MSE Parents Club Part 8

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Elle there is a mummy in my breast feeding group that bottle feeds, I did wonder why but after careful ear wigging I discovered it was because she was having EBM with bulking powder (bit like Rhys ) she's now on lactose free formula but she still comes to BFing group. My surestart is really good, the lovely pics of my Chris on the slide etc are taking in the play ground part and I'm thinking of biting the bullet and joining one of the classes with Edgar and putting Chris in the free Creshe there - scared!!
The first time I just turned up and chatted to the receptionist who signed me up for about 6 things :rotfl:Ours has things just for Dads too like a 5- a-side football thing and Dads & kids only gardening class.
Although mine is in a crappy area the chavs don't use it because they are out in town ignoring their kids that are stuck in the buggy while they smoke n chat up jobless losers :cool: it's the nice caring mummies ike me that use it

OH just asked me to "trim the bum fluff bits on my back" and I thought he meant his hairy botty but he meant the un-neat parts on the back of his neck :rotfl: so any hoo off to do that for him..

LOL at your marital (marrital??) grooming situation :rotfl:


Thinking about it Elle - there is a lady that (I think) goes to Fritha's Booby Club and she bottle feeds EBM because her letdown is too quick and her baby (I say baby - she is about Benjamins age!) can't cope with it. I met her at the BF Picnic and she tried to BF and then gave up and got out a bottle.

The BF groups are pretty all-encompassing here. At my main one we have a FF baby who is a week younger than Benjamin - BF didn't work out but mummy likes the group!! We also have a mummy who has only BF at night (7-7) since baby was 5 weeks old, all other feeds are EBM because she was due to go back to work at 12 weeks. We also have a mummy whose milk dried up at 4m (baby is now 14m), 2 mums who have stopped BF and 3 daddies who have never BF!! I was out with 2 of the Booby Club daddies this morning!

What I am saying is, don't discount them just because they are BF Groups. The problem with the classes is there isn't enough time to gossip and make friends

Krystaltips

3onitsway wrote: »

I'd like to hear about the broken arm - but also wouldn't!

I have a phobia about one of my babies coming to me with a serious injury - and me being pathetic and useless!

Touching wood - noone has had any more than a bumped head. No broken bones and no stiches so far. :T

(It's Caitlyn with a Y but I'll let you off )

It's a very un-dramatic story really, there was no great wailing (apart from mine when I realised I'd broken my baby)

I meant to say, I'm glad Liv thought Aimee was cute... She loves bigger kids, but I thought Liv might have been put out by the little voice calling 'Olivia' over the table every 5 mins lol

mookiandco

Hi all,

Just been trying to catch up. Couldnt help with your earlier question SM, employment law is definately not my thing!

Had a phone call from Ofsted today for my CM's inspection. I felt like I was being interrogated and I was scared i'd say the wrong thing and get her into trouble. At the end of the questions I made it very clear how happy I was with the CM and how much easier she had made my return to work. Hope she passes with flying colours. Will look forward to reading the report in a couple of weeks.

We are off to Portugal next Thursday and i'm soooo excited. I want to start packing now!

I had a big chat with my boss yesterday and ended up bursting into tears. He was then asking if everything has been alright since 'the birth' and I think he was trying to hint that I was depressed or something.

Now gather round boys and girls i'm going to tell you a little story:

In April 2009 my work offered my hubby a job. Now the job meant that my hubby had to take a significant pay cut (basically half) from his previous job. But he needs to so he could do the training to qualify as a solicitor. He should have done it years ago but we couldnt have survived financially if we were both on the low salary trainee solicitors get so he put his on hold until I qualified. Sadly this meant that his ability to get a job with a solicitors firm was badly affected. Anyways, my firm offered him a job and I was so pleased for him. It did mean that I had to sacrifice some of my maternity leave as it would put a great financial strain on us but the figures added up just about. My hubby gave in his notice and was due to start at my firm in July 2009.

I left work on 15th June and on 16th June, the firms accountant rang hubby and said they had withdrawn the job offer. They were so cowardly waiting for me to leave and then not having the guts to call themselves and getting the accountant to do it. I had even spoken to the accountant on the day I left when he asked me to confirm my hubbys start date. I dont think he knew at the time what the bosses had planned.

I immediately rang one of the bosses but he just kept saying there was no job anymore and thats it. I believe that the stress of the whole thing caused me to go into labour. I ended up in hospital that night for monitoring. I was induced and gave birth a couple of days later.

I then spent the first few weeks with my baby crying and distraught because I didnt know how we were going to survive. My salary is not enough to cover all our outgoings and the future looked very bleak. My hubby left his old work on 15th June so there was no going back.

I sent some e-mails to the bosses telling them a few home truths and told them the way they had treated us was despicable. I looked into things and found that we would have had a case at an employment tribunal to recover loss of earnings but of course doing that would mean I would have to leave my job too as I couldnt possibly work there after all that. I therefore spent the first few weeks looking for a new job too. I cant tell you how badly the whole thing affected me.

About 1 week into my ML one of the bosses eventually rang me and I offered to take a significant pay cut so that they could pay hubby to work there. It seemed the only way out as we couldnt get tax credits for Child care if hubby was unemployed but he couldnt look for a job if Leila wasnt with a CM. I also dont think he could have coped with a tiny baby day in day out. He was so down i've never seen him like that. He felt so useless and that he had let me and his new daughter down.

After 2 weeks of hounding the bosses they said they wouldnt cut my pay but they would let hubby work for free, like they were doing us a flipping favour. But then that would mean that we would still not get tax credits for CM so it couldnt happen. They then agreed to pay him a token amount which was almost half of what he ought to be being paid. Basically £8000 a year for a full time job. We had no choice but to accept. I'm well aware its below minimum wage. Hubby started there in July and has worked himself to the bone, sometimes working until 11:30pm and at weekends. He also brought work home with him and would stay up till the early hours. He just wanted to prove himself. In turn they treat him like a dogsbody making him run errands for them and do their personal shopping on top of all the real work he has to do.

They've screwed us over again now after promising repeatedly to put up his pay and give him a training contract (the thing you need to do for 2 years to qualify as a solicitor) they have given the training contract to another guy because he's the godson of one of the bosses even though he is a useless turd. They've told hubby that they cant give him a training contract for another 6 months. I am fuming.

I have done so much for that firm. I single handedly ran a department for 7 months before I left for ML. They had to get 5 people in to do my job when I went on ML. 2 of those people later quit the job because they couldnt handle it. I had 10 times the amount of files to deal with that we are supposed to have and I had no admin support or anyone to help me. I stayed with them until the last minute before starting my ML and I worked atleast 50 hours a week.

Anyway it all came to a head yesterday to the extent that my boss had tears in his eyes and gave me a genuine apology for what he put us through. Its too little too late but better than them walking around with their heads in the cloud thinking they can step all over the little people. I managed to wrangle a pay rise for myself albeit a small one and a pay rise for hubby (albeit only to £12000) from 1st January. I made it clear to my boss that I didnt want the sympathy vote I just want to be paid what i'm worth. I seriously let rip about everything. Even so far as to say that I would never forgive them for tainting the most precious time in my life.

I understand that he rang the head of our other office late last night because he was so upset. Well, I hope he feels like poo because he should do.

And they all lived happily ever after (eventually)

The end xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Krystaltips

Sami_Bee wrote: »

oh and my friend has been invited to the after party for the new moon premiere party (as in with rob patterson et al) and she can't go!! GUTTED:rotfl:

I wouldn't want to go... It would shatter the illusion... :rotfl:

elle_gee

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I didn't click because I coould see myself buying things from the pics on the email

I've resisted so far but I have shown them to my mum.. :whistle: She's a sucker for Silver Cross things cos we have a SX pram when I was little

Elle there is a mummy in my breast feeding group that bottle feeds, I did wonder why but after careful ear wigging I discovered it was because she was having EBM with bulking powder (bit like Rhys ) she's now on lactose free formula but she still comes to BFing group. My surestart is really good, the lovely pics of my Chris on the slide etc are taking in the play ground part and I'm thinking of biting the bullet and joining one of the classes with Edgar and putting Chris in the free Creshe there - scared!!
The first time I just turned up and chatted to the receptionist who signed me up for about 6 things :rotfl:Ours has things just for Dads too like a 5- a-side football thing and Dads & kids only gardening class.
Although mine is in a crappy area the chavs don't use it because they are out in town ignoring their kids that are stuck in the buggy while they smoke n chat up jobless losers :cool: it's the nice caring mummies ike me that use it

:rotfl:@ "careful ear wigging"

Ours isn't in too bad an area - there are much worse I'd be knackered if I walked there.. may have to be lazy and drive

money_maker_3

brilliant bedtime story mooki, I hope he feels like poo too !!

Krystaltips

Aww Mooks, that's rotten! I had tears for you reading that!

cazscoob

my god mookie that is awful! i cant believe that they have treated you all like that but good things come to those who wait and karma always gets the barstewards back

3onitsway

Mooki - what a bl00dy nightmare! :eek: I hope he feels like absolute poo and spends the weekend not sleeping and feeling guilt for what he's put you and OH through! :mad:

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

and 3 daddies who have never BF!! I was out with 2 of the Booby Club daddies this morning!

Really - thats dreadful! Why did they not even bother to try? :rotfl:

Krystaltips wrote: »

(It's Caitlyn with a Y but I'll let you off )

It's a very un-dramatic story really, there was no great wailing (apart from mine when I realised I'd broken my baby)

I meant to say, I'm glad Liv thought Aimee was cute... She loves bigger kids, but I thought Liv might have been put out by the little voice calling 'Olivia' over the table every 5 mins lol

How did you break your baby?

I was quite suprised that Liv found Aimee more interesting that CaitlYn, Benjamin and Violet. But then I suppose Aimee is a bit more intersting than the slobbery baby type things that don't really do much! :rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

Mooki - I would love to tell you that this is the first time I have heard of a law firm screwing their employees...but unfotunately I know of many stories of sh1te that firms put their trainees through.

I finished my LPC 10 years ago now and never actually officially started my training contract after ending up in counselling due to the treatment I received at the firm I had been in a realtionship for a few years (holidays and the like).

I have friends who work for some of the BIG boys (regionally at least) and they still have no end of stories of being treated shockingly on many, many occasions.


However, your story is shocking because it involves your whole family and family livelihood.

They say the law is an a$$ - it's the b00gers that work in it that are the a$$es.

I am glad to be out of it


You and your hubby and your beautiful daughter can all sleep soundly in your beds tonight - I sincerely hope the f00kers (and I don't say that lightly ) that have been responsible for your anguish do not.

xxx