Cash as a wedding gift - any advice??

featherbum

SugarSpun wrote: »

If it's eloquent you're looking for, I can offer you a quote from a rather famous author:

Who's that trip trapping over my bridge?

You registered purely to insult people. I can't believe you're surprised at the response you're getting.

i am not one bit surprised. i wasn't expecting anything less.:rolleyes:

ccastley

The thing that's saddest about the turn this thread's taken is that if people are linking to this from the weekly tips email and looking at the forum for the first time, they're going to get a really bad impression.

Honestly, it's not always like this....please persevere if you're a first time visitor

feralyouth

what a bunch of tight fisted !!!!!! eh. its people like you who are causing infllation to rise, by buying stupid presents than people dont want or need. the only good thing about getting pressies instead of cash is looking through em and playing the "who brought the worst pressie" game. hoping to god it wasnt from your side of family

LydiaSophia

I am getting married next year and am going to ask for American Dollars for presents. I will write one of those nice poems I found on here with the invite as I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. I just want all my friends and family with us on our big day.

I also don't want a loads of stuff that people have spent their hard earned money on that I don't need. I think it's far better to be honest and just say that you have everything for your home and if people woule like to bring a gift then money would be great!

In greece it's tradition to give the happy couplemoney, they pin it to the brides dress.

Chrizzy_2

I am new to this site and have been reading this thread with great interest. Obviously everyone is entitled to their own opinions but I have to say I am disgusted at the bashing Featherbum is getting for voicing hers.
Featherbum, I have to agree with you 100% that it is just plain rude to attend a wedding empty handed. And for those who would rather go out of their way to buy a piece of tat rather than give money or buy from gift list then shame on you.

irisbelle

I have the same problem. I just can't give money... What I usually do is buy Flowers. Always wonderful to see the effect flowers have on people :-) Here they have some beautiful flowers ... http://www.floraqueen.com/

greenmoneysaver_2

I am divided on this. I have happily given money to friends who were saving for a deposit for a house, BUT when OH little sis got married they asked for money for garden furniture and I foudn this offensive.

The reason being she hasn't held a job yet for more than 1 year (is 27), and yet has only had 2 jobs:eek: - although ti has been denied I know her parents are paying for the wedding... and she had her Husband to be have had a deposit paid for them on a house (she couldnt start life in a small flat like everyone else), honeymoon paid for etc, etc.

They had about 150 people at the wedding, so I can't wait to see the diamond encrusted furniture... and this is for a house they get through work, so no guarantee the furniture will fit elsewhere (the house was bought for them as an investment:eek: ).

So, sometimes money is justified, but other times it feels a bit like a cheeky gesture.

We have only been to their current house once and that was after we had given them the wedding present. The house was so filthy that we wished we had sent her our cleaner for the day and paid for that:p .

melancholly

irisbelle wrote: »

I have the same problem. I just can't give money... What I usually do is buy Flowers. Always wonderful to see the effect flowers have on people :-) Here they have some beautiful flowers ... http://www.floraqueen.com/

the only downside of flowers is that if the couple are going on a honeymoon, they'll be dead by the time they get back!

i personally would always turn up with a present, but sometimes getting to wedding costs so much that i fully understand that some people can't afford it. i've happily bought things from a wedding list (getting in early so that i can pick something in my budget!), given vouchers/cash and also taken along fizzy to a couple who didn't want any gifts.....

perhaps i just think anyone being militant about this is just getting their knickers in a twist over something that is relatively trivial! expecting all guests to bring presents is very presumptuous, but also wanting to ignore the wishes of the b&g to give them a present you want to give without thinking about what they want is odd as well. sometimes a personal gift, not on a gift list, can be fantastic, but a stack of photo frames just seems like a total waste of money!

sunshinejoclaire

ringo_24601 wrote: »

I think it's more rude to force family & friends to shell out hundreds (and possibly thousands) on travel to your wedding, just because you want to get married somewhere exotic (and also, keep your total costs down)

I have had this happen to me and it soured my friendship. The girl getting married was a good friend at the time, though a bit spoilt. I was only working a few hours a week and so could not afford to go to Asia where the weding was held.

She sulked and coerced so much [as she wanted me to be a bridesmaid] I ended up giving in and paying the 1.5k to go, and took 2 years to clear the debt on my credit card. Her marriage only lasted 1.5..

Krystaltips

That's awful! If I wanted to get married abroad and wanted someone to be bridesmaid I would pay for them!
As it is, I'm getting married here and paying for them!