advice about splitting up please!!!!!

zoesmummy_2006

oh god dont even mention forms to me lol, i've never filled in so many bloody complicated forms, the IS one had to be the worst, i had to keep calling them to help me thru it, and generally got someone who didnt have a clue and couldnt be bothered to help me!!! but if it means a roof over our head and a bedroom i can call my own i'll fill in a stack of papers as high as a house!!!

rainbow81

Careful for what you wish for! Only kidding.

I could write a guide to filling in forms I think, being a single mum to a disabled son I've completed a few in my time.

You must be under so much stress so I hope you are being taken very good care of by your family and friends. You find out who your real ones are when you need them (friends, not family).

It is natural to keep imagining what it would be like to get back with your ex, I still do it and it's been 2 years! But then reality kicks in and I know it'll never be the fairytale that's in my head.

Sounds like you are staying strong. I do believe your children can be your rock in times like this, just by needing you and keeping you in a routine. They keep you grounded I think.

Hugs again, it sounds like you haven't hung around and are getting things sorted. Good luck with the house hunting.

R x

lavidaloca

I am sorry you are having problems but you must take financial advice. You ought to get your name taken off the joint account too as, if he runs this into overdraft, you will be jointly liable. It is commendable that you want to pay your inlaws back but I wouldn't give him the money to do that. Pay them your half if you wish and get them to give you a receipt to that effect.

You should not be giving him any money whatsoever he should be paying you maintenance for your children. I would also insist that he sees the children either at your house or at his parents house so that he is not introducing them to all and sundry.

I am also concerned about the dog. Is he looking after it properly?

Finally I wouldn't take him back as you don't know who he has been with nor what he may bring back with him. UGH!

rachel6188

no advice just massive hugs huni. stay strong. you are handling the whole situation amazingly well. take care of yourself and the kids. well done to your ds on walking!!!! xxxx