finding friends

Careful_girl

Things not good around here. I send you all a hug.Wannabe I am a teacher too. OH did not get the job. Think your trip to Primark sounds fun -need some clothes too!! quite a long drive but could be persuaded.
Exhausted. Worried and fed up. nice to have a link to you lot though.
Love the bay tree for the bunny.
Save up for Primark,
CG.

ukbadger_2

Hugs to you careful girl xxxx

whatamess - Yes healthwise things have been pretty dodgy X All the more reason why I don't need a waste of space OH causing me stress !

ukbadger_2

Periods have been regular as clockwork since I lost the weight - my remaining symptom is the lovely black hairs on my chin x

whatamess_2

ukbadger wrote:

Hugs to you careful girl xxxx

whatamess - Yes healthwise things have been pretty dodgy X All the more reason why I don't need a waste of space OH causing me stress !

need to be totally selfish, relax as much as you can.




Periods have been regular as clockwork since I lost the weight - my remaining symptom is the lovely black hairs on my chin x :rotfl: :rotfl:
Completly forgot about them, they dont seem to stop growing do they, just get longer and longer.

Messy

whatamess_2

(((((((hugs)))))))) cg try and get some sleep tonight if you can. That might make you feel a little better.
Messy

Philippa36

Yes ~ lovely black hairs that get thicker :eek:

I have one coming out of my cheek too ~ not there one minute, an inch long the next

ukbadger_2

I must confess I nearly crashed my car today trying to pull one out of my cheek - I swear it was an inch long and wasn't there this morning when I left to go to work :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Peakma

Hi All,just thought I'd say hi again,as I've been following the thread since near the beginning.Anyone near Sheffield/ north Deerbyshire?
Too tired to type responses to all issues raised,but it sounds like you've all got your own traumas and stresses to deal with,so good luck to all.
I'm 29 and have three kids.My partner have a strange kind of relationship,he's kind of my best friend but he drives me insane! He's 10 years older than me and takes over things I'm doing,he's very patronising and underminds me a lot with the kids.-I often feel like he thinks of me as one of the children-and perhaps as a result I end up behaving like an annoyed teenager-I am not imature though!(hope I'm not painting a bad picture of myself!)He is a lot more capable and knowledgable than me(by my own admition) but I'm not entirely stupid and useless I try to tell him how annoying I find it,he thinks I'm just making someting out f nthing and he's just being useful,although when in situations I would really appreciate him being useful,he's far to busy doing nothing,letting me struggle to do everything.
Oh sorry to moan!But it just seems a never ending circle we get on for a while,we bicker we get argumentative,I suggest splitting up,niether of us actualy goes(he wont,and finding somewhere to rent round here is a night mare,and I love my garden,and my kids want to be with Mum and Dad)We put up with each other....and it goes round and round.My instincts tell me we should split,but then I try to imagine either of us with anyone else and cant(quite like the idea of a bit of an enthusiastic fun loving toy boy though!!)then I think I must love him,it's all so hard to explain.Sometimes I think we should go our own ways and amicably split up and be good friends look forward to seeing each other every so often as good friends ,other times I think we should realy make an effort to fall in love again,make time for the two of us,have fun together(he never wants to go or do anything-it drives me mad-but hopefully soon I'l have a driving licence so kids and I will beable to get about more)and maybe even get married one day,my nearly 3 year old would make a cute bridesmaid.But I just dont feel happy in our relationship,or my life in general at mo,he is totaly disorganised,forgets everything and wont make plans,if I make them anyway,he acts like he's being pushed around.(then feeling guilty to say that,as have healthy children,in a beautiful part of the world...)just feeling a bit stuck,lonely and frustrated.

Bun

Oh, I'm so sorry everybody is having such a bad time of it.

Careful Girl, such a pity your OH didn't get the job. My OH actually applied for a specific job, but they saw him for other possible opportunities so goodness knows if anything will come of it. Still haven't heard about the interview/project he did in May so have got fed up with getting excited. He at least has some freelance coming in. Good luck.

Wannabe - belly dancing sounds cool, one of my friend's mum's (very young mum though) does it and thinks it's fab. I'd love to come to the Southampton meet if you don't mind (feel I'm neglecting the thread a bit).

Best wishes to everybody.

Bun

edgebiker

Hi Wannabe and everyone else.
Someone wanted a mans perspective on lonliness.Am i qualified well i am a man, lonely not sure.To put you in the picture married a long time ago and divorced 7 years ago. Two daughters 16 and 12.
I have to say i felt more alone in a marriage that wasnt working than i have ever felt on my own. Although when i first moved out it was strange and i missed the girls, i was not lonely. Luckily i had kept a few good mates although ex hated the fact we all met once a week in the local pub and have done for past 25 years, is that boring or what. I would not like to go into a pub on my own though and just sit there drinking my orange juice and lemonade.
What i found going through divorce was all my friends were there for me, really lucky. The ones that werent were all those whos wives stayed friends with ex.it seems in divorce you have to take sides.
But what surprised me was how many friends and blokes at work were unhappy in their marriages and felt the same as me. Since we split up it seems nearly all the couples we knew have split.
Trouble with being on your own is that you become used to it. i have my routine Girls(daughters) work, i cycle a lot 200 miles this week. pub once a week for an orange juice and chat. To the local club to see a live band on the odd ocasion. But i would say the bit i miss most is having a special female friend for walks along the seafront, through the forest. trips to the pictures or just out for pub lunch, or just some female chat. so i would not say im lonely as such but there are times when you would like a bit more.
Sat here on the pc waiting for eldest to come in shes round bf watching football. She wants to be a teacher too.
Anyway have i made anything clearer, dunno, but i live near Southampton and im afraid i am not meeting you ladies in primark. Only time i went in their with girls all the clothes were on the floor. Youll find me sat on my own in costas at west quay watching the world go by with a medium americanno (is that spelt right) waiting for them to finish shopping. Or strolling along the seafront on a summers evening just at peace with the world.(but missing that female friend). Started reading this thread quite happy with my life but now im going to bed with a book and thinking mmmmmm i wonder am i or arent i .
Ah well take care everybody.