MSE Parents Club Part 8

Sami_Bee

Mel have you tried contacting the CAB to see if there is anything you can claim that you're not already?
Honestly its not fair to say its your fault, if you had known you wouldn't get the money you wouldn't have gone to uni. You did what you thought was best, You ar a good person and a great mother xxx

redmel1621

I know I didn't know about the money, but if I knew I would have been pregnant so soon I wouldn't of gone either...but that is my fault too, yes I know I react badly to the pill, but I could have kept trying different ones, or at least not gone to uni so I could have kept taking the risk (like I wanted to) I also knew, or at least should have known, that A) dh doesn't cope very well with change the kids hate breakfast/after school club and C) I would feel guilty for putting Kai in nursery so many days each week....and dh hates him going there

It is a hard situation, but I should have put my family first that is why I am a bad person...well I won't do it again and as soon as I get my money (the part that they owe me) I will leave Uni and hopefully things will settle down.

Mel x

money_maker_3

mel, I have sent you a pm

Need to go get Jasmine from school soon, and Chris wants to go for a drive this afternoon, but I really couldnt be bothered !! He has his first official lesson tomorrow morning, so I am trying to talk him into waiting till after that so he knows what he needs to practice !!

searching_me

coulda woulda shoulda mel whats done is done darlin poo things have happen some with your control and alot without your control ...... i hope things work out ((hugs)) x

csh_2

redmel1621 wrote: »

I know I didn't know about the money, but if I knew I would have been pregnant so soon I wouldn't of gone either...but that is my fault too, yes I know I react badly to the pill, but I could have kept trying different ones, or at least not gone to uni so I could have kept taking the risk (like I wanted to) I also knew, or at least should have known, that A) dh doesn't cope very well with change the kids hate breakfast/after school club and C) I would feel guilty for putting Kai in nursery so many days each week....and dh hates him going there

It is a hard situation, but I should have put my family first that is why I am a bad person...well I won't do it again and as soon as I get my money (the part that they owe me) I will leave Uni and hopefully things will settle down.

Mel x

Mel A) it takes two to make a baby kids will just have to learn to adjust to change C) Regardless of the circumstances every mother feels some guilt when the time comes to leave the baby :-(

Just out of interest what is it that your DH does?

Becles

Sorry to hear how you are feeling Mel, but don't blame yourself. It's not your fault the money hasn't been sorted out. I would keep hassling them to get it sorted.

As for Christmas, could you keep an eye on the Grabbit etc., forums on here and buy lots of little things? A few inexpensive presents would look like a lot in a pile, and could be cheaper than buying one big expensive present

Krystaltips

Mel, you decided to leave work and go to university because you weren't happy in your job and you wanted to better yourself. You couldn't have forseen the problems you've had, and neither could your OH...

I think if you didn't have the stress of no income then you would be working around the other problems without too much worry. Because you have no money it is impacting on everything and making it all far worse than it should be.

I have no practical advise to offer about the cash apart from what Sami said, and just see if there is anything else you can get to help you for the time being... But don't make any rash decisions while you're at this crisis point. Wait until you have your money, give it a few weeks and re assess the situation...

And have some ((Hugs))

Oh, and your hubby could have always stuck something on the end of it... It takes two!

redmel1621

Thank you all for listening and advising....We are claiming the maximum of everything we are entitled to at the moment.

I will go away and stop moaning on now and stop wallowing in self pity (well I will do it quietly)

Krystal:rotfl:He was in charge of that 'area'

Mel x

Krystaltips

Well Mel, next time he's telling you it's all your fault... Remind him of that little fact...

My poor hubby would jump at the chance at the minute... I think I'm going to have to just make myself... My mojo has shown no sign of returning so far...

searching_me

ive had adult 'fun' once in nearly 5 weeks im fed up of spotting off and on now 5 weeks solid .. its driving me mental x