Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

Shoe_Gal

I like the idea of buying myself something

Lula-Hula

Evening my fabby friends,

less of this whining about being single please

Sarahb - Do you really want to share that box of Thorntons ?

Shoe Gal, Do you really want to have to learn to cook rather than watch the delicious James do instead ?

Thought not, & as Rosa very wisely said at least you're with the rellies you know & can at least be a bit honest with rather than having to put up with somone elses.

I am relishing having christmas at my home this year, can watch what I choose on tv, will eat what I want & I can guarantee that not a single sprout will enter this house :j.

I've spent the day doing family stuff & am relieved to be home. I am quietly simmering at a couple of snide comments that were made but managed not to rise to the bait & have determined to just be a bit less available from now on.

I am 2/3rds of the way through a G&T & may well have another to ensure the simmering doesnt boil over :rolleyes:

Glad the work do was ok sarah

Good job I didnt buy the bag I saw, had completely forgotten about the contriubtion I need to make towards the memorial.

sarahb123_3

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

Maybe the act I put on is a bit too good

Me too, I am happy by myself and like my own company, but not all the bloody time, being ill has magnified how I feel, having to do everything for myself:rolleyes:. I think people assume I am fine by myself-which I am most of the time- but I am so used to acting like I am I also think I have got too good at it.

Shoe_Gal

Hi Lula

Actually I'd like James to cook for me :rolleyes:

Shoe_Gal

I have wine - don't think that was on the diet plan

Shoe_Gal

Maybe 2010 should be the year of being honest - with everybody including ourselves

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Sarahb - Do you really want to share that box of Thorntons ?

No. ...................

Shoe_Gal

sarahb123 wrote: »

No. ...................

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Like I said - time to be honest :rolleyes:

Lula-Hula

sarahb123 wrote: »

No. ...................

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Quite right, perish the thought of having to halve my wine & gin intake to accommodate someone else :eek:

Buffythedebtslayer

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Grrrr just managed to lose long and thoughtful post :mad:

In summary:

also had fingers burned, didn't realise how badly til recently, now making real effort to try and trust new people again. Also told friends how much I'd like to meet someone as turns out they didn't really know - because I never really told them. Now have support in my quest

Given up caring what other people think about Christmas and NYE, spending it with people I like

Thing nobody wants to hear - green eyed monster looks ugly but is often trying to help by pointing out something you've hidden from yourself. (Me included - I've never been jealous of something that I knew I was on the way to getting for myself, only things I thought I couldn't have. So when find am jealous, now have to admit to self what I really want and what am I going to do about it. NB. the admitting is the painful bit)

Don't care about pressie issue as since am not buying for someone else, get to spend money on self and get exactly what I most want :rotfl:(is this even more mercenary??)

Rosa xx

That is really interesting and makes me feel alot better about being jealous/envious

Cos I am not jealous of my friends and their relationships. I am jealous of my "friend's" success at work - that is a toughie cos to be like her i would need to compromise my views and follow a load of stuff I don't believe in.

There is one friend who continues to not appreciate what she has and that annoys me, I wouldn't want her life cos I think her hubby is cheating on her, nothing concrete just a gut feeling but she has basically got everything she wanted, she found her list we all made and could tick everything off (And its not without lots of hard work but she moans constantly when well, in comparision frankly she has a great life compared to my friends and me! and I could well be wrong about blokey, )

I am wondering about the relationship thing. I am not sure I could do it now, no time, no real desire to have another demand on my time?

I frankly do miss the er bedroom fun shall we say;)