Cash as a wedding gift - any advice??

Magicboo

We've put this on our invitations:
The only presents we really want at our wedding day is your presence. However, if you feel you would like to give us a gift, at the reception there will be a number of options for you to choose from to which we would very much appreciate donations! We also have a small gift list at John Lewis which will be open from...
On the wedding day we will have 3 boxes, 1 saying "new bathroom", 1 saying "new windows" and 1 saying "honeymoon". That way people can choose where their money goes to. Those who don't want to give us money can go to the gift list at John Lewis. But we still don't expect them to give us anything.

m3ech

Such mixed opinions on this one, but I have to agree that I think giving money is the best option if that's what people want. After all, I'd rather give the couple something that's going to go to use rather that wasting the money on cutlery or a posh set of glasses that they probably don't want, or already have!

We are getting married this year & plan to ask for money as apposed to having a gift list, if people wish to give us something, only because we have the things we need, now what we need is the big stuff... Like a new carpet on the hall, stairs & landing & a honeymoon!

I could do with some help actually ladies... For those of you that are planning or have done the same, how did you word it??

Rahven

Magicboo wrote: »

We've put this on our invitations:
The only presents we really want at our wedding day is your presence. However, if you feel you would like to give us a gift, at the reception there will be a number of options for you to choose from to which we would very much appreciate donations! We also have a small gift list at John Lewis which will be open from...
On the wedding day we will have 3 boxes, 1 saying "new bathroom", 1 saying "new windows" and 1 saying "honeymoon". That way people can choose where their money goes to. Those who don't want to give us money can go to the gift list at John Lewis. But we still don't expect them to give us anything.

What an absolutely brilliant idea. Mind if I steal?

ajmoney

We went through lots of heartache with this. We don't want anything apart from people's company, we could have made a wedding list on one of the registry sites so we didn't have to stick with one store but we don't have enough storage space in our house now nevermind with any gifts. We both play the piano but don't have one of our. We have asked for money towards that which will be kept in an account until we move to a bigger house when we can choose what we want.

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

We put the following after much deliberation...

We are sending out this invitation

In the hope you will join our celebration

But if a gift is your intention

May we take this opportunity to mention

We have already got a kettle and toaster

Crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters

So rather than something we have already got

We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot

If you miss the list closing date

Then don’t worry you can wait

For 30th April, our wedding day

When some US dollars will help us on our way

But most importantly we request

That you come to our wedding as our guest.

***

If you wish to visit our online gift registry please go to:

https://XXXXXXX

Our account reference is XXXXXXX.

Alternatively we will have secure wedding post box on the day.

aarchk

I have just moved into my first home with H2B and although we could do with pans, ironing board etc we really need a new kitchen so have asked for B&Q vouchers. I just simply said this on the wedding website as I refused to add details in the invite. I think some people will still give cash though. We also set up a gift list with a few items on mostly around the £10-20 mark if people wanted to actually buy something for us. I will not open cards until I can sit down and do it properly so I can write a personal thankyou to everyone.

I have a cousin getting married and they sent a cheesy poem with their invite basically asking for cash. Not even saying 'its for our honeymoon' or whatever. Not sure what to do here as I really dont want to hand over dosh to be spent randomly! Will have to see if they get us anything as our wedding is first.

In response to the original post - I like the idea of the foreign currency or DIY vouchers. Even if they get all the materials for the loft conversion elsewhere they will still need paint etc.

shellsuit

We didn't ask for anything at all, but received only 5 gifts and the rest was cash and some Next and M&S gift cards.

I think it's cheeky to ask for anything, even a gift list as that means you are expecting your guests to part with money to come to your wedding/reception.

If people ask what you'd like, then fair enough, but I'd never assume that someone would want to buy or give or anything.

Magicboo

Rahven wrote: »

What an absolutely brilliant idea. Mind if I steal?

I'd be honoured! We stole it from Waitrose!!

kayjayne

I think it's perfectly ok to ask for money. My H2B and I are moving to Canada permanently a month after we marry so it would be a waste for anyone to buy us stuff here. It's much easier if people give us the money which we can then use when we get to Canada to buy things for our new home. Surely most people who are giving a gift would prefer something the couple can use. I think to refuse to give money if that is what a couple has specifically asked for is silly - if they asked for a toaster you would get it so why refuse to give them the money you would spend on that toaster if its what they ask for, surely ignoring the couples wishes is ruder than them asking for money in the first place.