Cash as a wedding gift - any advice??

gandy

am getting married in a few weeks and i was in knots over whether or not to put wedding list in with the invites..... instead we left the information completely out but we have a weddingpath website where we put details of the wedding list should anyone wish to buy us a present or we are booking things to do on our honeymoon (in california) if people wished to make donations to that they could.

if we get any cards from people on the wedding day and they get open i'll make sure that OH has a pen in his sporran to write if they have any money or gift vouchers in them but i don't care to be honest, we have the money saved for the wedding, are inviting our guests for their company not presents but i do know that people are often too generous at weddings and most of my aunts and uncles tend to give money according to my mum so if that's what they want to do i won't complain lol

roses

I have asked for cash as my "wedding list". Why on earth should I be forced to commit myself to one shop with a gift lift of stuff I don't want but feel obligated to pick because people find cash offensive?

sunshine_shell

We've asked for Oz dollars because we are going on a trip of a life time there and will use the money to do really cool stuff, take pictures and tell people what their gift bought

My Dad said it was rude to ask for money, but we have everything for our house except the 50" TV we've had our eye on:rotfl:My Dad didn't see the funny side!

themull1

LydiaSophia wrote: »

I am getting married next year and am going to ask for American Dollars for presents. I will write one of those nice poems I found on here with the invite as I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. I just want all my friends and family with us on our big day.

I also don't want a loads of stuff that people have spent their hard earned money on that I don't need. I think it's far better to be honest and just say that you have everything for your home and if people woule like to bring a gift then money would be great!

In greece it's tradition to give the happy couplemoney, they pin it to the brides dress.

So not only are you writing a tacky poem for money, people have to go and exchange sterling into dollars for you!! I would call that cheeky and lazy.!!

themull1

Why don't you try not doing a wedding gift list at all?

PolishBigSpender

ribenagirl wrote: »

We did ask for cash or vouchers for our own wedding, but we kept a record of specifically what we bought with that money so that we could let the person who gave it know exactly how it had been spent, but you can't really do that if your money is going into some giant pot!

I don't like the idea of asking people for money - I think it's tactleess. but you did ask for money yourself! So why are you upset someone else did the same?
Vouchers are the same as money in my opinion, you can still see how much it cost.

amus

themull1 wrote: »

Why don't you try not doing a wedding gift list at all?

Some people dont like to waste their money on gifts that wont be used. Some do. Cant please everyone.

tonyhogben

I don't like handing over cash, it seems so impersonal and cold.

I couldn't make it to my friends wedding in Ireland recently, but they had used an online gift registry - justthething.co.uk. It certainly felt better than sending money and easier than organising a gift to be delivered to them

It seems like a nice halfway house as you get the benefit of seeing what the couple want the cash for and they get the cash to spend it where they want (FYI, I hate vouchers).

What do people think of these cash registry websites? I felt okay using it, but could see why others might not.

luxor4t

After being given 13 casserole dishes and 7 quiche plates I prefer to give vouchers or money. The modern equivalent of the 'super popular' gift (in my opinion) is decorated photo frames.

rubyrara

We've asked for money for our wedding gift (if people want to) as we have just moved into an old house that needs renovating, and most of our guests (except the obscure family ones) will know that. We have specifically asked for money to put towards a new kitchen, which, when our all guests come over for a post wedding barebcue, will undertsand why it needs changing!
I think it's just a change in the times but it's not a bad thing. It's just some people getting their head around what they think is value for money....we could end up with 5 le creuset casserole dishes at £100 each, but they won't give the £100 in cash because thats too much money. For most people, its value, which is fine.
Most couples now already live together and have already been through the stage of getting the things they need.
That said, it would be lovely to get a crockery and cutlery set like my parents had, but we would no doubt end of having to make up missing pieces urselves etc which we don't have the money for either after paying for the wedding and new house!