5 OS Pleasures in your Day Today part 2

fedupandskint

Mine are:
Watching the birds feed in the garden
Opening all the curtains and windows as at home!
Not spending a penny (money!)
Using every last bit of a roast chicken and put to good use
Lighting my candle as at home long enough for it to burn

scotrae

Acey - thinking of you and your grandma. As for the Archers omnibus on i-player, I'm glad I'm not the only one!

5 today:

1. Clearing the 'floordrobe' in our bedroom and excavating a corner which has been hiding an astonishing number of shamefully dusty coat hangers! DH will be able to open both wardrobe doors for as long as this lasts.

2. Checking the freezer supplies and planning out what we're going to eat when this week, not that I've written it down yet!

3. Hanging the boys' uniform in their bedrooms ready for tomorrow and putting my outfit ready. This is amazingly organised for me but I need to be ready for a fresh routine with me starting my new job tomorrow. (I get a later start for my first day but will normally be leaving at around 7.30am - leaving DH to marshall the boys and sort the school run :rotfl:)

4. Listening to 'Just a Minute'. (Is it my imagination or does Nicholas have a soft spot for Josie Lawrence?)

5. Cleaning the bathroom and putting fresh towels and flannels back in there. It looks cosy but I'll probably mess it all up now with my last-minute hair dye!

Here's to another week everyone. May it bring us all good health and happy times.

Frith

Oh dear.

I've had an update from Dad that the hospital rang him at about 9pm. The hospital had been concentrating on Grandma's chipped hip bone and bumped head and couldn't really understand why she was not improving. They even did a scan of her head (she bumped it) and found nothing wrong there.

This evening they noticed her stomach "swelling up". (She hasn't eaten for over a week). Unfortunately, my Dad isn't one to pump experts for information so all I know is she had "2 operations" on her stomach this evening and the doctors are still "working on her".

I'm glad they are trying but I do feel a little bit peeved. Yesterday I tried to tell the nurses that she doesn't normally lie motionless without talking and that she seemed in pain. The nurse kept telling me she wasn't in pain - although she was groaning constantly.

Dad also mentioned an infection but I think he's got that mixed up with that we had to wear gloves and aprons to go on the ward.

I was just having a good cry about everything that Dad had said. When he rang off he said, if he had bad news, he would phone me back. Then my BROTHER phoned back and I thought Grandma had died and Dad had got my brother to phone and tell everyone! I could have slapped him when he had only phoned to find out what time the village shop opens in the morning!

This is awful. :-(

L

mineallmine

Oh Acey so sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I have painful scars (emotional) from watching my folks in hospital. It has to be one of the toughest things in life. Huge hugs to you tonight and girl, cry. It's too much to keep inside. Thinking and praying for you and your family. There is one blessing eh, this thread. :A

bunny_too

Just had to post after reading what a bad weekend you are having.Acey Good advice from sparrer re your Nan. Put that..... s.. h.. one... t... of a x out of your mind for now. Enjoy your boys, things do get better. Thinking of you and sending you lots of big hugs. Love BTxx

sparrer

GirlySquare wrote: »

3) long telephone conversation with my sister as social worker meeting family next week about mum being discharged from hospital and going home. Mixed feelings about this as I'm sure mum will be back in hospital within three months as mum and step-dad won't cope. Ollie and sparrer I so wish she was going to a scheme instead, step-dad is dead set against it
4) visiting mum today first time in three weeks due to my being poorly, although she's much better my opinion hasn't changed about her going home

GirlySquare I've been out of the loop for a while so Ollie might be able to suggest more than I can, but my initial reaction to the social workers meeting next week is to make sure your Mum has a package of care in place before she's discharged. If they hum and hah the family has the right to insist they put the package in place and to have it reviewed at regular intervals, particularly as she and step dad aren't coping on their own.

So many times I've heard people criticise sheltered or supported housing...until they get there. It's a real eye opener to most, they think it's like an institution with curfews etc, but I only ever had one 'rule' in the schemes I ran - if there's a party I want an invite . Believe me I'd have no objection to going into sheltered if it came to it, the only difference between that and renting/owning a property is there's always someone on hand to sort out problems, always someone to chat with and always something to do or look forward to doing. (There was a time we wardens wanted our own sheltered scheme on retirement but no-one wanted the job of warden without danger money. We know all the tricks, of course :rotfl:)

Going back to next week, be pleasant but firm, tell the SW exactly what Mum and step dad can't do, rather than what they can, and stand your ground! Good luck

sparrer

My five -

1. Another lie-in til 9am for DGD2 and me
2 The dining suite which should have been my new garden shed arrived today. It's enormous :eek:! Why do these things look so small in the great big showroom yet dwarf the room they're intended for?
3. DGD2 refused to go home until she'd eaten me almost out of my home . Told her she was thoroughly spoiled and she said 'only here but that's because you're the best Grandma ever' ahhh
4. When I took her back to DD, arranged to take DD to lunch tomorrow as it's her birthday. It's DS's birthday too although they're 9 years apart, how's that for bad family planning?! As he's in Lancs he got a little extra in his present in place of lunch.
5. Considering the above it's just as well today was a nsd

Night night, (((hugs))) and sweet dreams. Thank you all for your shares
S x

Olliebeak

Evening everybody - oooops pardon me - it's been a l-o-n-g day.

niksyg - that's a great weekend for you and your OH .
ACEY - after such a rotten time of things. Will you have an opportunity to talk openly and honestly with whoever is in charge of the court when you next go there.
Are you able to show that social workers's letter to the court as proof of his lies - surely once his word is discredited, then there is doubt over the rest of what he says. Ultimately your boys KNOW where 'the love lies' and his behaviour will only go against him in the long-run.
So sorry to hear about Grandma's setback regarding her stomach problem - I do think you need to speak to her Consultant and get some proper explanations about her deterioration, it's also worthwhile asking if there's some kind of infection been picked up. It IS possible that there was a pre-existing condition that's been noticed, but it's always worrying when somebody appears to go downhill so unexpectedly. Good Luck and hope Grandma shows some signs of improvement soon. Not at all surprised that you've been ill yourself with all the stress/worry surrounding you right now. Your sons are definitely coming along well in their .
mineallmine - well done on using up your toiletries AND on decluttering your car :T.
Kittikins - hope your little patient is soon feeling better . Our Tescos had the reduced Jamie Oliver Pasta as well - OH stocked up as he's the Tesco shopper in this house .
sparrer - hear hear, sparrer - we're here to offer support to each other when the blessings seem few and far between. 5p a year - how out of touch some of these judges are - hope you didn't spend it all at once . Your dgd certainly knows her way around her Grandma . Hope you have a great day with your DD tomorrow :j.
GirlySquare - I've sent you a pm - hope you don't mind .
Reverbe - sounds like your flatmate's ex no long wants to be an 'ex' - either that or she's 'after something' .
Kitchenbunny - wd on getting on with your sewing - hope you find a nice frame soon. wd on getting the voucher for a free !
budgeteer -
Hardup Hester - poor you - hope all goes well for him tomorrow.
Alison - how lovely that your OH is good at bread-making :T.
newlywed - you can let your stepson know that he IS definitely related to somebody from the 1800's, the main proble is discovering exactly who they are .
CCP - lol at visions of you trying to administer anti-flea treatment to the cat - poor you! My biggest problem was getting worming tablets down Tiggy-Tiger. He didn't mind the first dose, but hated the second-dose a week later. And of course, if you couldn't get that second-dose down him, there was absolutely no point in doing the third-dose which was the same as the first one. Have you ever read this? Shame about the birds during the census - how typical!
Ladyhawk - how kind of you to deliver the boxes for the freecycle couple :T.
hotcookie - great bargains there from Waitrose - well done you :j.
jollymummy - wtg on your money-jar :T - hope you have a good day with your mum tomorrow .
nuttybabe - Have you seen this site - your son might like it? Hope your glasses are sorted now - good luck with them .
savingforoz - wtg on getting up and running with your short story writing again :T - I'm sure you'll come back from your trip with lots of inspiration for your next novel .
fedup - wd you on your no spend day AND on using your chicken to it's full value :j.
scotrae - Best of luck for tomorrow - I'm sure you'll have a great day .

that's me done for this evening - need to get off to bed now - work in the morning - could do with taking some time off, if I'm honest.

speak again in the morning - nitey nite and take care all - love Ollie xxx

for all who need them.

Frith

Thanks, everyone for all your posts and best wishes.

I couldn't go to sleep but lay listening to the Archers. Unfortunately the phone rang at 1.00 (a.m) and it was my mum to say Grandma died at 12.30.

I know she had nearly 93 years, 90 of them in incredibly good health. 2 children, 5 grandchildren, 2 great grandsons and 64 years of marriage. It's going to be strange without her. She was a real Black Country "salt of the earth" person, always interested in everything and everyone around her.

As for me, I feel OK for a while (even recollecting and laughing on the phone to my sister - at 1.30am!) then some little thing will bring the tears.

R.I.P Grandma Louie 18.6.1917 - 8.2.2010

sparrer

God bless ACEY, keeping you and your Grandma in my thoughts and prayers. She sounds like a wonderful woman, the sort one has been priviledged to know, and more so to have as a Grandma. It was good you were laughing at memories with your sister, and that you are crying when you feel the need. This is a favourite poem of mine, I hope you find a little comfort in it. Sparrer

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)