MSE Parents Club Part 8

tiamai_d

Do you feel more relaxed now Beanie?

vicstar_2

Hello ladies

I'm hoping you won't mind if I join you. I have been reading the pregnancy thread since my DS was conceived (although never really joined in as I had a few problems during the pregnancy and was afraid of jinxing things - silly I know:rolleyes:). I've been keeping up with this thread on and off since DS was born and he's now nearly 8 weeks so I'm thinking its time to join in;)

With apologies for starting things off with a rant, what do you guys think about deliberately exposing a 7 week old to a child with a cold? The reason I ask is because OH has fallen out with his family big time because we were supposed to be going for lunch on Sunday but his little (8 year old) brother had a bad cold and we decided not to go. I know DS will get a cold sooner or later but I'd rather it wasn't right now especially with Christmas coming. I didn't particularly think that this was unreasonable and we offered to go over pretty much any day as soon as no-one had a cold but MIL seems to have taken it personally and apparently has no other free days until after Christmas So now she's not talking to us and we got a letter from OH's aunt today basically saying how disappointed everyone was that we were being so over-protective:mad:

TBH, I don't care if we are being over-protective - he's our first child and we'll do things the way we feel comfortable with - but I would be interested to know your views on whether you think we are being completely unreasonable?

Vic

searching_me

awww lots of ((hugs)) for the tara household xxx

weezl74

vicstar wrote: »

Hello ladies

I'm hoping you won't mind if I join you. I have been reading the pregnancy thread since my DS was conceived (although never really joined in as I had a few problems during the pregnancy and was afraid of jinxing things - silly I know:rolleyes:). I've been keeping up with this thread on and off since DS was born and he's now nearly 8 weeks so I'm thinking its time to join in;)

With apologies for starting things off with a rant, what do you guys think about deliberately exposing a 7 week old to a child with a cold? The reason I ask is because OH has fallen out with his family big time because we were supposed to be going for lunch on Sunday but his little (8 year old) brother had a bad cold and we decided not to go. I know DS will get a cold sooner or later but I'd rather it wasn't right now especially with Christmas coming. I didn't particularly think that this was unreasonable and we offered to go over pretty much any day as soon as no-one had a cold but MIL seems to have taken it personally and apparently has no other free days until after Christmas So now she's not talking to us and we got a letter from OH's aunt today basically saying how disappointed everyone was that we were being so over-protective:mad:

TBH, I don't care if we are being over-protective - he's our first child and we'll do things the way we feel comfortable with - but I would be interested to know your views on whether you think we are being completely unreasonable?

Vic

How horrible! I'd write back to aunt and thank her for the compliment, since they can all be sure that you won't let their much loved grandson/great nephew come to any harm by needlessly exposing him to risks

Sami_Bee

oh Tara poor babies, love to them both and you xxx

Hi Vic, your name is familiar to me
I always avoid other LOs when mine are ill or at least tell my friend's they're unwell so they can decide whether to risk it or not. I think his family are being rather ridiculous and incredibly rude tbh.

BeenieCat

Thanks Sami i have a chest of drawers near a plug so will put a mat on there so they'll think i'm v.clever mwahaha little do they know i have you guys guiding me

I do feel more relaxed. My sis said i was daft as she knew i didn't want one before, and that it would have been okay so i shouldn't compromise as it'd have been ok. But i really feel so much better knowing i won't be sat in the hospital with new baby worrying if dog is uncomfortable with her legs crossed, or that DS is missing me too much and worrying about me being in hospital, or getting to school on time.

My friend doesn't understand either, and i think she's taken it personally but like i said to her, although i apprciate her offer to help, there is too many time resrictions on it and everything 'depends' on her work, sisters work, sisters babysitters etc etc. At least now i don't have to worry if i go into labour in the middle of the night and can't get anyone to come and get DS/get me to hospital.

searching_me

lovely .......... ive just had a full 8oz bottle thrown up all over me x

SugarSpun

:grouphug: tara, that sounds awful

Vicstar, I've been called that too, by a fracquaintance - because I wouldn't allow her to hold my then 8 week old baby after three beers and a cigarette :rolleyes:

Not everyone will agree with all your parenting choices - best thing to do is just to tell them that they can do what they like with their own kids but they have to respect your choices.

I'd also tell your MIL that her Christmas present is likely to go off if she doesn't get it at Christmas and see how quickly she finds some time for you

tarajayne

Vic, I agree with the others, they're being horrible and quite honestly as they can't put your LO's interests 1st stuff them. Have a similar issue going on here, also SIL turned up with her 6yr old and a hacking cough when Maddy was a week old. Imagine my face when he spat as he coughed on her. To cut a long story short I know where my loyalties lie and it's not with keeping the family peace or worrying about OH's inheritance!!! (Sorry, that struck a rather tender nerve).

got-it-spend-it

Vic-I'd have been exactly the same- they are being completely unreasonable.

Beenie- I am so pleased you have found a solution and the student MW sounds lovely. Should we start sending labour vibes to you yet?

Just ordered some luvverly photo key rings, cards and prints from Tesco for a bargainous £10 :money:. Very pleased with that, but must dash now as I still in scruffs and Henry has just had a big sick incident :eek:. Guests do not want to see us in this state, I am sure!