MSE Pregnancy Club 17

SazM030306

OMG CAFC what an insensitive witch!! She is so jealous. You're right it is all relative, and your bump looks completely normal to me.
Thanks for accepting me as a friend
Saz xxx

Gillby1

Hey all,

CAFC - I can't believe a friend would send that sort of message to anyone! Surely someone with two kids knows that all pregnant ladies carry differently, and grow differently! Honestly, every day someone will tell me i look huge, and then someone else will tell me i barely look pregnant. They all need their eyes tested, coz i'm measuring exactly right for dates!:p

Speaking of which - just back from my 36 week appointment and looks like little lad is still in breech, so am booked in for a scan to confirm. If so, looks like i'll need to decide whether to go for ECV (manual external turning of the baby by a consultant, i believe). If that doesn't work, they recommend a caesarean. Keep trying to tell myself that a healthy baby is all that matters, but am still suprisingly dissapointed that it might be taken out of my hands.

Never mind, though. Am on my first day of maternity leave and starting to relax. Will cook OH a nice tea tonight, just coz i have time (am usually home after him).

Gill - hope you get your classes sorted.

Take care all!

Gilly

mermaid85

RE FB etiquette - not really PG related but thought I'd ask as you all seem to have opinions on it

An old school friend, who I have stayed in contact with up until a year ago, is constantly sending me messages on FB - wall and PM. I don't actually want to talk to her, but seems really rude to keep ignoring her/or to delete her. We were more mates in the last few years than friends - without wanting to seem really shallow, she's more the type of person you spend time with when you want to have fun and aren't too bothered what happens. She can be a massive liability, every time we go out she gets thrown out of pubs/clubs and is way too drunk. She has 3 children, 5, 7 and 10, who she has lost custody of - but if she got a job and house sorted she would be able to have them back. This has been going on now for about 4 years which says to me she's not that bothered about it.

She claims she hasn't, but I suspect and have been told that she has a drug problem - even if not the amount that she drinks is dreadful. I don't actually want her at mine when dd is there, as even on a school night she will get drunk and over the top - there have been times in the past I've had to literally throw her out because asking her gets ignored. So now that I'm pg and living in a better area I REALLY don't want her coming round!! But how do I go about letting her know this without being nasty? Or do I just ignore her?

redstararnie76

GiLlby - congratulations for your first day of ML!
Mermaid - what a difficult position to be in, I wish I could advise, but I have to confess I'm useless with things like that.... I just tend to keep my head down and hope they give up on me

mermaid85

Thanks redstar - I've been trying that for ages now lol and she doesn't seem to be getting the hint though Have even changed my mobile number so it is the only way she can get hold of me short of turning up, which as she doesn't drive and I'm in a village is unlikely.

kitkat5566

mermaid85 wrote: »

RE FB etiquette - not really PG related but thought I'd ask as you all seem to have opinions on it

An old school friend, who I have stayed in contact with up until a year ago, is constantly sending me messages on FB - wall and PM. I don't actually want to talk to her, but seems really rude to keep ignoring her/or to delete her. We were more mates in the last few years than friends - without wanting to seem really shallow, she's more the type of person you spend time with when you want to have fun and aren't too bothered what happens. She can be a massive liability, every time we go out she gets thrown out of pubs/clubs and is way too drunk. She has 3 children, 5, 7 and 10, who she has lost custody of - but if she got a job and house sorted she would be able to have them back. This has been going on now for about 4 years which says to me she's not that bothered about it.

She claims she hasn't, but I suspect and have been told that she has a drug problem - even if not the amount that she drinks is dreadful. I don't actually want her at mine when dd is there, as even on a school night she will get drunk and over the top - there have been times in the past I've had to literally throw her out because asking her gets ignored. So now that I'm pg and living in a better area I REALLY don't want her coming round!! But how do I go about letting her know this without being nasty? Or do I just ignore her?

I had a similar situation to this where someone on facebook kept messaging me all the time, the first thing I did was change what they see on my profile, i think u do this on the friends list somehow, and let them view a 'limited profile' as this doesnt show all your profile and looks like your not so active on your account. I also blocked them from writing on my wall but remained friends with them. All they could do then was pm me and when they asked why they couldnt write on my wall I just said that I had to up my security settings as someone kept hassling me, without directly saying it was them. I replied to some of their pms, but not all, and now they seem to have got idea and backed off, and just send messages occasionaly which I am happy with. I know it seems petty of me, but they were texting me/ ringing me/ facebook messaging/ facebook walling/ etc all hours of the day and it got too much I did feel like I was being stalked!
I also worked with this person, so it felt like they were there when I left work!

mermaid85

Thanks Kitkat - I think I've moved her to limited but will check and see if I can get that a bit tighter too. Blocking her from wall sounds like a good plan, it gets really embarrassing coz I know everyone else can see what's being written! Today it was "life is going good, how come I'm missing out on it all? When can we catch up? I miss you, when can I see you?" As me and OH have changed to engaged now I think this is what's provoked it.

kitkat5566

No problem mermaid, see how you get on, hopefully it will cut down her posts. I found it was really getting to me and I never wanted to go on facebook, then I would get texts asking why I hadnt replied! I just stopped putting credit on my phone and said I couldnt afford it, saved a fortune!

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Hi ladies.

Just had a quick scan through to see how everyone is getting on but i have forgotten it all now (nappy brain is really kicking in as i stuck the conditioner in the fridge and the milk under the sink this morn) Sorry

CAFC - don't worry, i have had similar on facebook - not as mean but everyone thinks i look tiny and am i sure i'm this far gone - the stupid thing is mine is an old pic of me at 5months. In pics i look tiny for some reason but everyone sees me and goes 'Whoah' because really i'm huge (think size 4/6 and just 5ft tall with 8 month belly - it really loks like i stuffed a football up my top as apart from my boobs nothing else has changed). Everyone carries differently, i seem to stick out a mile where as i know someone at the mo who is carrying around the waist rather than poking out much at all. Don't worry hun, i'm sure you look and are growing perfectly normal for your stage

I hope you are all well though! x

Congrats to Gym!!! x

I was going to ask something but i have duly forgotten - duh me, lol! x

fernliebee

mermaid- If you really wanted to get rid of her you could put a message on your wall saying you have had enough of FB and are deleting your account tomorrow. Then the next day just have a 'cull' and make sure you block people who you don't want on there. They won't be able to see that you are on facebook ie any tagged pics of you, your name will be blacked out, your posts on any mutual friends walls will be invisible to them etc. All your other friends will just think you chickened out of leaving the addictive fold of facebook.

Or just out and out delete her ha ha!