MSE Parents Club Part 8

feelinggood_2

Rmac, no real advice but just wanted to say I don't think everyone else finds it easy, I know I certainly don't. Hope things get easier soon ((Hugs))

BrunoM

weezl74 wrote: »

I think the meeting went well. I think my employer should've offered me a face to face meeting with my line manager sooner, cos a lot of misunderstandings wouldn't have happened. It's a shame I had to complain. Still, I've kinda negotiated something that works for me now

Bruno, what's the argument from HMRC? Do they think they've given you more than the norm for your personal allowance and now they're attempting to claw it back? Hope it all works out OK for you all

Can I be nosy and ask how sorted-out it is Weezl? Will you be doing some work and then getting the mat pay you hoped for?

Well, it seems at the start of the 08 tax year, my payroll dept changed my tax code (for no reason, as nothing about my status/salary had changed), and since then I've been underpaying tax every month. I didn't notice because a) I wasn't paying enough attention and b) I changed some other things like my pension contributions and extended my medical cover to my family at around the same time, so the numbers were changing anyway.

So I think it's pretty clear that they're right that I've underpaid, unfortunately. Wish I HAD noticed, but it didn't occur to me that payroll would screw up so randomly and expensively. Further complicated in understanding how it was screwed up, because our payroll is outsourced and last month they changed outsourcing to a new provider.

I don't yet know how and when I will have to pay it back.

jillie1974

Jakesmummy wrote: »

oo thanks for that jillie! i need more nappies, bet you could get away with using them money off vouchers aswel, that would be an absolute bargain!! is it u that said u live in radcliffe?? thats so close 2 me i go 2 radcliffe quite a bit got a couple of friends that live there too, x

yep, thats me
photos of christening were gorgeous!
are you going to come to our meet next week?

chopsticks wrote: »

I think I'm towards the older end of mummies on here (I'll be 28 in Jan) but I feel like I know nothing compared to Sami, Carla, Caz, Searching, Buttons (and I'm sure there are more) who are younger than me and know sooooo much more than me. Then again, I am blonde

28!! i wish i was 28!! i'm 35 (sssh) feel like i'm 28 though!! i must be one of the oldest on here


stupid DH left me logged in all night!!!

Harley- fairies are going to post office today!!

SusanC_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

Email and let them know then Susan

:doh: I hadn't thought of that. Have duly sent them an e-mail.

Buttonmoons

Im bright eyed Weezl but tired *yawwwwwwn*

Might be going to Darlington to visit a friend before Xmas. I'll wave hello to Susan and Beccles

I didn't find it easy when Keira was an infant R.mac, sometimes I read people on here and think "wow how come I couldn't do that?" But everyone is different, and I really need some peace in the morning to function. Whiney, grouchy, 24/7 baby is the worst.

Probs get lynched for this but I really find babies boring! After 6 months they have a little personality and it gets sooooo much better, but I just remember clock watching all day waiting for OH to come home so I could have someone to chat too.

I watched my friend 4month old a few month back and it was awful, really, he wanted picked up all the time, didn't sleep AT ALL, was sick after every meal. I couldn't wait to leave. I felt like I had been given freedom when I left that house with Keira! Guess you are more tolerant with your own.

I'm sure it will get better, is she teething? Or sick? Worst isn't it because it's not their fault but you end up feeling like utter pap yourself ((hugs))

I really must go give Keira a bath before nursery, and wash my own hair, mum might be coming down later, so get a chinwag, and I just hope Keira doesn't start about Blakey coming to ours after nursery, really can't be done with the aggro of that today!

jillie1974

right, need to go and do some shopping and go to PO

chat later!!

weezl74

BrunoM wrote: »

Can I be nosy and ask how sorted-out it is Weezl? Will you be doing some work and then getting the mat pay you hoped for?

be as nosy as you like bruno

I think I'll be able to get nearly as much money. I just have to take a shorter maternity leave with baby number2. That feels the saddest part.

I think I may attept to say that since this is a detriment caused to me by their handling, then I'd like to take my 5 weeks allowed unpaid parental leave all at the end of my maternity leave period. That plus accrued leave and bank holidays will make it nearly a year, which would be great

BrunoM wrote: »

Well, it seems at the start of the 08 tax year, my payroll dept changed my tax code (for no reason, as nothing about my status/salary had changed), and since then I've been underpaying tax every month. I didn't notice because a) I wasn't paying enough attention and b) I changed some other things like my pension contributions and extended my medical cover to my family at around the same time, so the numbers were changing anyway.

So I think it's pretty clear that they're right that I've underpaid, unfortunately. Wish I HAD noticed, but it didn't occur to me that payroll would screw up so randomly and expensively. Further complicated in understanding how it was screwed up, because our payroll is outsourced and last month they changed outsourcing to a new provider.

I don't yet know how and when I will have to pay it back.

Blimey! It's amazing how a 'simple administrative error' can really affect the wellbeing of a family. Grrr on your behalf bruno :mad:

I think you're right, we trust that payroll will get the sums right, as it's their area of expertise. Last year I went through all of DH's payslips and worked out they owed him an extra £130. Not much, but it may be happening more widely than we think...

My_Fathers_Daughter

MacSmiler - you may come back to carnage but at least DH will take LO for the evening...and will continue to do so, even if it is very hard for him. Try to take advantage of it whilst you can.

Huge hugs on the lack of sleep. These days I cope very badly on little sleep...it seemed much easier to do it when he was tiny

None of us are superwoman, we need to learn to stop trying to be.

MFD xx
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weezl74

hiya MFD :hello:

SusanC_2

BrunoM wrote: »

So I think it's pretty clear that they're right that I've underpaid, unfortunately. Wish I HAD noticed, but it didn't occur to me that payroll would screw up so randomly and expensively.

You must have been very lucky so far - I just thought it was a given that they make mistakes. I have only ever had two "proper" jobs and both of them paid me incorrectly.

The first one initially charged me too much tax because I started in December and they took the tax off as if I had earned the same weekly amount for the whole year even though I hadn't. When I spoke to payroll and explained that I had a four thousand whatever it was then tax allowance, and that I shouldn't have paid that much tax (because I wanted them to sort it out before then end of the tax year rather than have to claim it back from the Inland Revenue), the woman I spoke to told me that I was wrong, there weren't any tax free allowances, that I had to pay "Pay as you earn tax" and that I wouldn't be able to claim anything back from the Inland Revenue. Having previously had a two hour discussion (in work time) with them about how they had overpaid me due to a mistake with holiday pay (which they didn't believe me about and never corrected because they didn't understand how the holiday pay worked) I gave up fairly quickly.

The second job I was paid as if I'd done a full month on the last payslip when I hadn't but the person dealing with it was on holiday for two weeks when I phoned and never got back to me.

I also had a holiday job where I got paid on a lower rate than I was meant to the first month.