5 OS Pleasures in your Day Today part 2

KarleyMarie

Ladyhawk I'm so sorry

1) Working a whole day at work without feeling down or annoyed
2) Spending 20 minutes with a good friend I haven't caught up with in a while, despite working in the same building.
3) OH has cleaned the kitchen for me so I don't have to this evening!
4) Walking home, cloudy sky but no rain! Perfect temperature!
5) Walking into OH's work (without him hearing me) and hearing him sharing my hobnobs around and saying how amazing they are!

Have felt a lot less anxious today Hope this continues

Hugs to all x x x

Tealady_2

Evening

Ladyhawk - So sorry to hear about Toupe, hugs to you
Mollythewestie - Happy Birthday to your DD

Thank you all for your support. I thought I had got through yesterday quite well but I was just storing it up as it all came pouring out later. Think it did me good to grieve though.

Pleasures for today:
1. Lovely J at work listening to me let it all go this morning and helping me feel ok about it.
2. Had to order an unexpected lunch for a meeting so ordered pizza which came with a free bottle of diet coke and a tub of ice-cream. Both unsuitable to put in the meeting so one in my fridge and the other in the freezer:j
3. I also had to sort out another lunch and there was too much so I had a free lunch as well and managed to feed J to say thank you.
4. Another £3 of vouchers arrived from a survey site, not a lot but they are really starting to add up
5. Getting to the end of another project at work. Its all slowly starting to make a little bit of sense, I think;)

Hugs to all who need them

Kitchenbunny

Ladyhawk - (((hugs))) to you. Rest in peace, Toupe. Thinking of you.
Tealady - I often think of doing things on survey sites but get a little put off. Here's to it paying off!
KarleyMarie - It's nice when you get an unexpected bit of housework done for you. Really gives you a lift.
GirlySquare - Keep up the Wii Fit! I haven't managed to do any for a couple of days due to being busy, but the last time it told me I was 3 years younger than I am. Happy days... It'll probably add another ten years tomorrow!

Here are my pleasures of today.

1. Having a nice evening with my family. Haven't seen them in a while, so it was nice.
2. Potentially having won a little money thanks to the World Cup. I drew Spain in the office sweepstake, so I'm not sure but I may have won a bit of money for 2nd place (if they don't win). I need to check.
3. Buying a newspaper for a voucher for my Mum & Dad (we don't do our main shop at Mr M, where the voucher was for). They were grateful.
4. Being given some cocoa powder for baking and a lettuce in exchange for a tub of footbath salts and some foot cream. Neither of us would have used our respective little stashes so the swap was great.
5. Mum has said that if they get a glut of potatoes, I can have some as they'll not get through them all and have limited freezer space. Thanks to my chest freezer I can make a boatload of mash and freeze it. I must get her a bunch of flowers to say thank you.

Beyond that, it's been an ordinary sort of day. It hasn't been great but it was better than yesterday! My head has been a bit spinny with the mugginess, so I'm trying to keep myself hydrated and as relaxed as possible. An upshot of an additional challenge I'm doing on the health and beauty board (to not buy toiletries) is that I'm taking some me time out to give myself a little pamper every day (and so use up the bits & bobs I've bought). And I do feel a bit better in myself for that.

KB xx

Frith

Tealady - sorry to hear about your sad day yesterday. Anniversary days like that are hard.

Ladyhawk - sorry to hear about Toupe.

Well, I'll kick off with the bad stuff. Not that it was ALL bad... I went to court on Monday and Tuesday. Monday was the worst although Tuesday is when the order was made. On Monday I was cross examined for 3 hours. The ex's barrister had nothing to question me about (I have never done anything wrong!) so really there were no incidents he could refer to or matters that he needed to bring to the judge's attention. So he just did a complete character assassination. As he had never met me before and doesn't know anything about my character, he decided I am over anxious, neurotic, hysterical, over protective and an obstructive, hostile mother. (Hostile to the ex, I mean - not hostile to my children!)

So that went on for 3 hours until it had gone past 5 o'clock. He threw another report across to the table for me to look at and I was wondering why I couldn't read it properly then realised I was crying rather a lot and the judge called a halt for that day. :-(

Obviously, the ex was cross examined too by my barrister but he was actually being asked details about various things he has done - like dates and times. But my barrister wasn't accusing him of everything under the sun and bullying!

Anyway, the judge did a MASSIVE summing up (took him an hour to read out his findings). He has granted the ex unsupervised contact again :-( but with about a dozen conditions attached that we all know the ex will ignore so doubtless we will end up back in court again soon.

Then his summing up moved to the ex (30 minutes on how he didn't believe a word he had said and how it was a "finding of fact" that he had done all the things he had denied). Then 10 minutes criticising the ex's barrister for his conduct towards me, saying it was unnecessary and that I was none of the things listed above and if I *WAS* it would have been the ex's fault and I would be the "creature he had created" !!

Then 20 minutes saying I am marvellous :-) and a credible witness and that in his summing up I would be "vindicated" and he thought my evidence was lovely, truthful, clear etc. So that was nice.

Anyway, the summing up has to be typed up and printed out (it is all recorded) then it sort of stands for ever that the ex is not ever to be believed in court as this is the second Finding of Fact against him. Which will be helpful in the future.

Well, I seem to have rambled on and on so I'll find 5 for today!

1) Went to see my friend this morning. She is a new friend so I hadn't been to her house before. We had a cup of tea and took her dog for a walk and it was all very civilised.

2) Friend lent me her daughter's bike because smaller son is doing a sponsored bike ride with the Beavers on Saturday and needs a decent bike to take.

3) Car had a soft tyre on the way home but I pumped it up in the garage and its stayed up - so far. Might go and check it again in a mo.

4) Bigger son had his last after school fencing lesson and smaller son and I went to pick strawberries.

5) Cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom (nearly), did a load of washing, all the washing up, cleaned the stairs and kitchen floor and have made a summer pudding for tomorrow.

That's it!

sparrer

(((Ladyhawk))).
Run free of pain over the Rainbow Bridge little Toupe
S x

ampersand

I'm sorry I'm not posting often now, though one pleasure is having phone and net back, after 16 and 19 days without respectively.
I had to write after seeing your post ACEY - I lived your Monday and Tuesday with you, if 30-ish years ago. Just wanted to send huge hugs your way.
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Karley - found myself reading of your work situ, too, so I'm adding my Welcome and backing to all that excellent advice you have received, and will continue to receive, here.
You will be feeling better because you are biting the bullet and knowing you are not alone by coming here. You will look back later and think, 'How on Earth did I let this person have such an effect on me?'
You must definitely place the Manager in the same category. Can you think in your own head, across both of theirs, 'I'm sorry you're both letting yourselves down with such unprofessional behaviour. You do realise that I must note it in my book'? - and do so. You are the strong one. I would like to think of you turning this on its head, in front of whoever is present, every time she behaves badly...expressing sorrow to the woman for whatever is causing her to behave so appallingly on the shopfloor, unacceptably/abnormally, to any fellow worker/person. Ask if she has sought specialist help; suggest it strongly, 'as you are clearly bringing your problems to work with you and alienating staff and customers alike, letting yourself down also'etc. The advice you were given, about apologising for her behaviour to the customer, is perfect.
You can do it Karly. Bless you.
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Think I'd better anticipate 5 things today, which will feel like goals:
1. Head to Gym shortly, so the pleasure will be an hour or so later, when I've done. I know I am lucky, in that it is only 1000 brisk steps away in a small village.
2. Hope car is fixed, with last week's removed throttle valve sensor block replaced yesterday[2nd lot of extra petrol that was not allowed for]...pray it doesn't do the hesitate, stall, die thing while I'm en route to...
3. Weekend antiques fair[which I dread/choke on/procrastinate/am indecisive over - that is to say, the prep/sorting/selection/pricing - and get there without car probs. Once there and set up, I love it.
4. Emptied fizzy water over aubergines' ground, so now have bottles ready for elderflower champagne, smelling heady and gorgeous in bathroom, where its little workings whisper away.
5. Will cook otherwise disappointing apples wrongly labelled as Braeburn Organic, to eat in the morning or whenever I have a sweet need urge. Braeburn and Gala come from my home area in NZ and were named there - I know when they are Bs and Gs and when they are not.

Wishing everyone a day with pleasures of any kind[and I'm still enjoying Rafa's glorious win last Sunday.]

Tealady_2

Acey - Just wanted so say sorry you had such a rough time in court but glad the judge could see the truth about your ex and what a fantastic mum you are.

wssla00

Hey all Sorry I have been off the radar- my stupid body wants me to stay under the quilt I think! Acey- Glad it's over with for the moment, and hope things pick up,
Ladyhawk, I know this pain all too well. Big hugs I am thinking of you.

Ugh.... OK I am trying to find some positives as I'm in a grump! Ok...there are some!

1. My subcut has been approved- Hurrah- BUT noone has received the letters from the hospital so I haven't got any medication and noone knows where anything is coming from. I still don't have a small sharps bin and I am very stressed out about it. I need it all in place by Tuesday....Hopefully it will be sorted by the end of the day as the meds need to be ordered through the pharmacy!
2. I won £30 on daily play- only played on a whim, so that was a nice suprise
3. My coffee maker broke down which isn't a pleasure in itself but it is almost a year old and John Lewis have taken it back and refunded it back without question- they are so good!
4. My toms are growing in my garden so well, so very soon I can hopefully pick up some lovely toms to eat for dinner!
5. Greys anatomy final tonight! WOOHOO!

PetuliaGristle

ACEY glad you got through that ordeal, and that the judge saw how lovely you are

Ladyhawk

Thank you everyone for your kind and very comforting words. It's been a really tough 24 hours with lots of tears. Luckily I have some really caring people in my life and even if I don't see them that often they were there when I needed them.

Anyway I have just had a small pleasure in looking at my photo's of my furbabe and I hope you don't mind but I wanted to share them with you.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/51854262@N02/4774382569/in/photostream/

Tomorrow will be easier...