I have today applied for 4 voluntary jobs on my way to re-building.

Miroslav

Positive note; because i've had lots of poop happen in my life, I have today applied for 4 voluntary jobs on my way to re-building.

1. Befriending Volunteer:

Volunteers will provide practical and personal support for families in their own home with children aged 0-8 years. Volunteers can help with parenting skills and pass on appropriate information to support family's needs.

2. Appropriate Adult Volunteer:

Volunteers are needed to attend a police station, in a parent's absence, to support a young person following their arrest, and be there for them during the interview. To be a friend and mentor to the young person and to ensure that the interview proceeds in accordance with fairness and in a way that the young person can understand.
For many young people this is their first and only encounter with the law and a volunteer can have a huge impact.
Our appropriate adult volunteers are also offered additional work if they are interested.

Skills/QualificationsVolunteers need to be articulate, non judgemental and able to relate to young people. They need to be able to be assertive from time to time and to be able to communicate comfortably with people from many different backgrounds who have different roles. Experience is not necessary.

3. A&E Volunteer:

The opportunityVolunteers needed to assist in creating a welcoming and friendly environment. They need to talk and listen to the patients, offer drinks to patients and relatives and food if allowed. They need to ensure the department is kept clean and tidy and accompany patients to other departments eg Radiology.

Skills/QualificationsNeed to have good communication skills, be polite and friendly, reliable and flexible. Volunteers need to use own initiative and be able to work as part of a team.

4. Meeter and Greeter:

The opportunityVolunteers needed to create a friendly, welcoming and helpful environment. Need to offer directional advice and practical assistance to patients and visitors. Volunteers need to collect and escort visitors to exits and provide a messenger service for reception areas and wards. They also need to provide information on all local amenities.

Skills/QualificationsVolunteers need to have good communication skills ,be polite, friendly and diplomatic in emotional situations. They need to be willing to learn, able to use their own initiative and work as part of a team.

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Think i'll be good at 2, 3 & 4. I did say on the form for number 3, I wouldn't want to pick up vomit etc

Number 1 interests me, but i'm concerned I only want to do it because I miss my daughter. She was only 2 when I last saw her and 9 when she died, and would now be 16. So i'm not 100% on that one.

urban_spirit

Philippa36 wrote:

Finally home and changed into something a little more comfortable

Philippa - does that mean you're sat there typing......naked :eek: :eek:

urban_spirit

zombiecazz wrote:

Plan for tomorrow is to make a start on scrapping off all the wood chip (yes woodchip:eek: )

Absolutely loving being on annual leave

Woodchip :eek::eek::eek: (swoon). I'll be thinking of you! Got textured paint over woodchip in my hall, landing, stairs (before I got here). Hideous stuff!!!