What would you do?

liney

neneromanova wrote: »

It's not relevant, but I only ask as if you are a male with no kids then you would think this is pointless to you as you would be male. If you were a woman, then you probably have more money than sense or something like that.

To clarify, I am asking this question as I want to spend as little money as possible and buy as few beds in the long run as possible.

Well i'm married with a child, so i'm qualified to give an opinion :rotfl:

You don't need to make this decision now. And i think you will be putting unnecessary pressure on your daughter to "become a big girl", by thinking about this right now. If you wait 6 months, 8 months, then your daughter may well be ready to move into a big girl's bed of her own accord without any drama.

Moving children up to proper beds, is abit like potty training. If they aren't ready then you will have issues. You can't possibly know if she will be ready this far in advance, and making decisions on if's and buts now will simply mean you have to look again closer to the time anyway.

mumslave

There is rude and there is honesty.

mrcow

liney wrote: »

Well i'm married with a child, so i'm qualified to give an opinion :rotfl:

Well I've three children - so by that reasoning I'm three times more qualified than you to give an opinion

Although if I were a man (by the sounds of it) it would be irrelevent to me by some warped logic that I've still yet to hear an explanation for (cough)


Thanks for the rest of your post btw......glad to have some sensible input - I was getting worried.

mrcow

mumslave wrote: »

There is rude and there is honesty.

And you have been rude.

Zazen999

mumslave wrote: »

There is rude and there is honesty.

Quite right. and the honest answer is that the OP has so many variables in the next year regarding dates of getting pregnant, giving birth, her DD's development that in all honesty; she should really wait and see.

jackomdj

I fell for my first on the pill & fell day one of trying for my second - so it could happen in the timescale you hope!

DD was 2 on the 24th Oct & baby was due early March. In the Jan (after our visitors had gone) DD & I put the new (old one we had in the loft with a new matteress) bed up & her new wardrobe etc. She then got in her bed, with its new side rail to have a try. She went up before her Daddy arrived home so she could pretend to be asleep & she slept beautifully from that night onwards.

HTH
Nicky

Greener_Grass

I don't see what its got to do with anyone else if the OP will get pregnant or not etc? Its got nothing to do with why and what she was asking. Can people not just answer a simple question without putting a negative spin on things.:rolleyes:

OP, have you thought about buying a moses basket to use first so your daughter can stay in her cot bed a bit longer and then she may be more ready to go into a big bed?

I'm not considering another child yet but I have thought ahead and plan to do this when the time comes

jackomdj

Greener_Grass wrote: »

OP, have you thought about buying a moses basket to use first so your daughter can stay in her cot bed a bit longer and then she may be more ready to go into a big bed?

I'm not considering another child yet but I have thought ahead and plan to do this when the time comes

Greener Grass - the only downside to this is the older sibling MAY see it as getting pushed ot of their bed for the new baby. Moving them prior to the baby, then baby having time in a different bed (moses basket) first they don't see it that way. Having sid that my eldest was so excited about her new bed I din't think she could have cared less about her old one...but that was why I did it my way.

neneromanova

Thanks Greener Grass and Jackomdj.

I've been looking at moses baskets but they're like £50-£100, which would mean buying that, then buying a new bed. I think I agree with the putting her in a new bed a couple months earlier.

kimmi_b

OP, please ignore all these posters who advise you to not think about such 'petty' things, if you want to plan ahead then you do that. I would imagine that if you are TTC, then having all eventualities planned for in your head might make for one relaxed lady, perhaps making conceiving that much easier!!

Anyway, I digress. My experience of your situation is that we found out we were expecting DS when DD was 16 months old (we were only TTC for 1 month luckily). It was in the March that we got the new bed with bed guard for DD so she would have been......20/21 months.

We put the cotbed in the babys room but when he was born he was in with us in a crib anyway, so by the time he went into his own room she had forgotten all about the cot being 'her bed'.

As for how to prepare her, we didn't do anything special. Got the bed, put it up in the bedroom (but left her old cotbed quilt and pillow on it for a few weeks so she had something she was used to), then brought her upstairs to play in her bedroom and just stayed with her while she explored the bed and the new set-up. She was perfectly happy to go to bed that night and we have had no trouble from her since. BTW after a few weeks I bought her a proper single bed duvet set and duvet cover of her favourite character, Peppa Pig, so that has helped her enjoy bedtime too.

Every child is different though so just let your instincts guide you. Good luck with Big Girl Bed and TTC