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Careful_girl

like the new sig Messy

giggs11

I need a friend

Careful_girl

Well you found us then. Welcome!
CG:j

urban_spirit

ukbadger wrote:

Oh forgot something I need your advice on ...

Last saturday I did my irregular stint babysitting for my niece and nephew and when I got home at half one I noticed a car badly parked about 5 doors up , as I approached I noticed there was someone in there even though the lights were off so I looked as I drove past and I am 99% positive it was my violent ex. I was really freaked out , came in and grabbed the phone ready to call the police , after about 5 mins he drove off.

I debated for ages about wether to call the police anyway or if I should contact him and ask what he was doing there. The last big incident was a couple of years ago when he drove his wreck of a car into my brand new car - this was followed by regular phone calls in the early hours when he'd slur drunkenly and play Gabrielles out of reach down the phone. I contacted him then by text saying he had to stop or I would phone the police , that I was recovering from major surgery and had a new partner - from that day nothing until last weekend.

Should I just hope that it was a one off ? I have been having a few silent calls too - it's worse as it was obvious that I was living alone , I hadn't shut the curtains and came back on my own.

Probably over-reacting but he tried to kill me once so it was really upsetting.

Hx

UKB!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!! The last sentence 'prolly over reacting but he tried to kill me once"!!!!! If he did that then youre NOT over reacting! You need to take it seriously for the police to take it seriously - and i've verbally kicked a policemans a**e from the DV unit for NOT taking a situation like this seriously as he was standing in my front room being smug!

What he wants is contact from you - it spurs them on. Even if youre yelling 'leave me alone you loser' something in their brain tells them you still want to talk to them. Contact the police and tell them your violent ex was outside (dont say maybe as they may not take it seriously), and about the phone calls, and keep a log of future calls. If the calls persist talk to BT about nuisance callers - they can do loads including intercepting each call if it gets bad and only putting through ones they know are ok from you.

Your safety is extremely important,and i'm NOT trying to scare you hon. The more you make yourself safe, the better it is. Draw your curtains when you go out, have your key ready when you go home and keep your mobile phone by you. I would say also do not contact your ex, as I said above this keeps them going. It may be a one-off, but if he does it again the police are gonna wonder why you didnt report it.

(deep breath out) You scared me. I have had knowledge of this situation myself, and have helped several women escape from this for good. Someone close to me - her ex tried to kill her infront of the kids, only thing stopped him was the kids screaming. He's now in HMP for it.

I am in no way trying to scare you hon, and tell me to butt my nose out if you want no prob, but please dont think you can reason with him or he'll go away soon, make sure your safe. And sending much comforting and safe ((((hugs)))) to you xxx

This post sounds heavy, but trying to make sure your safe. I'll pm you my home number if you want to talk if he turns up again. xx

(ps - there's a zero centre near me if you need any help or advice, and its strictly confidential)

urban_spirit

mclaren wrote:

has urbs got a full box eh

URBS, ya box is full

OY!!! Cheeky! My box now has space (thats sounds worse!)

urban_spirit

Messy- yaaaaay! So pleased that things are going well with mr 4x4 sounds like you had a fab day too! Love castles but never go
He's found out what we already know, that youre a gorge person!!!

KP - ooh! Handbags AND birkenstocks!!! My kinda gal

CG - Please buy a nice little quiet cottage on the edge of a lot of green so I can rent it from you Can you imagine an MSE landlord-fab! And please make sure it has a spare bedroom for when philippa comes to stay

Giggs11 - Youve found several! Welcome to our friendly thread You ok hon???

UKB - Good to hear from you again, was getting worried!

CC -How many days to go???

Went for a walk earlier on a local waterfront - sand, sea and sunshine. Was beautiful. Got bats in (wait for it) my garden again this year - yaaay!

((((hugs )))) to everyone, thinking of you.

For me, life's too short to put up with pants partners. Wouldve loved someone nice to be walking down the seafront with me, but rather walk alone than walk with someone who's pants to me (even if I did get a dodgy look or two )

mclaren_2

urban_spirit wrote:

OY!!! Cheeky! My box now has space (thats sounds worse!)

pmsl



wana dig ya grave? LOL

least ya have a big roomy box now

mclaren_2

giggs11 wrote:

I need a friend

youve found plenty here

urban_spirit

mclaren wrote:

pmsl



wana dig ya grave? LOL

least ya have a big roomy box now

RIGHT! Pass me that spade while I thwack you with it!!!!!

mclaren_2

urban_spirit wrote:

RIGHT! Pass me that spade while I thwack you with it!!!!!

Missed



im now a human dartboard for you

hey guys, i was wondering, if you could help with my quest - posted it in here. i basicly need a holiday but i dont have a scooby where lol.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=234601

thanks guys