Cash as a wedding gift - any advice??

pandora205

I think it's a bit strange to ask for money though it is happening these days.

Here is an idea that avoids the embarrassment of showing exactly how much you are giving. Buy a money tin like one of these:

http://stores.ebay.co.uk/Mad-About-Things-Dot-Com_W0QQfrsrcZ1QQfsubZ10727584QQtZkm

and part fill it with coins. I'd use 10ps as these will be quite heavy if you give £10. Give the tin with a note to say this is for the 'Sealed Pot Challenge' on Moneysavingexpert. They can add to it by adding their change/silver and open on 1st December with everyone else on here.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=605703

You can then wrap it like a real present and write a little card to explain.
I have a large sealed pot and it's really growing as I make a point of putting all silver in on a daily basis: I'm so excited to see how much is going to be in there - It's my Barcelona fund to take the gang for a trip (big or small) there.

IWantToBeFree_2

featherbum wrote: »

how dare you to say 'i bet you are the type who invited blah blah blaaaah yawn'- you dont know me from nothing, and i can guarantee you i havent done that, not that i have to explain myself to you.

Taking a present, even if its a card with your best wishes IS a must, other wise its plain rude. I have been educated to behave politely in all situations, and turning up empty handed IS plain rude. I am not expecting people to spend huge amounts on us, or to not turn up if they cant afford to buy us some worderful present.

I am just utterly disgusted by some of the suggestions on this thread. Like someone said ' i want to know where my money is going'. If you gave your money to someone as a gift, its not your money anymore, its theirs to enjoy as they please.

If the money i gave to my friend for her wedding present is spent, in, for arguments sake, in Next to buy herslef a new outfit, and that makes her happy, then my job is done, as my present is there to make her happy. Not to make myself feel good for giving it to her.

And by the way, i dont need ANYONE to pay for our honeymoon, we work hard and we have paid for it out of our own cash, and i am just lucky our friends are not miserable judgmental people like you, but people who actually want to contribute to make it extra special.

Rich coming from someone who has joined this forum to specifically slag people off because they think that asking for money is rude....

I'm not a materialistic person, I couldn't care less if people don't bring me a present or a card to my wedding, I want them there because I want them to share my special day, not because I want their money, not because I want their gifts, or a card.

Weddings are not only expensive for those getting married, but for the guests to. Many of my guests will be travelling from far and wide, will have to stay over etc, and will cost them a fair amount to be there, what I think is rude is then expecting them to come bearing gifts, their presence is far better than any present would be.

ccastley

Whilst I personally would not turn up to a wedding empty handed, I think that to express that it is a MUST takes the michael...

I was happy for people to just show up to our wedding, but those attending from the Turkish Cypriot side of the family wanted to pin money so I went with that, but put a note in saying that it was not expected and we had everything we needed.

I was well aware of the costs involved in going to a wedding in the first place and invited people for 'their presence not their presents' as they saying goes.

Belair

I went to a wedding recently where the invitation had an insert that said something along the lines of:

As we already have everything we need, we are not looking for any presents. We want your presence. However, is you feel you want to give a gift, then any cash gifts would be most welcome.

I know that quite a number of people turned down the invitation as they were offended by the insert. This is in Northern Ireland, where in my opinion, tradition and old fashioned etiquette is the rule.

Timmne

I think the most offensive thing is to pu55y-foot around asking for cash by putting in a poem about it - if you want it, just ask!

featherbum

IWantToBeFree wrote: »

I want them there because I want them to share my special day, not because I want their money, .

And are you saying that thats the only reason i want them there???
what do you know? do you know me??

I am not getting married to make a profit OBVIUOSLY! I am just saying its RUDE to turn up to a wedding empty handed, and that the bride and groom should get what they asked for- after all a gift is about making someone happy?!
I went to a wedding last night and gave them money as thats what they wanted, they can burn it with a lighter for all i care as long as it makes THEM happy!

I dont know what i am wasting my breath or time with you to be honest....:rolleyes: cause this is just PLAIN obvious and if you dont get it then you have issues.

featherbum

ccastley wrote: »

Whilst I personally would not turn up to a wedding empty handed, I think that to express that it is a MUST takes the michael...

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to me, in my opinion, its a MUST, i personally would NEVER turn up anywhere empty handed, to me its an act of politeness.
If someone said to me they are not coming to my wedding cause they cant afford a present of course i wouldnt say 'ok dont come then'.

I just personally would be embarrased of turning up somewhere, expect to be fed and entertained and not make a gesture to thank them in return.

ccastley

Ignore the troll methinks?

featherbum

ccastley wrote: »

Ignore the troll methinks?

how elaborate and eloquent, i can tell what kind of 'people' i am dealing with here. :rolleyes:

SugarSpun

If it's eloquent you're looking for, I can offer you a quote from a rather famous author:

Who's that trip trapping over my bridge?

You registered purely to insult people. I can't believe you're surprised at the response you're getting.