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Philippa36

Thanks to you for starting the thread Wannabe ~ I still check in and read any new posts although I haven't posted for a while. Must get back in the habit!

Hope everyone is ok

Hugs,
Philippa xxx

whatamess_2

Hi all, I have been really lazy about posting here too:o

cc hope your mum gets better soon.

welcome sunlady.:D

We are a friendly lot around here.:D

Mr 4x4 is no more,

Work is really stressful at the mo,

Wheres kp gone

Love all

Messy

ukbadger_2

Well - I'm back , have had an awful few weeks and need some hugs , even thouhg have been neglecting you all since I got laptop back.

New man is gone and taken my heart with him .

Started off good but instinct screaming something's not right , then he drops bombshell 1 , I live with my ex and we have two sons , say it's ok and he ends up moving in.

Says he can't live without the boys and leaves again , tells her they can try again - we get back in touch meet in secret etc and he leaves home again and back to me.

We go out one night , get drunk , swim in the sea , spend the night making love and he tells me he wants to marry me etc etc - two days later he leaves again and tells me he actually has 4 sons.

Again we keep in touch he comes back for two days then leaves again and I am so upset have to get signed off work for 3 weeks - close to a nervous breakdown. We spend lastweek in the lake district and have a lovely time , talking loads and making plans then we come home moves back in and he goes all quiet again. Lastnight he told me that he had been to see his sons and his ex had told him that he wasn't welcome and she had no feelings for him - all of a sudden he realises that he doesn't love me and wants her so he goes again , this time for good.

I am devastated - I have lost my job , got a letter yesterday saying contract terminated during probation period , I miss him so much and I just feel like a total idiot. I know he has basically lied from day one but I just kept accepting it because I wanted to be with him so badly. Why - Why am I so needy ? The best of it is that earlier in the week he says he wants to try for a baby and we stupidly make love twice at my 'peak' time - I am undecided about going for the morning after pill which is also ridiculous but part of me wants to be pregnant with his baby.

If I had known about the boys at the start I'd have walked away but by the time he told me it was too late , I didn't think it was an issue with her as he told me it had been over for two years and they hadn't had sex since late last year. I can't count the number of times he has told me how much he loves me and I feel like a complete fool. I want to call him again but this will just keep happening. I never set out to be a homewrecker and if they have a chance of working things out then I have to walk away but I am aching for him - what a total mess.

Know I need to get a grip but just feel like everything has gone today and can't stop the tears - I so don't deserve this !

SeldomSensible

<<Bigs hugs>> badger, sorry to hear you've had such an awful time. Hope it gets better soon.

wannabe

Oh badger I am so sorry, you have been missed. What a total schmuck he is. I know you don't want to hear it but you are better off without him, he can't have everything. I guess with the pill you have to think would you be truly happy to see his baby everyday or would it bring you down? You have to do what it right for you. I wish I could take you out for a blooming good night out, probably followed by a heafty cry (but that doesn't matter it might make you feel better in yourself)
Please talk to us, I really feel for you. Some men can be such idiots
hugs to you wb xx

wannabe

Will it make you smile?????

Women's Parable
One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river,
her
thimble fell into the river .
When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My dear child, why are
you
crying?
The seamstress replied that her thimble had fallen into the water and
that
she needed it to help her husband in making a living for their family .
The Lord dipped His hand into the water and pulled up a golden thimble
set
with pearls .
"Is this your thimble?" the Lord asked .
The seamstress replied, "No . "
The Lord again dipped into the river . He held out a silver thimble
ringed
with sapphires .
"Is this your thimble?" the Lord asked .
Again, the seamstress replied, "No . "
The Lord reached down again and came up with a leather thimble .
"Is this your thimble?" the Lord asked .
The seamstress replied, "Yes . "
The Lord was pleased with the woman's honesty and gave her all three
thimbles to keep, and the seamstress went home happy .
Some years later, the seamstress was walking with her husband along the
riverbank, and her husband fell into the river and disappeared under the
water .
When she cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked her, "Why are you
crying?"
"Oh Lord, my husband has fallen into the river!"
The Lord went down into the water and came up with Johnny Depp .
"Is this your husband?" the Lord asked .
"Yes," cried the seamstress .
The Lord was furious . "You lied! That is an untruth!"
The seamstress replied, "Oh, forgive me, dear Lord this is only a
misunderstanding . You see, if I had said 'no' to Johnny Depp, you would
have come up with Brad Pitt . ! Then if I said 'no' to him, you would
have
come up with my husband . Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me
all
three . Lord, I'm not in the best of health and would not be able to
take
care of all three husbands, so THAT'S why I said 'yes' to Johnny Depp .
"
And so the Lord let her keep him .
The moral of this story is: Whenever a woman lies, it's for a good and
honourable reason, and in the best interest of others .
That's our story, and we're sticking to it

did it work?
wb xx

whatamess_2

OMG!!!!

Badger, _pale_ I am so sorry to hear that!!

There is nothing I can say that will make the hurt go away, all I can offer is a hug. ((((hug))))


The morning after pill has to be taken within (I think) 72 hours.


I am normally around at silly times.

PM me if you need to.

Love Messy

Philippa36

I can only repeat what the others have said UK ~ I'm so sorry, you have been through a really rough time.

I'm usually around if you want to talk ~ either pm or messenger.......

Yes 72 hours for morning after pill but the sooner the better for effectiveness.

Hugs,
Philippa xxx

ukbadger_2

Thanks everyone

I went to get the morning after pill but pharmacist says that with my Crohn's there is a huge chance that body would not absorb it as having a bit of a flare up at the moment. So have got to go to the docs tomorrow by which time it will possibly be too late ? Did the deed on Monday and Tuesday - to be honest I still don't know what to do , I have the strangest feeling that I have already conceived - on Tuesday night had some funny pains and a show of blood so now seeing it as a baby and with it being only 7 months since my last miscarriage it's hard to get my head around it.

I have called him today and he isn't answering so I guess at least he is being strong this time. I know I should just delete his number but he owes me some money and need to follow up if he doesn't pay that back as promised.

Keep consoling myself with the fact that I was happy before I met him and will be again but just seems like too much to get to grips with - am trying to start ball rolling with new job but feels like such a struggle. Going to see docs tomorrow for some help tablet wise , worst thing is the timing as I hate this time of year and get SAD , keep thinking about the christmas we were planning and now how lonely I will feel without him. Being pathetic I know but there are only so many times you can get over things like this before admitting defeat.

Hx

SeldomSensible

But this time of year might be good for finding someone new - parties/nights out etc.