Weekly Flylady Thread 19th October 2009

fedupandskint

rosepink1984 wrote: »

Hang on, YOU need to change? It reminds me of men who hit women and say: "It's your fault I hit you, you make me angry."
If he's threatening you and making your life miserable, then it's really not worth it. You deserve to be with someone who makes your life happy, not someone who scares you or is nasty to you. I think you have done the right thing in asking him to leave.

Lou

Couldn't have put it better myself than what Rose has said. Plus I am in a similar situation as yourself and can't offer any sensible advice as I am in a similar point of change too

A huge virtual hug being sent over to you

rach

likklegibbon - i want to lost 10lb before Christmas too....fancy a challenge? Anyone else want to join - let's not gum the thread up with it, but can put it in sigs?

gratefulforhelp_2

greenbee wrote: »

I think you need to give us a bit more context before we can venture an opinion...

ok, have DD1 - 6 and DD2 - 2. Will have to continue to work full time as I do now. Am 37 now, so no spring chicken in the baby stakes, though i have lots of friends have had babes in their forties. DH and I would like to, but worried we are being really selfish and putting our girls' opportunities behind our wishes.

Princess Lou you need to keep yourself and your kids safe, and then plan for your practical needs and theirs, assuming OH will not be there. If he gets with the program, then its a bonus.

MrsChaos

princess_lou wrote: »

HI- thanju everyone for support.
OH told me 'its your loss' went and packed the wii and golf clubs in the car. He has packed all his clothes & then has just told me if I change he will stay.. I dnt want him to go but he just keeps doing the same things. He was being so lovely a few days ago. Hes just gone to get DS frm school disco..

It's your call, but why should you have to change? Also, it would very clearly be his loss, too. Can you rely on someone who packs his stuff one moment, only to offer to stay a minute later? Maybe he's realised what he would lose and he's trying to back out of going without losing face by putting you on the spot. My DH used to leave a newspaper out, opened on the rentals page, pretending to look for somewhere to stay. Should have called his bluff, but I didn't want to lose him at the time. I know now that he wouldn't have gone.
Most important, you need to take care of yourself. You'll be fine, no matter what. :grouphug:

boddy

Thank Crunchie it's Friday ~ Study and Bathroom ALL DONE
Level One
[STRIKE]Spend half an hour doing something for yourself! Coffee with a friend, hair appointment... whatever[/STRIKE] Read some of my book.
[STRIKE]Declutter the floors![/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]vacuum/mop floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]wash the bathmats/shower curtains or anything else that needs it[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]scrub the fixtures! polish the mirrors and taps[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clean and sort a cupboard or shelf and recycle all those empties[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]dust and defrag the pc and declutter 50 unwanted emails and 5 links from your favourites.[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wipe over the desk and any chairs that are in these rooms[/STRIKE]

Extras

1. empty and wash out bins
2. wash windows
3. [STRIKE]wipe doors and paintwork[/STRIKE]
4. wash any stinky pet beds.. or the pets themselves if you wish

Skirting boards are finished. Have washed kitchen floor and will do that list tomorrow. Been to see mum today and she is doing ok.

princess lou Big hugs.

Valli

ooh I am so pleased with myself
DD wants/needs (broken strap but over a year old) new backpack for school and, as is befitting a young lady wants something trendy (and pricy! ie not my usual market find BUT was on Amazon this morning doing a bit of devious shopping which is being delivered elsewhere;);) and noticed that if I signed up for their mastercard I would get a £15 off my next order.
So I did. And I have
Bag now £2.99 + P&P (not a direct Amazon sale)
And we have a week for it to arrive in!

re the HHC I did with Jinky - kitchen finished and tidy. I have decided to buy hooks for oven gloves/panholders as shelf I keep them on normally is full of Robinson's squash which has been on offer at Mr Ms for 50p. (Cupboard under sink full of bottles of thick parazone bleach 40p in Lidl)
I'd buy more if I had somewhere to store it!

Hugs re the violent men - been there done that got strong and chucked him out! But I got very low first - it's the hardest loneliest place to be:o:o

hollyh

Evening all,

Hugs to PrincessLou.

I've been laughing at DS1 and DSS. DSS is a bit of a clean freak, he always has been and his room is always immaculate. OH has been renovating his house for a few years and even when it was at it's worst and it was mostly a building site DSS's room would still be clean. DS1 is the complete opposite and can mess up a room within minutes of tidying it, he will wallow in his own mess until he wants pocket money.

Last night DSS came over here to play on the Xbox with Ds1, he took one look at his room then said i can't play in this mess. Ds1 couldn't care less so DSS cleaned Ds1's room for him.

Tonight DSS came over again and wasn't very happy that Ds1 had already messed his room up again:rolleyes:, so he cleaned it again. He even tidied his wardrobe. I then heard him say to Ds1, i'm going to come over every night now to check you're keeping this tidy because if you're not i won't be happy after all my hard work.:rotfl: Ds1 just said yes i will don't worry:eek:, he probably will as he looks up to DSS a bit even though they're the same age.

I was wetting myself listening to them. As DSS left i said he could come over everyday and clean a bit of the house for me, he told me not to push my luck:rolleyes:.

Since my last post i have

Filled wood bag & coal bucket Ds1 did
Made biscuits
Cooked Tea
Made Ds1's lunch for tomorrow
Put dry dishes away
Washed up
S & S Kitchen
Bathed DS2 & played endless games of Dr Who
Tidied Living room Ds2 did
Put Ds2 to bed

[STRIKE]Tuesday ~ Living room, Hall and Stairs
Extras

1. [STRIKE]HHI[/STRIKE]

[/STRIKE]
Thursday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Extras

1. List 1 item to sell

Thank Crunchie it's Friday ~ Study and Bathroom
Level Two
scrub the fixtures! polish the mirrors and taps
Level Three
Clean and sort a cupboard or shelf and recycle all those empties
Extras

1. empty and wash out bins
2. wash windows
3. wipe doors and paintwork
4. wash any stinky pet beds.. or the pets themselves if you wish

Utility Room
Tidy
S & S
Hoover
Mop

Extras
Photograph & list contents of Ebay pile 5 items listed
Update spending spreadsheet
Wrap presents & update Xmas spreadsheet
Fill in application form
Deal with post I've started this
Hunt for paint
Mow & strim lawns
[STRIKE]Milk bottles recycling
Bring in bins[/STRIKE]
Polish boots
Mend school trousers & PJ bottoms

gratefulforhelp_2

I just want to say..."half term half term, half term half term" i can smell it!

Wonder how sexymouse got on today?

Valli

hope it's getting shorter..

Monday ~ Master Bedroom Deferred until Friday
Level One
Declutter the floors
Strip the bedding get it washed dried and the bed remade!
Level Two
vacuum the floors
Straighten a cupboard of clothing
Empty all the bins upstairs
Level Three
Tidy a box of 'stuff'
Tidy up the floordrobe, inc. shoes bags and toiletries.
dust and deweb


Tuesday ~ Living room, Hall and Stairs
banister all dusted stairs just need hoovering now

Wednesday ~ Kitchen of Grot and Dining Room of Gloom Started This
KITCHEN done dining room to do
Level One
Declutter vacuum the floor

Level Three
Wipe the table and replace the cloth if necessary.
Sort through and clean out one cupboard



Thursday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Level One
Strip , wash and replace bedding FRIDAY
[STRIKE]Declutter and vacuum the floor[/STRIKE]
Level Two
Sort through a cupboard.. any cupboard, could even be a kitchen one!
Drag out and sort all the gibble from under the bed!
Straighten the toy boxes and shelves
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that need it.. or the duvet!
Dust and deweb
Wipe sticky grotmarks from the walls, doors and paintwork

Thank Crunchie it's Friday ~ Study and Bathroom DONE

soappie

greenbee wrote: »

I think you need to give us a bit more context before we can venture an opinion...

I agree with Greenbee - we need arguments for and counter arguments against...

Piggers - just what DID they do that's got you signed off for a week? And, more importantly, has it worked?

I have a strange and unwelcome black dog peering over my shoulder. I keep trying to shoo it away but it ain't going. I think I need to buy me a light box..... 3 days of gray and I'm down - big time.