finding friends

ukbadger_2

Badger is doing ok - ish a friend came around lastnight and I got tipsy and tearful and she put me to bed and cuddled me to sleep.

Been to get haircut today and going out tonight for a girlie night out.

Have been through rollercoaster last 48 hours - missing him , hating him, aching for him but just got to get on with things I guess.

Have sent him hatefilled texts , missing you texts, how could you do this blah blah blah - totally and utterly pathetic.

I do miss him but couldn't ever let him come back just to leave again and that's bound to be what happens. House just seems full of reminders , mind is full of memories and promises for the future.

Only thing I need back is the money he owes me - not loads but enough !

Have got the chance of a date tomorrow but not sure about going - last thing I want to do is burst out crying infront of the poor bloke !

Ah well off to have a bath and get my glad rags on for tonight - hope I don't end up blubbing again !

Thanks everyone

Hx

rose07

hello everyone

god i aint been this way in a while, how is everyone doing?

i have a new job, 9 - 530, mon till friday now, so that keeping me busy,
bit manic and busy but good as money is comig in but i aint getting alot for what i do.

MC, great piccies, love them, ya make me wanna get out and take some again.

i had no bad friday the 13th which was good, lol. tho i am a little supersticious.

ok well just popping my head around the door

hope you all well
xxx

glicky

Hi everyone

I've been a browser on this thread, but never a poster. With what I'm going to post now seems like I'm going to put a stop to the positivity on this board for the moment :rotfl:

So another Saturday night in front of the computer eh? I'm 49, live on the outskirts of Essex/Greater London, most of my friends are married and now my only single friend has gone and got herself a boyfriend and here I am, single, fed-up and I suppose lonely and doing too much thinking.:rolleyes:

I've tried some of the "singles" clubs but it seems that the people at some of these clubs are just not on my wavelength. I just don't seem to "click" with them - do you know what I mean? I've joined a couple of "singles" clubs in the centre of London which have gone from being a restaurant/activities club to being an "opera and gallery" type of club, which is just not my scene! I joined a local one and all they seem to do is go out drinking (which is not me), with a couple of events that don't include drinking about once a month ... this makes it very hard for me to get to know the people. Anyway, I've been there done that sort of go to the pub/go out dancing thing years ago and I'm just not into that anymore.

Hence it is making it very hard for me to meet new people now. I'm not working at the moment because I've got COPD, so I can't even take part in my passion anymore which is tennis, because running around is a no, no :rolleyes:

I just don't know what to do with myself. All I seem to do now is eat :eek: which of course is not helping the situation, and of course sit in front of this computer 18 hours a day!

I'd just like to meet some new people male and female who are single and who's company I can enjoy. I know I'm being judgemental here, but some of the "nerds" who go to these singles clubs are just awful - I suppose some of them must think the same of me

I'm nearly 50 and I still feel at this stage in my life that I don't know what I want to do. Does anyone else feel the same? It's just so lonely know that most people you know have someone and I'm the one sitting here all alone and talking to a computer

Anyway, as this seems a rather friendly place, I thought I'd just share with you how I'm feeling. I'm sure you must all be asleep by now after reading this boring negative post

If any of you have any ideas, I'd appreciate it. I'm just at a loss as what to do and how to find new friends.

mclaren_2

glicky wrote:

Hi everyone

I've been a browser on this thread, but never a poster. With what I'm going to post now seems like I'm going to put a stop to the positivity on this board for the moment :rotfl:

So another Saturday night in front of the computer eh? I'm 49, live on the outskirts of Essex/Greater London, most of my friends are married and now my only single friend has gone and got herself a boyfriend and here I am, single, fed-up and I suppose lonely and doing too much thinking.:rolleyes:

I've tried some of the "singles" clubs but it seems that the people at some of these clubs are just not on my wavelength. I just don't seem to "click" with them - do you know what I mean? I've joined a couple of "singles" clubs in the centre of London which have gone from being a restaurant/activities club to being an "opera and gallery" type of club, which is just not my scene! I joined a local one and all they seem to do is go out drinking (which is not me), with a couple of events that don't include drinking about once a month ... this makes it very hard for me to get to know the people. Anyway, I've been there done that sort of go to the pub/go out dancing thing years ago and I'm just not into that anymore.

Hence it is making it very hard for me to meet new people now. I'm not working at the moment because I've got COPD, so I can't even take part in my passion anymore which is tennis, because running around is a no, no :rolleyes:

I just don't know what to do with myself. All I seem to do now is eat :eek: which of course is not helping the situation, and of course sit in front of this computer 18 hours a day!

I'd just like to meet some new people male and female who are single and who's company I can enjoy. I know I'm being judgemental here, but some of the "nerds" who go to these singles clubs are just awful - I suppose some of them must think the same of me

I'm nearly 50 and I still feel at this stage in my life that I don't know what I want to do. Does anyone else feel the same? It's just so lonely know that most people you know have someone and I'm the one sitting here all alone and talking to a computer

Anyway, as this seems a rather friendly place, I thought I'd just share with you how I'm feeling. I'm sure you must all be asleep by now after reading this boring negative post

If any of you have any ideas, I'd appreciate it. I'm just at a loss as what to do and how to find new friends.

Welcome to FF - what you have said sounds like a few people here, but, from your 1st post, everything is always up hill. We always have a laugh here, and we give some good advice

I am pleased you've (see CG, i can spell that word now ) taken the first step and written the post - thats the 1st step, now step 2, is to have fun in here

glicky

Careful_girl wrote:

Welcome Glicky!
Please don't think you are alone at your comp on a Saturday night there are many of us. You are so right about the singles scene; I know two friends who are really attractive who can't find a partner, nor seem to enjoy the type of socialising. I am seriously considering leaving my OH and joining it but I don't want to be lonely. Everyone says the same thing just go and do what you enjoy. There are few men around in primary teaching and my other passion horses. I am useless at suggestions but come and join our clan, we are a nice bunch and we all have a different situation. Quite a few of us are in visiting distance of London. I used to teach in Ilford and lived in London for 7 years. So you are not alone. Keep posting!!!
As for MC my Scottish friend I am highly impressed at your use of said apostrophe. I expected nothing less. Hope you are feeling better.
Hope all are well :hello: to Rose!
Take care all
CG.

Thanks for your welcome.

Where in Ilford did you teach? I live about 10 mins from Ilford in Chigwell. It would be nice if everyone could meet up wouldn't it? :j

Careful_girl

I used to work in Seven Kings. I lived in Goodmayes, Woodford and next to Tower bridge whilst I worked there.
We need to organise a meet up you are right. What is happening in half term everyone?
CG:beer:

SeldomSensible

Half term - I'm taking the week off work (yay) and catching up on the DIY I've been avoiding (boo) - but only after I've been to Edinburgh to visit my sister. Really looking forward to it.

Hope everyone else has nice things planned.

mclaren_2

Careful_girl wrote:

As for MC my Scottish friend I am highly impressed at your use of said apostrophe. I expected nothing less. Hope you are feeling better.

- feelin ok, still not my usual, still weak n tired n been drinking more liqiids in the past 2 days than normally would taken in a week but lol

whatamess_2

Hi all.

Hope you are ok badger

Hi glicky welcome to ff:j we come here have a rant, a moan, a laugh, a cry.

Dont know if we ever answered the op question though!!:eek:

I am decorating during half term, living room, hopefully getting new carpet and replacing the awful vinyl in this room.

Had a leak from shower into kitchen so need to do something about the laminate in the kitchen too!!

Love all

Messy

ukbadger_2

Doing ok

Got to get my head together tomorrow and start a serious hunt for a new job - going to apply for a job lecturing which would be a career change and probably just what I need!

The rat called me yesterday just as I was on my way out - wanting to know that I was ok and that he cared and missed me. Said I had been pretty vicious in some of my texts - his phone has been confiscated by 'her indoors' and she read every message I sent which pleased me. He asked if I was going out and I said yes and he said that he hated the thought of me going out and that I was bound to meet someone quickly as I'm the full package etc etc - told him he should have thought about that before he lied and tore my heart to shreds ! He said he was going to try and call today if he managed to escape but he hasn't and that's a good thing really - he's never going to be mine.

So Badger went out , got just slightly tipsical and managed to find a distraction for the night - I'm not really a fan of one night stands but when It's a gorgeous 23 year old with amazing stamina then it's quite a nice thing to do. Well they do say to get over a man get under another !! He's been in touch tonight saying he wants to see me again but I think it would just be a sex thing and I just know that I can't separate sex and love indefinately and it would end of damaging me - but it's tempting !!!!

Didn't go on my date tonight as enough going on at the moment but he was fine about it and said we could maybe go out during the week.

So action plan tomorrow is to find badger a new job have got something planned everynight next week so badger is getting it together gradually - with a lot of help from my friends.