MSE Pregnancy Club 17

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

Hassle - I agree with xmas lolly, mine were easier to feel in the early days when I lay down or was in the bath, no distractions. I see your about 18 weeks, have you felt anything that you suspect is movement yet. I felt my first flutters at 12 weeks but as this is my 2nd and the sonographer says my placenta is lying to the back they should be easier to feel. If your placenta is lying to the front it could easily mask any kicks. As the weeks have went on they have got stronger and stronger, so now even when I am talking to someone I notice them & so now I and others can feel them from the outside.
HTH

due back at the docs today, been off all week with stress/depression/panic attacks, still not feeling any better, got news this week that jobs are massively at risk at work ( can't go into detail but were basically up for sale to the highest bidder who is likely to make massive redundancies ) so now thats all I can think of, every night I dream nightmarish senarios. I am fine when I'm distracted and in the early part of the week because going back to work seemed so far away but now its getting closer and I know the atmosphere in work is going to be terrible, I'm terrified. I also seem to be getting carpal tunnel, so arm when I wake, loss of feeling in fingers, I've tried sleeping on my other side but I always move during the night.

Feel like a big moany baby but I'm hoping the doc will sign me off for another week or so. He talked about counselling with I think would help, might try to get the ball rolling today. Some people are probably thinking if your job is so precious get back to work but I just don't feel mentally strong enough to cope and the doc mentioned prenatal depression if not resolved makes the likelihood of post natal depression much greater.

Am I overreacting it's hard to be objective with all these hormones

ps I have taken all the unpaid leave options I possibly can to try and make it easier on myself

xmaslolly76

Hugs lilsis it cant be nice to hear news like that when your already feeling low. I would try not to worry yourself silly (i know easier said than done). I have had depression although not whilst preganant nor have i suffered with post natal depression but the normal kind is bad enough. I was advised to get out and about a little bit of excercise is apparently very good for depression as it releases the chemical you are lacking. Can you get yourself into an aqua natal class at all? Also the councilling sounds like a very good idea it really helped me more so than the medication they tried to make me take.

You need to concetrate on you at the moment Dont worry about the job thing until it happens it one of those cross that bridge when you come to it situations. On the plus side although you are off ill they are not allowed to use pregnancy related illness against you so thats one less thing to worry about.

I hope you start feeling better soon and remember its just you and bean you need to worry about the rest can wait until you feel better :-)

rach

lola - poor you, i don't think you're overreacting, you're obviously concerned and stressed about it all. Sounds like your dr is on the ball though.

I was hoping for a lie in but seem to have lost my capacity for them (partly cos I wake up hungry!), still, a bit of quiet time before DH gets up There seems to be a whole day of escape to the country on today.

DH was really pleased/impressed with my Moses basket and sleeping bags, never mind the nappies!

Does anyone have experience of petit star pushchairs? Having thought through it we have decided we need something small, umbrella fold and lightweight and my sister has a friend with the Petit Star Zia, apparently she loves it, they also do a citybug one. My sister has a bigger petit star 3 wheeler and has found it excellent, and much cheaper than elsewhere. Obviously we'll go and try loads out but just wondered if anyone has any experience?! Other option is a maclaren that's suitable from birth, only prob i've read that the handles are high for a short person (i am only 5ft).

BudgetBlonde

rach wrote: »

Does anyone have experience of petit star pushchairs? Having thought through it we have decided we need something small, umbrella fold and lightweight and my sister has a friend with the Petit Star Zia, apparently she loves it, they also do a citybug one. My sister has a bigger petit star 3 wheeler and has found it excellent, and much cheaper than elsewhere. Obviously we'll go and try loads out but just wondered if anyone has any experience?! Other option is a maclaren that's suitable from birth, only prob i've read that the handles are high for a short person (i am only 5ft).

I looked at a Mamas and Papas Ultima but when we tried the car seat it wouldn't go in my car even with the isofix base, which was a bit annoying. My second choice is a Silver Cross Linear which is another travel system one but I'll need to test that out for fitting in the car too. We do a lot of "off roading" type walking so need something with good suspension and one that can fit the car seat to the chassis would be ideal for us. I think it's quite a personal choice depending on your lifestyle. Best thing is to go and play with loads. Is it just me or does anyone else get a bit superstitious pushing an empty pram?

nikkit72

Originally Posted by gill_81uk
I need to get some reasonable cheap newborn sleepsuits but I want ones with foldover cuffs/built in scratch mits. Does anyone know if Asda or Sainsburys sleepsuits have these?

i can confirm , matalan and sainsburys have the roll over mitts attached to sleepsuits , tesco dont , bhs dont , these are the only placesi have bought from

OlipopsMummy

rach wrote: »

Does anyone have experience of petit star pushchairs? Having thought through it we have decided we need something small, umbrella fold and lightweight and my sister has a friend with the Petit Star Zia, apparently she loves it, they also do a citybug one. My sister has a bigger petit star 3 wheeler and has found it excellent, and much cheaper than elsewhere. Obviously we'll go and try loads out but just wondered if anyone has any experience?! Other option is a maclaren that's suitable from birth, only prob i've read that the handles are high for a short person (i am only 5ft).

I have had this pushchair and it is RUBBISH. Im actually surprised so many people on here seem to like them cos i thought it was a complete waste of money, the basket is tiny, i mean miniscule you cant fit anything in and tbh you can hardly access it because the underside of the pram blocks it off, so you have to push the back up disturbing baby to even get in. In general i have found three wheelers to be very problematic, the front wheel on my petit star always got jammed, the pushchair wouldnt go in a straight direction but allways veered to the left and i had problems turning right with it. Also the seat doesnt go straight for when bubs is older, my toddler has enjoyed sitting up perfectly straight in his pram since about 8 months and this is always reclined, it just simply will not go completely straight. I threw mine on the tip as i couldnt imagine giving someone else such crap. I have a maclaren and im getting a maclaren twin and these are excellent. My mum uses a Cossato and that is ace as well and sits up straight and has a big basket, you need to go soemwhere like mothercare and push and play with lots.

salesshopper

Hi everyone - Happy Easter vibes all round.

CAFC - sorry you r having a lousy time - I stress over measurements and position as well. Hope you have a nice relaxing time over Easter and your itching calms down. I'm envying your lack of appetite I think I've got your appetite, mine and a small army's too.

Going to take DD 5 to Newcastle with DH off to discovery museum - feel tired just thinking about it but she will love it.

rach

OlipopsMummy wrote: »

I have had this pushchair and it is RUBBISH. Im actually surprised so many people on here seem to like them cos i thought it was a complete waste of money, the basket is tiny, i mean miniscule you cant fit anything in and tbh you can hardly access it because the underside of the pram blocks it off, so you have to push the back up disturbing baby to even get in. In general i have found three wheelers to be very problematic, the front wheel on my petit star always got jammed, the pushchair wouldnt go in a straight direction but allways veered to the left and i had problems turning right with it. Also the seat doesnt go straight for when bubs is older, my toddler has enjoyed sitting up perfectly straight in his pram since about 8 months and this is always reclined, it just simply will not go completely straight. I threw mine on the tip as i couldnt imagine giving someone else such crap. I have a maclaren and im getting a maclaren twin and these are excellent. My mum uses a Cossato and that is ace as well and sits up straight and has a big basket, you need to go soemwhere like mothercare and push and play with lots.

Thanks! I knew it was worth asking! I know we need to try lots out, and we will, but it's always worth asking people too I reckon cos how it feels in the shop is not necessarily how it will play out. I had a woman who I met through work who lived right by canary wharf in a flat and raved about her maclaren, she had planned on only using slings no pram but the baby didn't like a sling so they went out and bought a maclaren, she said all her friends then abandoned their big travel systems and bought one too!

bexta

Hi, not been on for what seem like ages but is really just a couple of days. *HUGS* for those who need 'm. I wonder if there's something in the air at the moment, cos I've been feeling really down lately too. Got a day off today, so just going to try and chill out and make OH a nice tea (although he's got a bad cold so won't taste it)

With the whole pram thing, I realised last night that I'd put more thought into it than when I bought my car. Scary huh? I bought though - and I'm not sure what it's actually really like- a Bertini London pram off ebay for £100 last night. It's a big old bus, but the daughter of one of my colleagues has one and says it's the best pram she's ever had, and she's got 4 kids. Like me, she does a lot of walking, and it seems really spacious if you need any shopping. I guess when bubs is bigger I'll wind up with a little stick buggy just for ease, but hopefully I'll get on with this one.

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

rach wrote: »

Other option is a maclaren that's suitable from birth, only prob i've read that the handles are high for a short person (i am only 5ft).

I have trouble remembering what i read five mins ago so please excuse me ladies for jumping right to the end. Sorry

I have a Maclaren Volo for DD, it's only suitable from 6months but if i can get Hubbie to get it out as it's not been used in the last 6mths, tonight i'll measure the handle height for you - I'm only 5ft too but have pushed that about quite comfortably - in fact i think its the best stroller in the world lol as it's super duper light at just over 4kg:T. If i can give you the handle height it might give you a measurement to compare the 'from birth' ones to - i know many of the Maclarens are made for taller people though.

OK - yesterday the MW's said bubs has turnt breech, now i'm pretty sure he IS still head down - his hiccups are felt really low down and i'm getting 'pushed' by what feels like legs quite high up. I am pretty certain he hasn't turned around and got back that way as since yesterdays injection as he seems pretty quiet and hasn't had any BIG movements. It's bothering me as i really want to know for sure now - if they feel baby might be breech when you go into labour do they scan to make sure before ordering a c-section or just go by feeling? Does anyone know? Becuase the first MW was unsure what she was even feeling and it seemed he second just came in and agreed with her

I have also had some shocking news that i'm not sure if i should share PLEASE STOP READING NOW IF YOU ARE EASILY SCARED!!! - i have really been contemplating whether to mention it or not to you ladies. I know i have just planted the seed so i'm gonna go ahead and say. Yesterday i was warned (or rather hubby was - but he chose to tell me yesterday eve) to stear well clear of allowing a c-section unless they demand it really is a medical emergancy - hubby has been ordered to be firm and not give in easily and has been given strict orders on signs to look for in terms of baby distress or my distress. Someone is a little worried for me and the care of the hospital so far and she thinks they are itching to 'use' me (she is high status in her hosp) - they reckon i might be given a c-section as practise for a surgeon :eek:, aparently if you are already a 'risk' case sometimes they'll pop you in for one anyway as one the surgeon gets another stat to his name and the hosp get more funding :eek::eek::eek::mad:

I will be doing EVERYTHING within my means to help this baby come naturally - thats for sure now.

I'm gonna edit and remove that soon as i don't want to leave that kind of thing about on sucha sensitive thread so please don't quote it. I'm just a bit scared now that maybe that IS the route things are going down and why i keep being kept in. She said in London hosps (hers is a main one) it's get people in and and out as quick as poss due to how busy it is - She is already aware that my hosp and alot of sussex hosps keep beds filled unneccesarily in order to up their funding rather than lose some due to not being full enough. If you think about it, it's wrong but it makes sense - it's just not nice when you then realise you are just another stat to them and not really that much of a patient as such. :mad: