Newbie, sad and lonely

skintbutsolvent

Just home after a long day. I feel so lonely, sometimes I wonder why I carry on - sometimes I go a week or more without talking to anyone barring pleasantries at work, in shops etc. And when I do talk to friends its usually me who instigates the contact - I can't remember the last time a friend called me just for a chat. I really wonder if anyone would notice if I just disappeared I have visions of being one of those terrible cases where someone dies and gets eaten by their cats....but I don't even have cats.

BitterAndTwisted

skintbutsolvent wrote: »

Just home after a long day. I feel so lonely, sometimes I wonder why I carry on - sometimes I go a week or more without talking to anyone barring pleasantries at work, in shops etc. Yep, same here except I'm not working at the moment so h avent spoken to anyone, anywhere for days now.And when I do talk to friends its usually me who instigates the contact - I can't remember the last time a friend called me just for a chat. Yep, same here. Some people are pretty wrapped up in their own stuff so forget you might not have dozens of folk to chat to anytime you feel like it. I really wonder if anyone would notice if I just disappeared I have visions of being one of those terrible cases where someone dies and gets eaten by their cats....but I don't even have cats.

I had a conversation with my sister a wee while back after I read a report about a poor woman who'd died suddenly at home and wasn't found for TWO YEARS. I fear ending up just like that woman. My sister now phones me once a week to ensure I'm still alive and kicking.

See, you're not completely alone. I think the key is to get yourself out of an evening by maybe joining a group activity of some description. It doesn't really matter what the ctual activity is, the point is to meet new peeps, even if it's just for an hour or so.

Whereabouts in the country are you?

skintbutsolvent

BandT - you certainly don't come across as someone who is lonely! Maybe IRL I don't either

On a positive, I have found out there are yoga classes held literally 2mins from where I live, so going to phone and try to get into one.

I'm far south England, to the point if you go further you fall off! My friends and family are in Essex and Midlands, so a good way off.

pollypenny

Chin up. Is there no one in the family whom you could tell and have a bit of support.

You are very brave, but you do not have to do it alone.

feelinggood_2

skintbutsolvent, could you give up the alcohol and sleeping tablets?

choille

You need to make an effort to change your situation by going to something other than your work.
Alright you can sit in your flat & drink & take sleeping tablets, but it aint gonna make things better, you have to make things better.
If you are depressed & it does sound like you are then you really should go back to your GP & ask for a some councilling.

Drink will make you feel worse afterwards, if you could try & cut back on it & think of a plan of action. Make a list of any hobbies, interests that you had & would be able to pick again.
make a plan for a treat over the weekend - visit somewhere - a museaum, an art gallery & have a coffee in a nice tearoom. Join a library, take a night class - so that at least one evening a week you have some social contact. Okay you won't make bossom friends instantly, but you won't make any contacts if you just sit in your flat getting stewed. You have to get out there.

And remember that people here care about how you are doing, so keep posting & keep in touch.
All the best.

skintbutsolvent

feelinggood wrote: »

skintbutsolvent, could you give up the alcohol and sleeping tablets?

I will, eventually. Think I would need to be in a padded cell to do it in one go though.

I don't take the sleepers every night, tho I do seem to drink every night ATM:rolleyes::rolleyes:

Maybe starting yoga will help???

choille

Yogas great - good on you.
That's a positive.
people who go to yoga are usually nice.
Great for relaxation techniques.

BitterAndTwisted

Yoga sounds like a fantastic idea: exercise and healing for the mind and the body at the same time. A great first step on your new journey!

Please, please be careful with the sleeping tabs love

lynzpower

skintbutsolvent wrote: »

Just home after a long day. I feel so lonely, sometimes I wonder why I carry on - sometimes I go a week or more without talking to anyone barring pleasantries at work, in shops etc. And when I do talk to friends its usually me who instigates the contact - I can't remember the last time a friend called me just for a chat. I really wonder if anyone would notice if I just disappeared I have visions of being one of those terrible cases where someone dies and gets eaten by their cats....but I don't even have cats.

Why not get a cat Its lovely to have a pet.

Id also wonder about doing a bit of light volunteering, meeting other volunteers, doing "your bit". There are lots of things that can be done of an evening and weekend.

There are lots of clubs, the historical society idea is great! Local history, ramblers association, book groups?

Certainly, being on here will make you a lot less isolated. There is always someone to chat to- about anything really. Do you live alone?

A couple of MSErs have become amazing freinds to me over time, they will be invited to my wedding!