Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

Buffythedebtslayer

Has important news to share,

Sainsbury Value dark chocolate is Lush and only 27 pence a bar!!

I am going to be super scrooge next year if it kills me


- I will also investigate the milk variety 23p, this is in aid of cutting out my 59p wispa and 99pcherry coke (I LOVE cherry coke) twice a week before work.

cos that is over a fiver a week that could have gone on the CC and will go on the CC now.

have a good Sunday guys xxxxxx

And Shoe gal well done on the tile front excellent stuff! xxx

CaroleM_3

Well Done! Your right to be proud of yourself - I'm really impressed!

Lula-Hula

Hello all & welcome back Carole.

Shoe Gal - tiling ? Wow :beer::A

Being a bit lazy here today. Have done washing & hoovering but now stopped due to lack of enthusiasm & the knowledge that after washing comes ironing :rolleyes: although hopefully my magic airing cupboard will perform its usual spell.

Contemplating going to nearby garden centre to look at sparkly bits & maybe buy some new tree decorations :think: . This will however, entail having to change out of comfy trackie pants & slap a 'face' on to say nothing of ruining another perfectly good NSD.

Ah sod it, I want to go buy pretty sparkly things

back later
xx

Shoe_Gal

Lula - you deserve pretty, sparkly things :A

RosaBernicia

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

I actually had someone I work with make a squeaking shocked sound when I told her I would love to be in a relationship. "What? You?" but in a noise that made her sound more like a seagull. Yeah. It would be nice. And she said?

"You don't strike me as needy" :rolleyes::p My act must be brilliant!!! :rotfl:

Exactly again... that's the kind of reaction I get. No idea why.

Oh and another thing that really p's me off is the 'ambitious' 'scary career woman' thing. I mean, WHAT?! I hit 30, the word 'assistant' drops off my job title and suddenly I'm a career woman - this from the same people who spent the first half of my working life telling me how dumb I was to work in the public sector and start in admin. Yes, I have taken the opportunities I've had and I've worked bl**dy hard for them - but I've never done anything I didn't believe in just to get ahead, and I don't judge other people by their choice of work. Anyway what else am I supposed to do? Say 'thanks very much but I don't want a promotion because it might scare off some men who are probably insecure and controlling anyway?' :mad::mad: ahem, sorry, rant over .

Oh and I don't want an FWB - I can't do half measures. I need somebody to love

Hurrah for Shoe Gal's tiles :j and Lula I hope you find lots of fab sparkly things.

Rosa xx

Shoe_Gal

Thanks Rosa :A

And totally agree with the career woman bit :mad: I am 43 - do people still expect me to be the office junior I am good at what I do, work hard and am proud to do a good job - why does that make me unlovable :mad:

sarahb123_3

I have lost 2lbs:jGod knows how as I have been stuffing my face all week but it seems to have worked. That takes my total to 11lbs, so I have another 6lbs to lose before Christmas, which is doable but we shall see, think it might be a bit of a stretch but I will give it a go.

Well done Shoe Gal on your tiling:j

bathgatebuyer

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

It must be :rolleyes: But doesn't it seem odd that it's considered 'needy' to want to be in a relationship I don't consider myself to be needy, and any realtionship I would want to be in would have to be equal, not based on 'need'

I took it as a compliment, as in a back handed way she was saying I was clearly capable of standing on my own two feet and perhaps hinted that her experience of relationships is that they're there to help the incapable survive in life! Almost like having a carer!!!! Seriously, she was a qualified solicitor who once said, "If I had to do scrambled eggs, do I take them out the shell first" :rotfl: Now there's a woman who clearly needs someone around to make sure she doesn't injure herself with cutlery!!!

Carole, my FWB was an anagram of 3 things you could do together (Filty mind)

Rosa - you're so right about the career woman comments!! Even my Gran tells people, "No children - she's a career woman". Ah, well, I'll be wearing the unlovable badge then just because I'm a qualified professional!! :rolleyes: Seems to assume that I've made a choice to be on my own, and really I haven't, and certainly not because of the job I do (it's good, but it's not that good!)

I do, however, think there are still some guys who feel a bit threatened by a woman who has a good profession and can stand on her own two feet financially, particularly if she has a nice home and car. Mind you, those aren't the sort of guys I would want to be in a relationship with. I'd rather be with someone who supports and accepts me in my career rather than feels threatened by it.

Lula-Hula

yay for weight loss sarah

Sadly there were no sparkly things to be had ... garden centre has gone all strange, but I did find kitty food on a bogof & at £14.69 that's a saving worht having. Off to watch Charlie & the Chocolate Factory now ... Johnny Depp as chocolate magnate, sheer heaven !

Shoe_Gal

sarahb123 wrote: »

I have lost 2lbs:jGod knows how as I have been stuffing my face all week but it seems to have worked. That takes my total to 11lbs, so I have another 6lbs to lose before Christmas, which is doable but we shall see, think it might be a bit of a stretch but I will give it a go.

Well done Shoe Gal on your tiling:j

:j:j:j well done you