nursery cut our daughters hair, update on page 9

willa

dfh wrote: »

Yes-the hysteria has to be proportionate to the crime.If the child had been hit or assaulted,fair enough-very serious crime indeed but cutting a bit of hair off-surely it does not need the entire police force.No wonder we cant get any coppers for serious crimes.they are all investigating serious criminal assaults such as somebody sniping a bit of hair off.

So you are so robust that if someone walked up to you in the street and grabbed a big piece of your hair off and hacked it off clumsily (or did that to your child) and said "there was paint in it", that you would be OK with that?? Just brush it off as nothing?
Come on! The nursery didn't need to do it!

willa

neilmcl wrote: »

So you'd say just ignore it then and don't involve the authorities. Who's to say that this incident wasn't the tip of the iceberg and maybe it could be systematic of more serious incidents. Obviously the police and CPS have made the decision that this and maybe other incidents are serious enough to involve the courts but if it was down to people like you then we'd never get to hear about these nurseries until something really serious happens like toddlers ending up in hospital with broken limbs as in the recent case in Nottinghamshire.

neilmcl you hit the nail on the head. People who are saying different are WUM's.

Tigerlilley1980

I would be so mad if nursery cut my 2 year olds hair without permission and I would certainly be complaining, because I pay them to look after my child, not lie to me and cut her hair! It's ridiculous that they did this just to get paint out, I don't understand why they didn't just leave it and tell you when you picked her up. Well done you for pursuing this xxx

Brooker_Dave

willa wrote: »

So you are so robust that if someone walked up to you in the street and grabbed a big piece of your hair off and hacked it off clumsily

That's not what happened.

They were trying to help.

System

hollydays wrote: »

Yes,brings back memories of my daughter with a perfect little blonde bob,cutting half her fringe HERSELF to about half an inch.

I once lopped off a pigtail off my next door neighbour, was about 5 at the time. rmemeber hiding under the table whilst her mum screamed at me...

If the nursery are denying any involvement tell them you want a meeting cos this happened when she was in their care, surely they have some responsibility?

redstararnie76

While this may appear trivial on the surface, I can understand that it is quite concerning.
The nursery were left in care of the OPs child. While responsible for her they made the (quite frankly bizarre) decision to cut her hair to remove the paint without asking parents permission. While this is concerning, they then lied and claimed they hadn't. In addition to this, there have been other issues over leaving the child in wet clothes and giving them unsuitable drink.
While I can see that perhaps compensation might be seen as going too far, as a mother I would be seriously concerned about the competence of staff in charge of children, and I don't think that just removing my child would be enough, I would want other parents to also be aware of my concerns.

willa

Brooker_Dave wrote: »

That's not what happened.

They were trying to help.

In just as intelligent and practical a way as the person in the street would be. :rolleyes:

Happyjaw

Hintza wrote: »

Oh dear.......I'll pop my head above the parapet. I think Dave has a point it all needs to be kept in perspective.

The hair cutting is a bit of a no no but hardly worth writing home about the lying would be the thing that would get me annoyed but I would probably just remove the child.

Now I'd say quite the opposite, it's very much worth writing home about.
If the nursery had had a quiet mention to the parents along with an apologetic letter from the manager which said they were sorry there was paint in her hair, it happened because..... and they had tried to remove it and offering to pay for a haircut, there would be no issue.

Regret, reason and remedy, very simple and very effective.
The trail of deceit, the actions which were covered up and the behaviour which followed would make me feel very angry and prone to going as far as I could too. It's a bigger resistance to a situation which could and should have been handled much better!

Jo-Jo-83

I have just read through this thread, as the title was a quite concerning.
This is outrageous, i would be livid if a member of nursery (or anyone caring for my child) cut my daughters hair, and then have the cheek to lie about it. The one and only reason to cut hair would be life or death. I am a nursery nurse, and unfortunatley, we had a child who had headlice all the time. We so wanted to just to help the little girl, but we were not even allowed to comb her hair, so im pretty sure cutting it is out of the question.
My daughter went to a pre-school and they had some issues with the manager being replaced, so most if the staff resigned, which meant they had to get new staff in. I persevered with the new staff, although my daughter had to settle in al over again. Each time a picked her up they were telling me she had done this and that, then they said she's eaten raisens, which i know she dislikes, so i began to question what else they may have lied to me about, so i stayed one day, only to see they didnt interact or encourgage her (she was only 2), i watched for an hour, and i was so upset i didnt take her back. I was so furious that iwas taking my little girl to a pre-school and (in my opinion) wasnt being looked after like i had expected, i really wanted to complain, but in the end i didnt have the courage.
Im glad you took the courage to complain, as at the end of the day, you only want the best for your children.

RobertoMoir

Brooker_Dave wrote: »

That's not what happened.

They were trying to help.

It doesn't sound like they're very good at "helping" kids then. Considering the position of trust they're in, that would still be a matter of concern would it not?