The General Diet & Emotional Support Thread

mazzers

Oh sarah, how sad for you
We've been thinking of you.

Take care, and sending you all love.

XX

mazzers

Jonty, i get like that too.

Lose interest in everything when i'm feeling down, some people throw themselves into housework or decorating, i just cant, i can only paint and spring clean when i'm happy.. odd

I just want to wallow in misery when i'm down, the weather has a really strong effect on my moods too.

If i stick to a diet and start losing weight that makes me feel good so maybe when you start to lose you'll feel more positive.

Getting things off your chest here can also help, feel free to pm if you want a whinge.

I'm happyish enough atm tho

gunsandbanjos

Sarah - hope you and your family are coping as well as you can, my thoughts are with you:A

Eric_Pisch

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

That sounds good, do you just make up a protein shake as normal and pour it over the oatibix? Can you use weetabix instead? Hmm, i only have strawberry shake in at the moment, would that be disgusting?

yep i make the protein shake in the bowl then put in the bix, i blend them as well since food in a fluid suspension takes longer to digest (optional)

weatybix would be fine, i have gluten issues hence i use the oat ones

cant see why strawberry would be a problem, you can after all put fresh strawberry's on them and its lovely

glowgirl_2

Sarah, so sorry to read about your mum:( loads of hugs for you and yours, well done on your weight loss:)

donquine

sarahs999 wrote: »

Just popping in to say hi. Not posting much as things too rough; mum is still in hospital and sadly the cancer has spread to her liver and bones. Just trying to make the decision about whether we go on holiday or not this weekend.

I'm so sorry about your news. Regarding the holiday, you're bound to feel you made the wrong decision whatever you do, so don't spend the whole weekend agonising over what to do. Just make a choice. I'm sure you're feeling a whole range of upsetting emotions at the moment, so don't add feeling guilty to the list. You don't need it.

sarahs999 wrote: »

Ironically on the day I found out she was dying, I reached my goal weight. Kind of put a damper on the celebrations.... anyway. I have found it strangely easy to stick to my plan (I am phasing off now) and in fact have continued to lose. I think having control over this area of my life is actually helping me cope with mum, which is obviously a situation I have no control over at all.

I understand.

Congratulations on your weight loss. It's a shame everything else is crap right now, but you have still made an achievement. I hope you take the time to feel proud of yourself even if you don't shout about it in the circumstances.

Bitsy_Beans

jonty1970 wrote: »

Hope i am in the right place (this website is full of good stuff)
Am feeling very sorry for myself today
I have yo yo dieted for years.
Last year, I lost 3 stone with slimming world.
I suffer with clinical depression and have recently changed my medication and put back on a stone

my doctor says the pills increase my appetite.

I just don't think I can stick to a diet long term. my mood goes up and down. When I am up, I do more, excersies and lose weight, do my house up, etc

when down, the opposite happens, put weight on, lose interest in my home, stop going out etc

I am seeing a mental health nurse in September, but does anyone else have any ideas how to stick to a diet long term. Cos I need to stick to it at least for a year (want to lose 4 stone and it might as well be 400 stone in my mind)

thanks for any tips

I couldn't stick to any diet, long term or otherwise
I have found in my years of trying to lose weight if my head's not in the zone then NOTHING will get me to stick to a change in eating.
If you're viewing it as 400 stone in your head no wonder you don't feel motivated. Rather than looking at 4 stone in one big lump break it down into smaller chunks - not so off putting then and perhaps a little bit more managable.
I also try not to focus on the losing weight aspect. Sounds daft but I concentrate on being slimmer and having a better relationship with food.

I know lots of the girls (and Eric ) swear by Low Carb which is great if it suits you. I personally am not following any particular "diet" - I've got the Paul McKenna book which is definately my way of doing things. I am not sticking to it rigidly but I am trying to stop my snacking when I am not hungry, saying no to biscuits when I am not hungry or after a meal when I am not hungry. Lost 4lbs over the last couple of weeks and I am not even exercising (shame on me but I've had a bad back this week so that's my excuse )

Do you think your emotions are tied too much to food? When you're down you stuff yourself with carp to avoid the feelings? I've not had depression so I wouldn't want to be advising you on how to deal with your emotions since I wouldn't want to make you feel worse.
I do think you need to be kinder to yourself - making yourself feel bad isn't going to give you the start you need to change your eating habits. Just think - would you motivate a friend to lose weight by saying horrible stuff to them? By criticising them and putting them down? And yet we routinely do this to ourselves and think it will give us a kick up the bum :eek:


Sarah - I am so sorry to hear about your news about your mum. Nothing I can say to make it better so sending you lots of hugs xxxx Well done on reaching goal.

Not been posting but have been lurking

jonty1970

Thanks everyone!
i have the Paul McKenna, but haven't finished reading it. I have his CD and put it on my phone, and have listened to it while I fall asleep.

And I do like food. It's nice. I eat when I'm happy, as a treat if down, or like a comfort. It's essential for life and around you everywhere though and so hard to resist temptation.

If it were cigs or booze, I could ban it (i have stopped smoking 10 years ago, was a heavy smoker, but went cold turkey and never looked back) but even paying a bill at the post office, you look round and there is chocolate! arghhhhhh!!!
Am trying to laugh about it, butI feel unable to keep long term to a weight loss diet.
Clubs don't work long term for me.
I am wondering about seeing a dietician. My GP is not offering me much help really, as my moods need controlling first

Will keep plodding on though!
X

Eric_Pisch

jonty1970 wrote: »

i have the Paul McKenna, but haven't finished reading it. I have his CD and put it on my phone, and have listened to it while I fall asleep.

thats about all its fit for :rotfl:


sorry couldnt resist

jonty1970 wrote: »

I am wondering about seeing a dietician. My GP is not offering me much help really, as my moods need controlling first

Will keep plodding on though!
X

you are absolutely correct, you need to get your mental state of mind sorted first, took me 5 years to do this.

If your GP is not helping (and there should be a system in place to support you) ask to see a different GP, if you get no joy tell them you will put in a complaint.

Bitsy_Beans

jonty1970 wrote: »

Thanks everyone!
i have the Paul McKenna, but haven't finished reading it. I have his CD and put it on my phone, and have listened to it while I fall asleep.

And I do like food. It's nice. I eat when I'm happy, as a treat if down, or like a comfort. It's essential for life and around you everywhere though and so hard to resist temptation.

If it were cigs or booze, I could ban it (i have stopped smoking 10 years ago, was a heavy smoker, but went cold turkey and never looked back) but even paying a bill at the post office, you look round and there is chocolate! arghhhhhh!!!
Am trying to laugh about it, butI feel unable to keep long term to a weight loss diet.
Clubs don't work long term for me.
I am wondering about seeing a dietician. My GP is not offering me much help really, as my moods need controlling first

Will keep plodding on though!
X

Yep me too. Food is intrinsinctly linked to my emotions (although the comfort eating has reduced greatly). I like food, I don't smoke, don't drink (well not much - be lucky if I have one or two units a month), don't have a very busy social life (got 2 young kids so what do you expect) so food has sort of become like you a reward for things in my life. I can't read a book and look after the kids but I can eat
I try not to view food as good or bad. It's just food. I have a huge temptation to eat things for fear of losing the taste or opportunity of eating it (if that makes any sense at all!). Say if I buy a cheesecake I'd want to eat the whole lot within a few days for fear of it going off (madness I know) because then it wouldn't be available to eat. I try and remind myself that there will ALWAYS be delicious food to eat so I don't have to hoover everything in sight all in one go. I have read Geneen Roth's Breaking Free from Emotional Eating and I found that really helpful to look at sometimes why I eat.
I do sometimes slip up but I don't beat myself up for it. I accept it and move on. I have noticed an improvement in my emotional eating and that's a step in the right direction as far as I am concerned.

Eric - Norty boy

I hope you can get some support in place. Like Eric says if your GP won't take you seriously ask to see someone else.