Weekly Flylady Thread 19th October 2009

MrsChaos

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

They are happy, and yes they are noisy and messy and sleep-depriving. The two we have get on sooo well, and I don't want to mess with that. It just feels somehow selfish, and there's also the sneaking feeling that...what if we don't stop at 3...but having DD2 was so perfect, that its sort of addictive.

I wouldn't want to say yes or no, but having DS2 worked out for me (at 39). I started thinking about another baby when DS1 was about 8. I got broody when his friend next door had a baby sister and DS1 started asking about a brother (not a sister, though!). I chickened out of making a conscious decision, because my body said yes, but my head very definitely said no (lack of support from DH, money, existing workload etc). I just allowed it to happen and we were all chuffed to bits when it did, but it could have gone so wrong (and the concerns I had were very valid, as I've since realised). The pregnancy was definitely tougher, ten years on. It's worked out ok and all the broody feelings went completely, so there will not be a No.3 for us, but my neighbour struggled much more with the decision to stop after 2.

I hope that you'll come to a decision that's right for all of you. How do your girls feel about babies? Maybe DD1 is old enough to chat about it?

rosepink1984

Hugs Soappie

Pigpen, glad you’ve finally got sorted out! Hope you recover quickly

Grateful, maybe having another brother or sister would be good for your kids? It might make them even happier and teach them lots of good qualities. Can’t really advise you, but I would say, you only live once so if you really want more kids then go for it! I don’t think its selfish at all. Did you think you were being selfish by having the first two? I am the oldest of two and always wished mum and dad would have another baby.

Welcome Charly

Sexy, come and tell us how today went, pur-lease!

Really wanted a snack, but got up and did another 1500 steps instead. Have gone over my 5000 for the day now. Yay! Go me!

toottifrootti

choccybix yes unfortunately its true that you cant pick your relatives - (((hugs))) honey for you and DH and well done for being in his corner - he doesnt deserve that kind of treatment and not on a public site. hard as it may seem you maybe are better of without them.

Mumto5 in case i miss you tomorrow - hope you have a lovely holiday

Polly hope poor doggy has a good rest tonight and isnt limping tomorrow

rosieben thats fabulous news - so happy for you - so you can get decluttering and organised - hope you dont have to shift too quickly so that you can get it the way you want it

Valli :rotfl::rotfl: well maybe he will have learnt a bit more about washing this morning i.e it has to be done in advance!!

Sunnygirl well done with the loft clearance but that was a bit silly with the carpet:rolleyes::rolleyes::eek::eek::eek: you could have had a nasty fall you silly woman!!!

princess lou massive (((hugs))) pet - thats so hard to deal with - but we are all here and will listen whenever you need to rant - well done you for getting on with things - keeping busy helps and if he does decide to go you will still want the place to be nice for you and DS. You shouldnt have to put up with anyone who threatens or is abusive to you - its not right
- dont let him make you feel bad - its not your fault - he's just bullying you as wilf so rightly said. None of us should have to 'change' for the other - they should love us for who we are not who they want us to be IMHO
pigpen this OH sounds like he's worth his weight in gold - thank goodness someone can help you and keep an eye on you - goodness knows you need it:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: hope your procedure works - please ( and I am nagging now!) take it easy for the week and give it a chance to heal properly and hopefully this will have sorted the problem - FOR ONCE IN YOUR YOUNG LIFE DO AS YOU ARE TOLD pretty please

pooh another one with a 4lb weight loss - WTG well done honey:T:T:T thats good news about the grant too !!

natty hello sweetie xx

ajmoney - thats great news - congratulations :T:T

likklegibbon well done with the weight loss - how are you feeling being back at work now?

jinky67 wrote: »

I was really meaning a mega this is what i need to pack from where and who I need to phone list;):A

oops sorry honey as usual I got the wrong end of the stick - well yes in that case a mega to-do list is urgently required - you have until tomorrow to get it posted:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: you only have a week left so we need to see progress - stuff the housework for now - packing first!!!!

carlsberggal yes the utility room is a good swap - you are doing so well this week angel - I am proud of you!! You can always find 30 mins for something on sat or sunday? a lie in and a cuddle???;):p or whatever.....

jinky67

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

They are happy, and yes they are noisy and messy and sleep-depriving. The two we have get on sooo well, and I don't want to mess with that. It just feels somehow selfish, and there's also the sneaking feeling that...what if we don't stop at 3...but having DD2 was so perfect, that its sort of addictive.

I always wanted 6:o

I only have 2, and I doubt I will have any more, :cool: but I wouldnt be breaking my heart if it happened

I would go with Greenbee's option C personally;):T

jinky67

toottifrootti wrote: »

oops sorry honey as usual I got the wrong end of the stick - well yes in that case a mega to-do list is urgently required - you have until tomorrow to get it posted:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: you only have a week left so we need to see progress - stuff the housework for now - packing first!!!!

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Valli

D'you know I wanted two.
Mind you I wanted two girls BUT fortunately, as soon as I knew I was PG the first time I also 'knew' it was a boy and had no trouble bonding. Mind you I also 'knew' I would have a section so was unfazed by the 36 hour labour, the drama, and the emergency dash to theatre and all the stress and hassle - I just 'knew' it would be ok
***goes to put pointy black hat and broom away***


OOPS RANT ALERT (I didn't intend to rant it sort of happened...)

However by the time DD came along the staffing had changed and had SHE been my first she would have been my last because there was no way I would have had a second one there. I did complain to my GP midwife but heard nothing - I used to cry telling the story for YEARS afterwards - birth (section) fine but the staff were a load of uncaring !!!!!es...

In fact one cow of a nurse came in to tell me her daughter had been accepted for nurse training and it was all I could do NOT to say I hope she's a damn sight better at it than YOU

so Pigpen - now you can see why I have kept my mouth shut! And my mum was a nurse and is disgusted with the way the system is now. !!!!!! when I had to shave an 'area' for a vein op I was given a razor and I asked what I could shave into and the nurse said drop it on the floor - so anyone looking under the curtain would have seen pubes dropping on the floor. How gross. I refused. A kidney dish and blue paper towel was brought. I should flippin well think so.

And when DD was in hospital over a weekend in childrens there were more staff than patients (patients - 2 saturday - 1 sunday! - rest had been sent home for the weekend! so just DD) and I still had to do loads for her...while they hung asbout on nurses station AND NEVER EVEN TOLD ME WHERE THE PARENTS ROOM WAS SO I COULD MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE.
The canteen was so far away I NEVER went - THEY wouldn't feed me - i had KFC brought IN!
(I mean - surely parents could order and pay for food rather than having to go away from their sick children...)

soappie

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

They are happy, and yes they are noisy and messy and sleep-depriving. The two we have get on sooo well, and I don't want to mess with that. It just feels somehow selfish, and there's also the sneaking feeling that...what if we don't stop at 3...but having DD2 was so perfect, that its sort of addictive.

Go on then - go have another and enjoy! I always wanted more than the two I have but I had two miscarriages along the way. And then there was no man around. Now it's too late!

charlylovesphil wrote: »

Can I join next week please? I'm new & need organising!!

Welcome Charly

Well I'm off to bed and am determined to wake up sunnier inside in the morning.

toottifrootti

hollyh wrote: »

I then heard him say to Ds1, i'm going to come over every night now to check you're keeping this tidy because if you're not i won't be happy after all my hard work.:rotfl: Ds1 just said yes i will don't worry:eek:, he probably will as he looks up to DSS a bit even though they're the same age.

:rotfl::rotfl:thats lovely!!! well angel it will be one less room for you to spend time in :T:T
soappie get BB to shoo away the black dog - doesnt he know its a one woman dog household??? (((hugs))))

froddy in case I miss you tomorrow I hope you have a lovley meet up on saturday - are you staying in london long?

charlylovesphil you can join now and get a bit done before next week - why wait??? I will send you a pm shortly anyway which might help you get strted.

phew I have caught up again
toots xx

jinky67

soappie wrote: »

Go on then - go have another and enjoy! I always wanted more than the two I have but I had two miscarriages along the way. And then there was no man around. Now it's too late!



Welcome Charly

Well I'm off to bed and am determined to wake up sunnier inside in the morning.

night night hun......I hope you do too,:j:j:j for its not nice :cool:

mumoffour77

Just wanted to pop in and say Hello!!!