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faithcecilia

But why does it hurt so much???

ceridwen

faithcecilia wrote: »

But why does it hurt so much???

...and a lot of things in life just DO hurt - a lot. Unfortunately - it comes with the "territory". Sometimes the phrase comes to my mind from a rather old popsong (complete with accompanying tune) of "I beg your pardon - I never promised you a rose garden". Too true thinks me - there ARE a lot of "thorns" in life. I tell myself that I have to TRY and stay "focused" - as in trying to "focus" on the roses and not the thorns. It's NOT easy sometimes - far from it at times. Oftentimes I find myself heading off the path into the mud at the side of the road - but I then "remember" and try and place myself back on that path again and keeping an eye out for the roses. It sometimes takes sheer gritted teeth determination I find.

How much longer will it be do you think before your life is in a more "settled" phase - ie up and running with the job/home situation sorted out more? Days?/Weeks? Have you got any idea? I know it's unsettling to be in some sort of interim/transition stage in Life - you feel you can't properly settle to/get on with anything much until you are fully onto that next stage in life. Life tends to be like that in my own experience anyway - I've been through several "transition points" in Life and am at another one now and unsure how long it will go on for - so I can sympathise with that.

Possibly you could take up Zippychick's suggestion to some extent of voluntary work though maybe? I think there may possibly be voluntary opportunities of a temporary nature in your current/temporary hometown - it might be an idea to see if there is a local Volunteer Bureau in your current area and pay them a visit and tell them that you don't know how long you will be around for and don't anticipate it will be for long - but would like to do something useful while you ARE there and ask if they know of any temporary opportunities available. I DO know that some conservation charities are often glad of people who will come in and help with one-off jobs doing some conservation work in the countryside for a day here/a few days there - the RSPB comes straight to mind there (ie Royal Society for the Protection of Birds) and I know there are others as well (just can't think of them right now). I know that years ago I sent someone who was temporarily resident in my area off in the direction of a local environmental charity and she was then forever off with them for a day here/a weekend there/a week's working holiday at one point - she obviously thoroughly enjoyed herself doing it.

I "think" this mighta been the one I sent her to:

http://www2.btcv.org.uk/

ceridwen

Of course...thinking on further....I automatically think of environmental charities - because that's my own personal "orientation" in this respect. I think you would enjoy doing some work for one of them though - and I do recall you saying before that you positively like hard physical work - and they can certainly provide plenty of that:D

Obviously though - they aren't likely to be the only ones that want help with one-off tasks/temporary tasks. I'm wondering if the local Priest might be able to point you in a few other directions as well? (I have absolutely no idea how Catholic churches function - so hope I'm not speaking out of order there - but I would think they would have something you might like??).

Voluntary groups generally vary a lot - as in all other "circles" there are some that are clique-y and others that are positively welcoming and it depends a lot on the personalities of the main people involved. I'm just thinking here of a group I belong to - picturing the expression on the face of the latest person who wandered in to see what was happening. He looked thoroughly gobsmacked - but distinctly pleased - having been told in quick succession "we're all having a meal at the moment - there's the drinks over there and the food over there - help yourself to whatever you want" and various people duly chatting to him. The ethos is in this particular group specifically that we are used to people wandering in and saying "I've just moved to the area OR am only here temporarily" and that we will be as welcoming as we can manage to be.

Anyways....take care.

muppet83

Awww, faith.

Just bear in mind this isn't forever, try and make the most of it, look at it as an opportunity rather than a problem. Do the things you wanted to do, get out meet new people, have new experiences and take the bad with the good.

We know you can do it, you've made it so far. Everyone has bad days but you have to get up, brush yourself down and keep on smiling.

23rdspiral

Hi Cecilia, god news with the LHA and your friends, whoopsied shopping and the red coat!!

Odly enough, I've also got a lovely red coat a friend gave me when i was on harder times and it reminds me of her caring whenever i wear it. it's kind of like a portable hug in that respect.

up and down is natural, so do you think you could remember when you wrote this (the bit below ) only the other day? perhaps you could print /write it out and stick it to a cupboard door or mirror? it is true and more meaningful to your soul than anything we could say, as it's what you believe your self on a good day:

faithcecilia wrote: »

I have decided that I need to make the absolute best of the time I am out here, that there is no point and indeed no reason to be miserable all year just because I am not where I want to be. I can, and will do my best to, enjoy myself and have good experiences.

ps. for Muppet - buy the coat, buy the coat!!! - red coats are the best!

faithcecilia

Ceridwen- thans for your lomg reply. Hopefully in another 4-5 weeks I will be more settled in a more permanant home with a job. I am fairly sure that when I am there, in a routine, I will feel more settled. I am also going to make the point of joining clubs or similar to get to know more people

Muppet - yes, I know it will pass. Sadly its just been a couple of bad days together:o

23Rd - Yes, i need to listen to myself and take my own advice! Well done for reminding me:D

Well, at this precise moment I am trying to decide if want to cross the road and get chocolate.....

daska

:EasterBun

I know it's the wrong time of year but seems the most appropriate icon for you

faithcecilia

daska wrote: »

:EasterBun

I know it's the wrong time of year but seems the most appropriate icon for you

Thats more or less what has just happened here:o

daska

http://www.chocolate.org/

Savvy_Sue

faithcecilia wrote: »

But why does it hurt so much???

Well, I haven't read all your other threads, but do you think it WON'T hurt back inside? Do you think live never hurts for any of your sisters in the convent?

Life hurts. Not all the time, but sometimes it just hurts. The alternative is that there's no true feelings at all - would that be better? We learn to deal with life's hurts, generally not by running away from them, but by facing them.